Why do people say looks dont matter?

Question

i hate that people say looks dont matter yet why do 300 pound people get made fun of everday about their weight from others if looks dont matter? Or why do ugly people get talked about shes ugly? why cant people just say looks matter cause lieing to people to hurt them like when you see them and run on blind date hurts

Answer 1

ppl who love them wont care...hubby is chubby and adorable..

Answer 2

They just do it to be polite and not to upset people, but I agree, sometimes it can hurt if you know you're being lied to.

Answer 3

because they are trying to cover up the awful truth that looks happen to be everything in this world,,

and sadly almost everyone gets judged at some point in their lifee because of their lookss,,

the world could potentially be a better place if we just stop judging someone based off of their look and actually get to know the person,,

but that will never happenn,,

so just stay true to yourselff,,

cause thats the only thing that will make you real friends.

Answer 4

In the ultimate sense, looks don't matter. When you die, your body will be nothing but dust. The only beauty you'll have left is the beauty of your soul.

Answer 5

Some people really think that looks don't matter, if they've got their **** together and takes care of them, and can be a loving partner.

But as for what you're saying, it's true that we are a shallow group of people because most of the time, looks DO indeed matter!

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Answer 6

Look DOES matter!

HOWEVER... look is NOT all there is. I personally care about personality first, body later, but I will admit that if someone is just plain ugly, I just won't be attracted.

I have met a woman online, we have been talking for months, we have voice chatted, we have seen each others on the webcam.. she is 11 years older than me and weights 230 pounds (I weight 155 pounds). Many people would probably find her way too fat and ugly, but while she is indeed fat, she is far from being ugly, and she just has a wonderful personality, and I just couldn't help but fall for her.

I think the biggest problem is that people just generally don't take the time to get to know each others. We see many questions here that reflects just how little people even know from their own partner or friends. So in a society where people barely get to know their lover, you can imagine that many won't care to get to know that person out there that doesn't fit their beauty standards.

People pass on many opportunities to get to know great people, just because they have "standards". Pitty.

Answer 7

I think looks matter initially, if you are meeting someone. However, there have been many times when I have fallen for someone after I have gotten to know them better. Those are the best ones.  

Answer 8

Yes, looks matter.  I just have a different standard from many people.  My boyfriend wouldn't be considered a classic beauty by most of the world, but I love him just the way he is.

Answer 9

looks do matter, as human beings we make judgements about people within 5 seconds of seeing them even if we don't realise it.  

Answer 10

People tend to just repeat that recycled line that looks don't matter when in fact they themselves wouldn't be caught dead hand-in-hand with an overweight/'ugly' person.

I know I'm not perfect (far from it) and throughout my life, I've had even so-called 'friends' hurt me this way. They're all nice and supportive one-on-one but as soon as they run into old friends of theirs and their old friends ask them if I'm their boyfriend, they'd immediately make a disgusted look and whisper, "as if!" and I am RIGHT THERE.

I just don't care about people like that anymore and now keep more to myself and find it very hard to fully let someone in. Hope it'll change one day when I meet someone who'll love me completely for me and things start to look brighter.

Until then, I'll be fine alone...

Hope this helps.

Answer 11

good question. when looking for a boyfriend, i won't lie and say looks don't matter. he doesn't have to be a pretty-boy (especially since THEY have the most drama), but looks play a small role in my relationships and a major role in society. idk why...it's just the way it is and will always be.

Answer 12

People say that because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

~kisses~

Answer 13

For me, it really aren't the looks that attract me, it's the personality. I'd like to hang with a person who can make me laugh and can have fun with life itself. It doesn't matter if they are big and ugly, It's how they see themselves and the rest of everything that gets my attention.  

Answer 14

I know me 2 i mean come on be honest in my eye looks are not everything but they are something.

I think people should just keep their comments to themselves,

its just plain rude and is it really messin' with ur life that much if that girl/guy is "fat" or "ugly".

Answer 15

People make fun of others because it helps them feel better about their own shortcomings.  Pointing out someone elses "faults" will draw attention away from their own imperfections.      

Answer 16

They shouldn't matter, but they do.