Why do people think have a child at 17 is wild?

Question

I had asked before why I couldn't get pregnant if iam 17....iam a medical assistant and my bf went to job corp and is a welder and will soon work for that trade.....I get answer like your stupid or I have a disease...just cause iam 17?that is wrong....and my parent which is my mom is a wonderful parent she has no control of my mind and what I wanna do.....me wanting a child is nothing new in this world!

Answer 1

People "Think"- what they're GOING to. There's NOTHING we can do about it. So live your Life, mind your own Business, and go on Your Way...  :)

Answer 2

i think that its not wrong but its alot harder than u think. i am 19 and have a 10 month old . and got married at 8 months pregnant . you should enjoy being young once u have a child of ur own u cant just hand it over and leave and sleep all night you have to give up everything and sometimes do things but in the middle u may have to walk out for a screaming baby . maybe u should think about getting married and then a family . because its hard to start a life with some one and then throw in a baby its a struggle

Answer 3

It's not wild, but it's stupid.  You don't have a house of your own.  You're not even legally an adult yet.  Mommy (AKA Grandma) would be taking on a lot of the responsibility.  Oh, and then there's the boyfriend issue.  He's your boyfriend, not your husband.  You shouldn't be even thinking about having kids until you're married.

A baby is a human being and a lifelong responsibility.  It's not like a puppy, and it isn't a little accessory for you to dress in cute outfits and tote around like a toy.  Your questions practically screams, "I'm an immature kid and I don't have a clue what parenthood is all about!"

To have a child now would be extremely selfish.  Grow up a little before you try to get pregnant.

Answer 4

it not want u want or what u can get its how u can get it or take care of it i am 17 and have a 2 month old and let me tell u it is extremely hard u need to get ur life in order first before u bring someone else into this world...besides u only have a bf u never know what they will do once u become pregnant mine of four years said if i got pregnant he would take care of me and his son but where is he now no where to be seen and wont even speak his sons name...so make sure that this is someone i want to have a baby with and know for sure that no matter what he will be there for his kid...u need to go ahead and get ur self situated. get a house and a job that u know in the long run u wont loose make sure u can handle the bills plus a child before going off and having one they cost alot of money in the long run... please wait till u have things situated its extremely hard like i said even when u have help

Answer 5

Sorry, but you sound like a pouty little girl to me. It's all about YOU, You didn't say what your boyfriend thinks. Just that he's "soon getting a job".

Whose computer are you on right now? And don't tell me it's YOURS if your mom paid for the computer and still pays for the Internet. Whose house do you live in? Did you ever have to fully support yourself and pay all of your own bills? Unless you can do that, you shouldn't attempt to bring someone into this world. If your boyfriend runs, you're SOL, and then what? Wait, live, and check again in 3 years...

Oh, and start hanging out with girls your age who HAVE kids and actively parent them (the grandparents taking care of the kids doesn't count), maybe then you get a clue how life-changing it is.

Answer 6

it is wild.  you are too young

Answer 7

It's not wild. My brother's girlfriend is 17 and is 18 weeks pregnant with their first child. They are in a long term relationship, so it wasn't conceived by a one night stand, they are still together and my brother is working 84 hours a week to support them. What is wild about that then ? I have a lot of respect for both of them.

Answer 8

Well, your grasp of English is pretty tenuous, so I'd say for starters you should at least be educated before you spread your ignorance to a new generation.

Answer 9

I think the stereotype generally applied is that 17 year olds are innately selfish, are still in high school, and will have no time to go to college, therefore, no time to get a career that will support the child. You may be one of the few 17 year olds that actually has it together and is anything but selfish! My mother had me when she was 17 and I was raised by my grandparents. However, I got pregnant at 19 (only two years later) and have a beautiful daughter, am almost done with my B.A., and have a supportive husband that works incredibly hard! It just all depends on your situation and maturity level. If you actually have it together, then all the more power to you. I know a lot of women in their 30s that still work at the gas station and have several children. In my opinion having a child as a teenager is no worse than that.  

Answer 10

my best advice would be to wait a while. Being 17 I'll assume that your fresh out of high school? And just starting your job and life. So wait a little while be a kid, get married, get established. It will make it so much easier when you do have a child, and im sure you want to gie your child the best possible life you can.  

Answer 11

At 17, you're not an official adult. Most likely, if you do get pregnant, your boyfriend wouldn't support you fully, being that you should be married once you have a baby, and he's probably not going to wait a year to get married.You're ready to have a baby, but boys mature slower. They're going to want to date other women at 17, and being taken for the rest of his life probably isn't his idea just yet. It's very unlikely that your parents will want to you to have s*x anyway, you're only 17.

Answer 12

How you type makes me think you're still kind of immature. =/

Anyway, you're only seventeen years old.

Do you have the money for a child? The time for a child? The proper housing for a child? There's a crapload of questions that need to be said, but I don't quite know them all. >__>;

There's a difference between wanting a child and actually being able to care for it.

I am in no way saying you're not fit.

But for most 17 year olds - they only want a child because it's soooo cute. They don't see the big picture.

Answer 13

I think you should seriously consider getting married, getting real world experience by travelling, learning new languages and learning who you are before you have to raise a little one. Its not like you can go out all the time, you wont get a full nights rest and I bet in 5 years (which I know you can wait) you will be glad that you had time to enjoy your teenage years and find who your real friends are. I think this time in your life you should broaden your way of thinking, how about teaching english in a 3rd world country, or getting a college degree? how about hitting up the music scene and try to hit as many concerts you can hit in a year. Your free life will pretty much over for a good decade while you raise a little one.

Answer 14

b/c your 17 and a child. You would be a baby having a baby, not to say you wouldnt be a good mother that is just how society looks at this situation. In my opinion its best to wait and live your life first, all in all its up to you, its your life.

Answer 15

It is normal for women to want a baby, but what should happen is that the man they want to spend their life with, shows her how much he loves her by doing the following:-

marrying her

getting a home for her

making sure he can provide for any children they have

They also have to know that they have the life experience, the patience and the maturity to be good parents before they bring a new life into this world.

It is not that you CAN'T have a child at 17, but SHOULD you have a child at that age.

I was met my husband when I was 16 and he was 19, we got married when we were 18 & 21, but waited to start our family until I was 21 and he was 24 and had a good education and a great job.

Answer 16

LIAR....no way are you a medical assistant at 17! You see? Your too young, wait atleast 3 years more...trust me.

Answer 17

It's not wild, it's immature at your age.  Unfortunately, you're brain isn't through developing - no teenager's is.  The fact that you've asked this question is proof.

Before you have your own baby, try babysitting a young baby.  You have no clue what demands are placed on you 24/7 for the next 18 years.  There are no breaks, no vacations, no time for yourself or what you want, no time to spend with your friends, no parties, you have to devote yourself to the child and always put the child's needs ahead of your own.

Do you keep the house you're living in clean without being asked?

Do you do the planning, shopping, cook meals and do all the clean up?

Do you have an education?  If so, are your grades A's and B's?

Do you have a good relationship with your parents, his parents and your siblings?  Family will be especially important, as you want your child to have love and support from extended family members.

Do you support yourself financially?  That means you pay rent and utilities, have a decent car and insurance on it, you have good health insurance, and you don't have to ask anyone for money.

Sorry, but you're just way, way too immature.  You need to experience more of life.  Do some traveling.  Date some other guys.  Have some fun.  Get a career going.

Answer 18

but if you are willing to take care of him or her for the rest of your life or until he's or she's 18 and smart enough to live on there own go ahead and plus it's hard to get a job if you have one now I'm 21 I know what I saying

Answer 19

Why don't you want to live life more? Seriously you are going to miss out on so much. have fun with your man, go on trips, celebrate your 21st b-day at the bar not at home changing a dirty diaper. You are really going to regret it.  

Answer 20

i had my first when i was 17.

having the baby was wonderful and i don't regret my daughter but it was hard.

and i stayed with the father for many years.only because of her.

i am now going throw a divorce at 25.

what i am trying to say is your still young and in 10 years you will think differently.i no i do.

i wish i had of listened to my mother a little bit more.i think that i would be a lot happier now if i head of.

Answer 21

at 17 you think that you are an adult and you can make your own decisions in life because this is your life now and you want to live it they way you want and not to be told by anyone what you can and cant do. but when you have a baby they tell you what you can and cant do they tell you when you can wake up when you can sleep when you can shower when you have to go home they spend all your money like nappies clothes formula and there is no more sleepins no more days off or weekends or holidays they tell you what to do every minute of the day and people think that at 17 u can have another 17yrs of you life before you give it up on having a baby really think about it  

Answer 22

They think its crazy because some people are so set in their ways.  Evryone is different.  I was 17 when i got pregnant and i had my daughter right after my 18th birthday.  I am not in college and i dont depend on anyone.  Im not telling you to go out and get pregnant but if you can support yourself anf you and your b/f are commited and making good money...then why shouldnt you?...17 is alot different then 12 or 13

Answer 23

I want a child too but I know better then to get pregnant because I know that I have no financial aid, I can't emotionally take care of one, and I have dreams after high school