Why do people think that people who want to wait until marriage attach their self-worth to their virginity?

Question

I don't think I would be "worth" less if I did have s*x before marriage but i DON'T want to.

Answer 1

Self worth comes from who you are as a person.  Holding on to virginity until marriage was born in other cultures as they see women as pure if they are virgins.  However, they may not be pure of mind.

Answer 2

Maybe it isn't so much about their worth tied to actual virginity but if a woman sees her power attached to her sexuality then her worth is also part of that. Sadly,sexuality/ female power/ sense of worth have been used as a commodity throughout history.

Answer 3

It's not the virginity itself that determines the worth of a woman, it's the virtues that go in to the choice of keeping celibate.  People who wait until marriage are not attaching their self-worth to their virginity, they are attaching their self-respect to their virginity and frankly, one cannot be criticized for this choice.

Answer 4

Maybe they are just afraid that you might attach your self-worth to your virginity.  They probably don't think that you do.

Answer 5

I don't think that, but I agree with you.

Your  sexual habits shouldn't determine what you're worth.

Answer 6

I don't care what you do with your virginity. I don't look down on you. I'm not proud of you. I don't envy you. I doubt anyone else is any more invested than I am.

Why do the people who 'wait' seem to relish looking down on those who don't? How very elitist. "I just want everyone to know I'm still a virgin! Hey, did you know I'm a virgin? GUESS WHAT I DIDN'T DO!! <mutters under breath> God, I'm so much better than all these s***s!"

I'd have been more verbose before you had a hissy fit at Mo. Very much unwarranted. Also, watch the ad hominem attacks, they really make your argument sparkle like mud.

Answer 7

You are absolutely fixated on this subject.

Obviously, you have "issues" of some sort.

As we've told you a thousand times, what you do with your virginity is your business.  But that's never enough.  The issues continue to re-surface.

Please discuss them with a qualified therapist in an effort to find resolution.

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Answer 9

Maybe they're making a straw man argument.

You say I don't want s*x before marriage. Their response: why should you value your virginity so highly. They basically misinterpret your statement so they can more easily understand what they think you're saying then try to refute it