Why do people think that those who are unsociable are rude?

Question

I have extreme social anxiety, but people automatically think that I'm rude or stuck up because I don't really talk. Why is that?

Answer 1

Yes, Marlene Dietrich had this exact problem. It is wrong to think that you are rude. /

Answer 2

well because when ppl that are used to being talked to usually think that it is weird when some one doesn't come up and speak to them. but i can't quite understand why you would have to tell the person that you are shy.i dont think that it is a matter that they think you are mean or stuck up, i think its that they might be mad that you wont talk to them. eventually i think that you will get used to speaking to ppl that you do not know. but at the moment i say take it slow and try speaking to a new kid in the class or on the 2nd week of school try and find a lab partner(if your teacher hasn't already) in that AP Biology class.

Answer 3

Why the h**l must a person tell you that they are shy. If a person is not social...then just leave them the P***k alone. You dont know what is wrong with them and you dont need to figure it out...........

If a person speads rumors about you being rude, without even knowing you, that person has a serious problem. You are not the one to worry. Dumb B**ch above,  read my answer carefully..

You idiot donkey's butt, you can not go around prejudging people and mistreating them just because they are not as social as you want them to be. I hate people like you. It is a shame, you are probably the one who goes around spreading rumors about people, calling them stuck up behind their backs and shh.  That wont do anything but make these people more introverted. Do you know the difference between rude and a person who is not very social. No you do not. Most people with their small az brains, believe that a person who is not very  talkative is aloof or stuck up, when that may not even be the case. The girl has a social anxiety...Poor shy folks, this is what you have to deal with. Azz for brains like ms opinionated.

Mz. Opinionative..Do you realize you just wrote a whole book...Bahahahahahaaa. Stop racking your brain over this

Answer 4

I'm social, but you shy people could at least tell us you're shy first. It kind of seems like you're trying to brush us off. Mostly, I can SEE shyness, but not always.

To eff_u: I could tell your answer  was aimed towards me so let me explain. No one should have to explain they're shy if they don't want to, you're correct, but if the shy person doesn't want to be mistaken as a rude person, she should say something like, "Sorry, I don't want to seem rude or anything, but I'm not a very outgoing person" or something like that. It's better than having the other person spread rumors and c**p about you being 'rude' when you just aren't talkative. Then, check this out, how are you going to combat those rumors when you're shy? It's going to be a difficult task, so I recommend, let someone know before the situation gets worse. And you said, "If a person is not social, then leave them the P***k alone?" Girl, put it this way, the person wouldn't KNOW that she's not social when first meeting, and the person OBVIOUSLY doesn't know the girl is shy regardless because she's mistaken for being rude. Open your mind.

To eff_u: (again) It doesn't matter if the person has a serious problem. You can't predict people's personalties, so that's why you have to be prepared for anything. If shy, at least give someone a clue. When someone is rude, a lot of emotions are born, like for example, people probably want to hit that person, cry, or etc, but most likely, their going to tell their friends, "Don't talk to that girl, she's mean." Then, after that, rumors would spread, which are false. Okay, and now you're calling me a dumb *****, so it's now easy to acknowledge you and your argument are insufficient. Seriously, you don't have to get mad about it, but do as you please. You're racking your own brain.

To eff_u: (again) What the P***k kind of world do you live in because I'm sure it's not Earth? If you stay in America, you'd know, this is a free country, people can say what they please. THEREFORE, if you don't want to get OFFENDED by what the 1st amendment allows them to say, you verbally defend yourself by telling the stranger you're shy if you're mistaken for being rude. Now, you really seem unintelligent, as you're telling me not to prejudge people, but then, you're assuming I'M the one that starts the rumors. How hypocritical. I never said I WANT them to be social in a way either. Learn to read, it isn't difficult. And then you're saying I don't know  what's the difference between a rude and shy person. Ho, you don't KNOW me at all, so you're wrong. I just explained, a person would assume a shy person is rude when they're barely talking to her, and the outgoing person would assume she's being brushed off. That's when the shy girl should make her move and tell her she's shy so there would be no hard feelings. I love shy people. It's a cute look to me, especially on guys. I'm NOT the one who starts the rumors; I actually love the shyness trait. I'm only saying I KNOW people who would do that. I respect shy people, no lie, but if I, as in MYSELF, was shy and a stranger mistook me for someone rude, I'd tell, "I'm sorry, I'm just not talkative." I'm not what a shy person has to deal with, I'm only trying to help this girl. Oh yeah, I find it funny how you're calling me those names what little kids would say. It shows YOU'RE unintelligent, not me. Also, before you say I'm dumb, please, fix your grammar. EW!

To eff_u: (again) Yes, I noticed I wrote a lot. However, if you were smart enough to understand what I was saying, it would have been a lot less. By the way, I'm not racking my brain, I seriously LOVE debating. It's a part of my lifestyle. Also, the fake "Bhahahahaha" doesn't hide the fact I hurt your feelings, it only makes it worse. Seriously, you're pathetic.

Joker1992, I'm sure things could be easier for you when talking. Just take my advice, and seriously, people wouldn't mistake you as being rude anymore. ^___^

Answer 5

im unsociable too it leads me to be a lil flaky at times because i cant stand big groups or being around someone for too long

some people may take that as rude because they take it as they're being brushed off when 90% of the time you had a good but anxiety filled time