Why do people think the grass is greener?

Question

Dont they realize even if the grass is greener the lawn still needs to be cut. Every relationship need maintenence. So why do people leave? I read these post of women losing interest in their husbands while they work and stuff and husbands cheating. Do people get bored or something? Does boredom rule marriages this day and age? Why dont people ever want to make it stronger?

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Answer 1

Yes, people get bored. I can't last longer than two years in a relationship, before I have to move on. Not necessarily to another 'lawn', but just to take time out for me. It gets tiring always having to take another person's feelings and wishes into account. It takes work. Some people are cut out for marriage, some people are not. That's just the way it is. In the olden days people stayed together because of the social stigma that came with divorce, that doesn't mean they were any happier for it. Nowadays it's just easier to move on, so we see it more often. I read an interesting piece of info the other day. 90% of birds mate for life, but only 3% of mammals do. We are mammals!  

Answer 2

It's easier to let things go to h**l rather then work on them.  The other problem though is that we live in a society that supports divorce and accepts it.

I am married and I have told my wife that I have made up my mind that we are never going to get a divorce.  No matter how bad it gets divorce is not in the equation.  And that is just the way it is.  But my wife also has that mind set.   A lot of women are initiating divorces also, so it's not just the men either.

Answer 3

There are a lot of people in this world who are afraid of commitment so once things start to become less "Honeymoon like" they leave. I totally feel ya and where you are coming from. Don't worry. There are lots of good people out there.....And the next time you meet someone tell them that you have a lawn mower and you aren't afraid to use it. I said that to my fiance... And I still have him!

Answer 4

We live in a world of immediate gratification, cheap and easy everything, and when it comes to relationships, people do what is easiest.  Boredom is just an explanation for something that is not happening, often marriage and love IS boring.  Expecting something, anything exciting to happen is a trap that people fall into and when life doesn't meet these expectations,  it is blamed on the other person for not fulfilling this.  People also give up way, way too easily.

Answer 5

They only want to cut the grass once on each lawn.

Answer 6

Because they are not using their minds and are thinking with other things that can't be mentioned here and that's where they go wrong.

Answer 7

I think that many of times it comes from one side not receiving what they need. Sometimes, after we get married, we are all into the one we married, and it is not that we get bored, it is that the other person fails to realize that there is something their spouse still needs. The spouse in need continues to cry out and the spouse who is "okay" or fulfilled is in "lala" land and cannot see or hear the cries. NOW, here is the big hit: Once the one who is crying out says, "It is done. I want out." the one in "lala" land comes to EARTH! Begging and pleading for them to stay, making promises, saying they see EVERYTHING and the whole nine or ninety nine yards. Why did they not see that before the cries became whimpers and out of breath attempts at restoring the marriage? They had blinders on and we have forces of evil trying to rule out every marriage on this earth and create division and confusion. The bible says that God is not the author of confusion, and that God hates divorce. There is no logical explanation of this. It comes with the territory sometimes. I have not stepped out on my husband, but I have come within a fingertip of doing so. I do love him, but I need love that he was not willing to give me until I told him, "I cannot sit here and lose my breath crying out to you 'LOVE ME, LOVE ME' and you are just sitting here acting like I am happy. I am NOT happy." Then is when he began saying he would do better, he would get us into marriage counseling at our church, he wants me to stay and he wants to love me the way I need to be loved. He has already pushed me to a point that I feel like I am not ready to come back from. What if there is someone who says to me, "I can give you all that you need." And they do it, seriously, they do all that my husband is not, and I fall in love. Then what? I deny my feelings for the husband who only saw what I needed once I felt like I was through? Or do I deny myself what I feel like I need and DEFINITELY want, just to return to a marriage that I feel like is going to get back on the rocks at some time and I will be back at this point and worse at some time in my life? I know what I am talking about, and other Yahoo!Answerers give me some peace of mind, especially if you know the word of God. I need help as well, but I am trying to explain why some marriages go off the deep end because mine was almost headed there as well and right now, I do not know if I can handle the stress. Help someone, somewhere. Send me an email with an answer, or advice, please.

Thank you.

Answer 8

Would you work on the same old car every day just to drive a couple blocks?  And relationships may need maintenance, but just enjoying life does not.  Unless you have some internal issues where you need another person to complete you and all that other Dr Phil c**p, then get your own place, decorate it how YOU want and enjoy your life.  No one to say they hate your friends, you can have all the friends you want!  Single life is great, and if you are single and sitting at home lonely, its because you are a social r****d.

I don't mean an old GTO, I'm talking about an old Yugo, with a rusted out body, and makes a lot of noise.  And there you are...........working away, every night, some wire here, some bondo there.  Instead of just moving on, you keep working on that same old piece of c**p when you could be just getting in a new car, turning the key and on your way!!!!

Women are very much like cars because it's always better to lease than to buy.  You always have the newest model!

Answer 9

because someone is tugging at their heartstrings, making all kinds of promises,making that person feel really special, some people give up easily on what doesn't work, but what they don't realize is that there will be the same problems in the new relationship as they had before, once this thing they call the honeymoon stage ends and reality sets in.

Answer 10

No people don't get bored. People are selfish. Do you really think the people that say I am not happy anymore in my marriage have even stopped to think what their spouse or children might think. People don't know the meaning of Love anymore. Christ died on the cross for us, that is Love. If your children screwed up or got in trouble would you throw them out, No because you love them.  It is a mean, selfish, world we live in today and people are so stupid they just let it suck them in!   Most people marry today thinking well if I am not happy I will get a divorce.  Such a selfish world!

Answer 11

people get bored of each other from living  together so long...  

Answer 12

Where in a microwave generation people are fcuked up they dont want to work out there differences.  Divorce is the EZ way out for some.

Answer 13

After the initial excitement of being with someone, and their with each other pretty much 24 hours a day, they begin to see each other for what they really are. Some don't like what they see, so they drift apart and move on. Others try and stick together and work it out, but even that's not guaranteed to work out.

It's hard to explain, but sometimes you can feel if something's worth fighting for or just moving on.

Answer 14

First off, people are brought up in many different ways. Some people grow up seeing that their parents have each divorced five times and can't find someone they are "suited to". Some people are social butterflies who flit around, but never land anywhere for long and start to live for the moment rather than live for the future. Some people have too much trouble connecting to others. And some people change too much while they're in a relationship and decide that they are just too different to make things work. People have a lot of reasons for cheating and/or leaving, and many others cannot seem to comprehend it. Everybody's got their own personal reasons.

Another fact is that humans were not "designed" for monogamy. If you believe in God, then there was always meant to be temptation you had to resist. If you don't believe in God, then - like other animals - humans were "designed" only for reproduction, and the fact that we can express and understand ourselves better than other animals complicates the fact and makes it into something it should never have been. I think that humans and dolphins are the only beings that can enjoy s*x or something, so s*x is obviously a big factor in this. But for the most part, it's the psychological thing.

Anyways, I hope this has helped in some way.

Answer 15

funny that you should ask this, a number of years ago when I left my husband someone made that very same quote to me. I felt it a very unfair comment as I hadn't left to find any one I left to find peace and harmony and direction, all I will say on the matter is know one knows what goes on behind closed doors and hence I don't choose to make comment or judgment on other peoples personal choices.

Answer 16

we live in  disposable society, it seems simpler to throw it away and get a new one then to fix it.

many people dont know how to work on a marriage