Why do people think they can go around saying waiting until marriage is stupid, a bad idea, etc? I see it on?

Question

TV, on different shows with various people commenting on sexual practices. Someone always has to say that waiting until marriage to have s*x is antiquated, no one does, just plain stupid. Meanwhile, TV almost glorifies everyone who sleeps around men AND women. I just don't get it.

Answer 1

I wouldn't wait until marriage, just because I don't want to get married and I like s*x too much. But if you want to, I have no problem with you.

Answer 2

Ok.  So what if you die tommorow and have missed every oppurtunity to have s*x?  Ever think of that?  That's why a chaste lifestyle doesn't appeal to a lot of people.  Do what floats your boat, but try and understand that a repressive lifestyle like that isn't desirable for the rest of us.

Edit-  I owe you an apology.  I've got no business making fun of your lifestyle choices.  As I've stated in the past I believe virginity is only as useful as it's function.  If a young lady is abstaining in order to avoid pregnancy while in college or to avoid std's that to me makes sense.  What I have a problem with is women who attach their self-worth and self-esteem to their virginity.  It shouldn't be any less acceptable for a woman to enjoy pre-marital s*x than it is for me.

Answer 3

Some people have strong views on s*x outside marriage, and if you are one of those then you should certainly stick to your goal of waiting until marriage.  You're not going to get any pleasure out of s*x if you think it is wrong.

The double standard still exists to a certain extent, that is there seem to be men around (judging by what I've read on here) who think that it's okay for men to be sexually active, but not women.  So if you require that the man who marries you also be a virgin, you will need to make inquiries.

I don't think it is necessary to have 'experimented' on others in order to be able to satisfy your partner sexually.  People who wait until marriage don't seem to have any problem with this.  I think experience is probably overrated, I think instincts probably tell people what to do to a certain extent.  Plus people can always read up on the theory before marriage.

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert were both virgins when they married, for instance, and they seem to have managed to get on quite satisfactorily.  Queen Victoria wrote in her diary the day after their wedding night: "When day dawned (for we did not sleep much) and I beheld that beautiful angelic face by my side, it was more than I can express!  He does look so beautiful in his shirt only, with his beautiful throat seen...never did I think I could be so loved."

Answer 4

Because most things in life are a double standard, I'm waiting til marriage but I don't care what anyone says about it, it's my choice not theirs.

Answer 5

you need to get laid

j/k

Answer 6

I think you may regret waiting until marriage. When you're single, educated, in your early 20's, baggage free, living in the city..why not date and enjoy the company of gentlement? You may especially regret it if you get divorced. As a woman, I do not want to be valued for an intact hymen, that is objectification. But it's your life..

Answer 7

there trying to guilt men into marrying because feminist's are getting scared they wont have anyone to blame and wont be able to destroy men's lives in divorce and they cant brainwash kidnap kids that aren't born(if the guy is ultra careful).

   But they glorify promiscuous behavior because it means more kids=more child support= more money for feminists and the government.

Answer 8

You have a point there; do what you want.  It's a free country...well used to be.

Answer 9

I reckon if you really want to please your future life partner you would have learned how to sexually satisfy them by "experimenting" on others.

But yea fully your choice eh

Answer 10

Most people don't follow those kind of traditions and soceity kind f makes s*x seem like a leisuire activity or fashion statement.

I find the same thing with marriage here in the UK. When I got married at 18 I got sick and tired of the amouts of people that said it was such a wierd and boring idea, don't you want to 'have fun?'

So whatever isn't fashiojnable or the norm anymore, people judge.

Answer 11

I don't think it's dumb at all. I don't like being judged for my sexual habits, so I won't judge you for waiting until mariage.

As long as you aren't causing harm to anyone or having s*x with minors, I don't care what you or what you don't do in the bedroom.

Answer 12

s*x isnt a big deal anymore....casual is ok. Its not about love and emotion is about pleasure and having fun. So as long as you protect yourself. who cares?

Answer 13

It’s all relative; there’s always difference in opinion. I see marriage as baroque and unnecessary. I believe a union between two people doesn’t just have to consist of one day of celebration; it should be every day.

But I respect people who have the desire to get married; I just personally don’t understand marriage. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, I think we will be together forever. I waited for the right man, I found him and we promised each other; no-one else.

I don’t think we need to bind our love in a passe tradition; love isn’t just about a piece of paper and a ring.

Answer 14

I'm waiting until marriage also. I'm 21 and still a virgin. Right now I have other things that are more important than s*x. Such as finishing college and getting a good career. Having s*x just doesn't seem to be important to me as of right now. And I do read my Bible but not as often as I should, that's another reason why I'm waiting till marriage. Also I know many girls that had to put their life on hold, drop out of school and raise a baby that was not planned because they thought they were in love. You make the bed you sleep in, is what I always say.

Answer 15

Some people don't marry - what about them?

Also, you have posited two extremes in your illustrations: "Yes, with everybody" and "No, with no one". Most ordinary, everyday people fall somewhere in the the middle.

Answer 16

Yea me either, i guess they just don't read the Bible or something.

But i think it's wrong and i don't wanna have s*x til' I'm married and i really hope i accomplish that : ]

Answer 17

It's always in the best interest of the woman to wait until marriage.

I'm waiting.

Answer 18

The studies show that couples that live together before marriage have a lower divorce rate.

I go with whatever works.

Answer 19

It's a personal choice. Not good or bad, just personal. Do what you are comfortable with.

Answer 20

It's not a bad idea - to each their own.

But the people do make a decent point - practically no one waits any more. They say it's "stupid" because marriage to the wrong person could result in you never truly having a special sexual connection with someone - you could end up with someone simply not compatible with you, and have a so-so s*x life as opposed to a great one.

What they're saying is that if you test drive the car, you'll know how it drives for you compared to the other ones. If you love the way the car drives, you'll know that you're getting the best value. If you've never driven any other car, would it leave you wondering how other cars drive? The counter argument of course is that you'd be satisfied with how the car drives because you never would know any differently.

Personally, I don't think it's a good practice to sleep around loosely, but I definitely didn't wait for marriage either. I waited until I was in a relationship with someone I really cared for, and although I had a few one nighters here or there, I made sure I didn't cross the line into sleeping around (by my opinion). When I look at a girl as having potential for a relationship, how much I think she may have slept around factors in - I wouldn't want to date someone who was all over the place with everyone. I'd rather her be like myself - for the most part only having s*x with people who mean something to her.

If a girl wanted to wait until marriage, I'm not sure how I'd feel about it. I'd have to have a really, really deep emotional connection to her in order to stick it out with her. If a couple wants to do that, theres no reason to ridicule them or anything, but I don't necessarily agree with them. To each their own.

Answer 21

Might I recommend that you review the 1st Amendment of the U.S. Constituition.  Last I heard freedom of speech was still protected.  Typically, though, one never really knows from hour to hour which of our civil liberties have been shut done during Republican / Conservative administrations / plunder-fests.  I'm still reeling from the The Patriot Act.  So, who knows.  Maybe Republican / Conservatives have decided to "protect" us from evil terrorists by issuing some moratorium on our freedom of speech, too. lol.