Why do people use the "what about PROM??" question?

Question

Why do people use this as a reason why kids should not be homeschooled? I mean, are you KIDDING, right? PROM? THAT is the most valid thing you can come up with for why a child should be in public school? A DANCE?.....vs. better education, better self-image, less peer pressure, etc. Your best argument is PROM? I mean, kudos to those who have valid educational concerns......but to those whose first question about homeschool is prom...it shows a lot about where values lie, don't you think?

Not to mention, homeschoolers have their own proms.....

Answer 1

My boss got made pregnant on her prom night.

That's what some will miss.

The prom is just a dance.

Anyone can go to Disneyland any time they want if it's close.

Any girl can get pregnant any time she wants, it doesn't have to be a prom.

It's a mythological event designed to make magic.

You can do magic any place and any time you want.

Answer 2

1. Proms aren't important when you consider the destiny of the world in academics.

2. Social life means you hang out with your parents and siblings with some friends on the side. It does not mean with peers strictly. When you make friends with people of all different ages from 9 to 90, you strengthen your social abilities. Home life is the best for social life. Examples are:

a. If you helped bring up your sibling, you know the fundamentals of child rearing, therefore making it possible in the future to discipline your own children in like manner. Stable families are healthy for countries.

b. If you talked with your parents you just practiced social skills with adults.

To me "teenager" is a word invented by popular culture in order to staunch mental growth. Though that is somewhat beside the point, I had to say it.

Homeschooling is great. It is not just for introverts. It encourages self-study and independence. It also opens up the mind to more things, and invites creativity. No being held back and no being stuck in the "teenager" column. You are free to persue your dreams to the fullest.

As for college...well...by the time it is all said and done, we'll be able to see things from many points of view and make wise decisions like mature adults.

Answer 3

Prom?

Honestly, I have friends who are home-schooled and they've never asked that so I'm not sure if everyone is asked that.

Sure, homeschool may be better, but not to everyone. It'll take some time to adjust to college if you're homeschooled and what about your social life?And I wouldn't say being homeschooled gives you a better self-image.

Answer 4

I don't find your question condescending at all. I feel it accurately reflects a true, "Why?????" If it is condescending, it's certainly not as condescending as those who come in here saying that homeschooling is a terrible thing to do to your child and it's tantamount to child abuse. {rolling eyes} Or like Douglas (Mr. Z) who always has something very obnoxious and judgemental to say, or that other lady, can't come up with her name, who is downright rude when she shows herself in here.

In any case, I totally agree with you. I can't believe how glorified the prom is. We don't have proms here. We have graduation and grad dance, which may or may not be the same as prom, but it's still not quite as glorified as the prom is. I do not understand why in our 70-some years of life, the prom is supposed to be this glorious, not-to-be-missed social experience. Why? Should we pity all those people born before the 1900s who never got to experience prom?

And here we can analytically come to the heart of the matter: The whole *proper* focus is gone. Were graduation celebrations, when they first started, about the pride in graduating or were they about the party and social opportunity? They were about the graduation itself. Proms aren't really about graduation: they are about the social aspect, with graduation on the side. Sure, some lament not having "walked" with their class, but that's still not about missing out on graduating (you graduate whether or not you go to prom) but missing out on doing what others have done, as though your life experience is somehow inferior because you didn't do the same; it's sense of having been left out, not having missed out on something truly important. For most, though, it's all about the partying. It's just a prelude to what many will do for partying in college. Not exactly mature behaviour with self-pride and a sense of integrity and dignity.

So, why do they ask "What about prom?", they are lost in the whole school social order of not being different, not being left out, of having grown up with a sense that the prom is the end-all of school, meaning if you've missed it, you've really missed out on something important. They've never questioned if it's really important or not, or why people think it's important, and are just going along with what they've been socialized to do.

Answer 5

Why do homeschooling people have to be so condescending when people ask questions?

I have asked a few questions about homeschooling on here because it interests me, and its not that widely know in Australia.

All I get is its better than this, its better than that, my child can do this my child can do that...............every answer I get is so defensive.

I realise that people have choices, but asking a question is simply that ............a question?

Update*..............the thumbs down thing is exactly what I mean? .....Did I personally attack anyone? .........no .............I was asking a question??