Why do people who have been married many times put the blame on their ex partners?

Question

My sister 2 months ago married for the 9th time. She is now getting yet another divorce. Once the guys find out what she is like they run screaming from her. Yet she insists it is them not her.

Answer 1

It is possible that she has some kind of psychological disorder.  Maybe bipolar or something more serious.  I trust my common sense and I look at someone objectively.  If the actions they take appear to be "broken" and don't make any sense then I suspect something is really wrong and they need professional help.    

Answer 2

It's always easier to blame other people.  For women especially its easy to use the "all men are dogs" line.  Maybe if they quit hanging out at the dog pound they wouldn't keep picking up dogs?

Answer 3

DENIAL.

Answer 4

Denial that they are the one with the problem.

It is self reelection in a way.

1 teaspoon of the ex

and

4 tablespoons of them

Personally I would not married a divorce woman unless I was divorced myself.

If she had more divorces than me then I might as well move on or stay single lol

Just me

Answer 5

How dumb does a man have to be to marry a woman who has been married 8 times before??? If she thinks its the men, then they are both idiots.  

Answer 6

It is so much easier on the person to point the finger at someone else than to have to admit that you have caused 9 guys to go running . So your sister does not want to look at the possibility it might be her when she can point the finger at all the men that ran

Answer 7

"Once the guys find out what she is like they run screaming from her." So what she is like?

Is there any different between fall out of love 9times and divorce 9rimes? To me, it makes no different because both type of relationship involve the same intimacy thingy.

Answer 8

obviously your sister has a problem being committed to someone, and cant face it...Yep Denial 100%

Answer 9

it hurts too much to change herself so she puts the blame on others.

but that's her life and she needs to live it.

you learn from watching her so you dont do the things she does.  you'll have a better relationship with guys, and just know that she will be envious of you.

Answer 10

Unless the 9th guy didn't know there was 8 of 'em before him, if he knew, then he's just the 9th dumb guy.

Your sister should seek counseling to see why this is, perhaps she has the knack of picking the wrong guy every time due to insecurities or something.  A lot of woman pick the wrong guy.

Answer 11

Because these are the same kind of people that always feel they are never at fault for anything. I don't know if this comes from childhood or just being naturally selfish.

Answer 12

poor her .