Why do piano teachers act rude and disrespectful and hit students ? or issit only my teacher?

Question

I made a few slips in playing and She started shouting and screaming for 35 minutes non stop. I am not a bad student but it was not my day.But there are other ways to teach students to understand and play correctly right?She even hit me hard twice!

When my mother confronted her she just had the nerve to say I do not like to be corrected!

I really hate her teaching methods but I really love piano and I really need to pass my exam.

She was yelling at me with so much intensity and hatred until my fingers got numb and I started crying.I couldnt even understand what was she saying anymore. She kept yelling I was playing was wrong and kept shouting like a pariah b***

I am so angry and I plan to skip classes for at least 2 weeks!Am i right to believe that her teaching methods are wrong, and she just yelled because she doesnt know her job better ?

What she did was unprofessional and immature.

Punitive teaching methods- How far shud one go?

ps.. she s an unmarried old maid.

Answer 1

Wow.    Whole lot wrong with what you are saying.   Tell someone.   Keep telling until someone listens.   Get another teacher.    I teach piano and third grade during the day.   I have a lot of stressful students but I would never do what you have described.   This is not only inexcusable, it is against the law.

Answer 2

Tell your dad that your piano teacher is being rude to you and that she hit you hard twice because you just made one mistake  and maby  you should ask your dad if you can have  another piano teacher.Teachers are not allowed to hit students even if they are angry.I think she is an old wicked witch.

Answer 3

Not all piano teachers are like that. Mine doesn't scold or yell, he will just speak in a sterner tone when I don't practice enough. And even then it's very seldom that he would raise his voice. Most teachers are like mine (at least, the decent ones are like that), it's only to what extent their patience can be stretched, and maybe how they're feeling that day. "Not my day" is reasonable once in a while, but it should only be in vocal lessons that there's a more noticeable drop in standard - since your body is the instrument. For other instruments, it shouldn't be a huge drop (not saying that this is your case). My piano teacher once told a student that, as a performer, no one should know that it's 'not your day' when you play - even if you've just broken up with a boyfriend/girlfriend, had a grandparent pass away, etc. It shouldn't show in your playing. The audience doesn't need to know about it. It sounds cruel and heartless, I know, but for performers, it's learning to keep private emotions separate from work.

Your teacher shouldn't have done what she did. Maybe you should tell her nicely that it wasn't your day, and you didn't mean to make those mistakes. I know where you're coming from because I've been there (not my teacher, but my own 'bad days'). Although, it also depends on how long she's been trying to correct these mistakes. If she's been trying to get you to play correctly for weeks and yet you still play it wrongly, then I can understand her anger. However it's still wrong of her to hit you. If it's only for that day, then no she shouldn't have shouted or screamed, much less hit you. I do not know which case it is, so I won't lean toward any conclusion. For all you know, maybe she was just PMS-ing or just had a bad day, like you.

Yes it's perfectly justifiable for you to be angry at your teacher, but skipping lessons won't do you any good, would it? Especially when you've an exam coming up. You can change teacher right after the exam, but for now, you'll just have to live with it a little longer. It's not a nice feeling, but there's really nothing else you can do. At least you love the instrument. I've seen too many children who hate it but are forced by their parents to learn. The result is not pretty at all. The teacher tears his/her hair out because of frustration at a student who honestly can't care less; and the student sees lessons as 'torture sessions'. If it gets to that, then I really think there's no point in continuing. But this is not your case. You like the instrument, you just don't like the teacher. It would be over in a few months. Keep up the progress, and I'm sure you'll be fine for the exam.

Answer 4

Find another teacher.