Why do ppl think shy ppl are snobs??

Question

im really shy, i have been my whole life, because of past experiences, i got picked on alot because of it...why cant ppl accept that shy ppl are who they are, and stop saying that they are snobs...in 7th grade i heard that one girl hated me because i didnt talk to her, wtf, does that mean she hates mute ppl too??? i was so shy one girl even thought that i was mute....im going into high school, and i know that ppl are gonnagive me c**p, so should i try to just overcome it??

Answer 1

you're anything but snobbish if you're shy. the people that talk too much are snobbish. people would think the same way of me when we had to get into partners or groups and i wouldnt move; i'd wait for someone to come to me or the teacher to tell me theres an odd number of kids and i had to work alone. i had a rough past too and it makes me back away from people, but i don't think i'm too good to talk to anyone. i bet you feel the same way..

Answer 2

Hi there:  I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you.  I am in my sixties now and still shy.  This has been a life long problem.  I find that many people are "looking" for negative traits in others and many times they will interpret shyness as being s****. and uppity.  Most times when I am accused of being unfriendly, it is "extroverted" people who are doing the accusing.  These people are quick to make decisions and judge others because they don't have any understanding of people that are different than themselves.

It is always difficult for me to strike up a conversation with people that I don't know.  

The best advice I was ever given was "SMILE".  A smile goes a long way.

I find that this works better than anything when you don't have words to say.  A smile demonstrates acceptance of others and "they" will accept you.  A face without a smile is sometimes interpreted as "grumpy or miserable".  

Answer 3

no, they just think shy and quite people as easy prey. when they need social leverage...they will use you!

hang out with a crowd with the same interest as you, dont even try to "fit in". if not possible, being alone is better than being a groupie to some attention hungry m**o

Answer 4

I'm really shy too, and people thought that I was uptight or whatever. My suggestion is that when someone talks to you, answer them as friendly as possible, because then they can't really come to the conclusion that you are a snob, just that you are shy. It worked for me!

Answer 5

Ppl? Do you mean 'people'? If you want people to take the time to read and respond to your post, you should at least have the courtesy to spell it out properly for them.

But to your question - it is often very hard to differentiate between a shy person and an antisocial person. I will always try hard to initiate conversations with people I perceieve to be shy, but not everybody will do that. I would ignore her, because she's clearly not bothered with trying to communicate with you, so why should you lose sleep over it?

You don't need to be super confident - just work on talking to people and involving yourself with them and you should be just fine.

Answer 6

I wish you all the best of luck and if you do overcome it please let me know how you did it!!

I have exactly the same problem.  There was a group of girls who didn't like me because I was nice and quiet!!

If you think you can overcome it, it will be the best this you ever did in your life!!