Why do "friends" act this way?

Question

I had this friend, she was considered my best friend because you know we hung out every weekend all weekend, almost. We always were together. Later on, I joined a crew team, and I made an effort to invite her to a meet we had, but she didnt want to get up so early. She started making these other friends, ones that weren't the best...and sooner or later, I had to do back flips just to hang out with her, it never happened though. Its the end of the summer, and we haven't hung out since march. Some of her friends have come in gone, but they are all into drinking and smoking and other things. She also has this boyfriend, whom has taken something from her. Anyways, I bitched her out once, through a message on myspace, and we resolved things. Then nothing in our friendship grew, so i talked to her again basically saying I cant keep chasing you, you dont tell me anything anymore, and I care about you, so maybe you don't like me any more or something. She told me to stop putting words in her mouth..she gets so angry whenever i send her messages saying that im upset with her, not wanting to pick a fight but just improve the friendship. So that message pretty much ended all contact...until she posted a bulletin on myspace saying what her schedule was for this year, so i decided to tell her we had a class together. I feel like im wasting my time, but how could we go from the greatest thing ever to a piece of **** friendship?

Answer 1

You have tried, but poeple just grow and change and sometimes its hard to move on, but you guys seem to have gone your seperate ways, if the friendship is true, things will eventually fall back into place.  Good Luck.

Answer 2

idk but probable cause some people are just like that

Answer 3

Sometimes friends grow apart, it just happens. Try putting yourself into your friend's shoes for a moment. What if she were the one who joined the crew team? Crew takes up a lot of time, so wouldn't you try to make new friends if you were her? Even though you aren't in the wrong, you could try apologizing to her for upsetting her because it sounds like she didn't understand that all you wanted to do was improve your friendship with those messages. Try talking to her at school or in person about it and explain to her that all you wanted to do was restore your friendship, not damage it further. If she accepts your apology and wants to talk and hang out with you again, that's good obviously. But if she doesn't and you guys fight again, you'll just have to accept that she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, and you'll have to let her go. Also, ask yourself this: Do you really want to try to befriend her again? She is not leading a lifestyle that you find wholesome. Or do you think that what she needs is a friend who isn't doing those things to support her? It is your choice to try to befriend her again, because she's not making any effort to befriend you again. But overall, it is her choice on whether you will be friends.

Answer 4

Read the BIBLE.