Why do schools find kids growing up and just being kid such a problem ?

Question

my son is very exciteable and is always asking questions he is a very happy boy and very inteligent. but the school contacted me saying they were going to refure him to a child sicloagist because he can't sit still on his chair, after they saw him they informed me they were going to give him a special cusion to sit on so he would sit still??? what a load of c**p and waste of goverment taxes he is my 8th child so i do have some idea how kids work, all my kids have diffrent personality's but the 7 grown up kids all have there own buisnesses or dam good jobs and i'm pround of them all,other mothers who have had the same problems say it makes them feel they are bad mothers, well your not. it's the schools who have nothing better to do than say normal kids who are just growing up have a problem and it's time it was stopped and they concentrate on teaching our kids and let them just be kids.

Answer 1

Its because the older generation of teachers don't want to deal with kids anymore, they are their for their pensions! I know schools around us, all they want to do is put kids on Ridalin and things like that, so the kids are dump founded in the classroom and don't have any energy to bounce around like normal kids. Teachers are getting out of control with this whole, your kid can't sit till for an hour, he needs help, which they don't, I think the teacher's need to get help, meaning get rid of them let the younger generation of teacher's come in which are more relaxed and understand what kids do.

Answer 2

Schools are such a pain the ****. Teachers to have their favorites and their cliques.  My parents freaking busted their asses for 4 years to get my sister the help she needs because she has Autism. The school she went to in first grade would not do c**p for her. They didn't think she had Autism. They did put her in a special education class because they thought she was retarded.She is not retarded at all. After three years at that school the school sent my parents a letter that said in my opinion said"We don't want your kid here because she brought down our school grade and we don't like her." It actually said that she was supposed to go to this other school called Riverview Elementary. She was kicked out of their after a year for the same reasons as the other school. Now she is at Oak Park. My parents really had to press this issue on the school to get my sister the help that she needs.  Every school has their select group of students and parents that they favor. I hate the teacher's pet c**p.It irritates the c**p out of me. Teachers need to treat their students equally and quit giving their favorites special privileges like getting more attention from attention from him or her than the other student and not being punished for something bad that they did. My parents had that problem with my brother and a kid in his class. My brother and this kid had those parks and recreation booklets. They both wrote inappropriate things in these booklets. My brother got punished for it ,but not his friend because his friend was a teacher's and principal's pet.  That pissed me off so much. Principals and teachers love to make the students and parents that they don't like look bad.  The middle school that my brother and I went to was absolutely awful in every way possible. That school had very little discipline. I was always getting made fun of and ridiculed by other students,but most of the teachers didn't give a d**n. The bullying was awful.One kid mooned me on the way home from school.A couple of others tried to pick a fight with me. The only teacher that seemed to care was my  gym teacher. She told the other kids to leave alone only a couple of times. She probably wanted to do more, but I figure that she probably didn't want to hear from the Jackson Jack Off Clique.{Parents and Teachers who kiss up to the principal and have their little favorites} Most of the kids that did this c**p to me were children of people in that clique and those parents and teachers would have found a way to get their"Precious Little Angels" out of detention or suspension. The dean at that school was good,but she never got the backup she needed from the rest of the school staff and the parents at that school when she was disciplining kids for fighting,bullying,and various other things. The teachers,principal,asst.principal,and the parents would try to undo her decisions. She tried to fit in by kissing up to the principal as well.I knew she didn't want to,but she had no other choice. In this world,you have to kiss up to the boss to get him or her to like you and to get what you want from your job. Honestly,I think that is stupid and I can't stand teacher's pets.They are so s****. and stuck up. Their parents are the same way. All teachers want to do socialize and act like they are in high school still. They need to grow up and focus on teaching our kids,not on their social lives during school. Teachers' social lives don't need to be interfering in the education of our children. The stories I have shared with you about what school is like for my siblings and I demonstrate what happens when teachers' social lives interfere with our childrens' education.What do you think?  I'm sorry you had to deal with this c**p from your son's school. Well,Good Luck with your son!!

Answer 3

Of course they are telling you he has a problem. Schools want sheep. They want all kids to sit down and do what they tell them to. Individuality isn't part of the school code. Take them up on it and fight them. You definitely have more experience with kids than them.

Edit: a private school is a good idea, too.

Answer 4

i agree with everything you say kids have to play and learn it's part of growing up, i think the government no they have got it wrong so to hide the fact they try to shift the blame to parents but how is it when our kids spend the biggest time of there life at school it's  schools that have gone wrong and the government telling us how to correct our kids then now there saying well o.k maybe we had it right before and now we got it wrong they have to label what they can't understand and they can't understand that kids have to be kids so they stick a label to them

Answer 5

You wouldn't say that if he actually did have a problem

but yeah if there is nothing wrong with him it is a big waste of time I guess

Answer 6

That's crazy. He just has more energy than some kids. There is nothing wrong with that. He's just a squirmer! I think the school system has gotten too lazy to deal with things, so they would rather act like everyone has some kind of problem instead of work on helping themselves.

Answer 7

Its either a mix up, or there mustve been other problems that your aware of or perhaps they havent told you about yet, they cant bring a psychologist in just because of fidgeting, that would just be silly. You know him better than anyone could, but it's their job to help children not hinder them, they're not the enemy, so if they think there's a problem its worth hearing them out properly. If you still feel the same after a detailed discussion, then please complain and report them to your hearts content

Answer 8

Um, because it's a public school.

If your other seven children went through public school, you should know how it all works.

They're designed and funded by the government and are horrible places for kids to learn.

Teachers and other staff generally care as much about the kids as the post office does about the mail.

Put him in a private school, get him a tutor or home-school him.

Answer 9

To me all the school wants is tax payers money. My kids are still in pre school but at the elm school here they have a reading program that the kids have to read like 20 books a week. If they get it done they get a trip at the end of the year. The parents still have to pay for the trip. What I dont understand is why they make the kids do all this work and the parents have to pay. They also get more money if they say they kids have a problem. Its all about money not the kids......

Answer 10

These are things that should have been taught before he went to school. He needs to listen and sit down regardless if he wants to or not, and to not interrupt the teachers. They do not have to be soldier by any means,but it is called manners and common courtesy to others. If they said this first thing in the year it would bother me but if it has been mid way through the school year or longer your child knows what is expected and is choosing not to listen. There is a problem on both ends if you ask me, not just the school.

And yes I have kids of my own. And I have seen kids who disrupt the class repeatedly and make it impossible for the teacher to teach anyone because they are constantly trying to control the few who think it is a choice to sit down and listen. My kids know no one has the right to hurt them etc. but they also know if they misbehave for their teacher they are in trouble.

My kids only go to school for 6 hours and they have recess and lunch break to run around and burn off energy. As well as PE and music and library, it is not all just sitting and being quiet, it is very much the opposite at their "public" school.

Answer 11

I agree, schools are expecting too much out of children.  They want them to be little adults and sit still for 8 hours a day and be quiet.  I don't know many adults who can do that.

Answer 12

my husband and i think the same thing,,,when we were in school it was called "being a kid" now a days it is labeled with some sort of "disorder".  my son was given detentions for things we all did as kids.  schools today are SCARED of parents and what might happen or be said.  come to find out our school can NOT sit a child in the hallway anymore as one mother complained that her child was singled out and embarrassed by it. COME ON are you kidding me.  kids are kids but now a days there needs to be a label for it ,,,or it has to have a name.  in my day (now i am ONLY 34) you got your *ss beat and told to do your homework and be quiet,,,now you are labeled with a condition.  we were called lazy.  kids are not allowed to be kids anymore.  too many parents have went overboard and sue happy and the schools are scared of it.  it is better to make rules than to discipline kids.

my son was in a playground mishap and a little girl fell down and scraped her arm,,,the boys were all given in school suspension and the little girl that threatened to KILL THEM ALL got a note sent home.  come on.  do you know how many times the boys in school pushed us girls down or would run us off the swings,,,the teachers told us to leave the boys alone and go play,,,now a days the boys are suspended,,,detentions are handed out everyday.

schools and teachers are scared of parents and what "might " happen.

i agree with you and that things are not the way they were.  today to be normal,,,you need a label and need to be handled with kid gloves.  if you have normal healthy average KID,,,doing KID things,,,you have an issue.  Lets go back to parents disciplining and teaching kids there are consequences, not excuses for behavior

Answer 13

I agree the teachers goal is to have the best looking room, door, hall way decorated, their class have to be perfect little angels, its all to make the teacher look good I guess for teacher of the year so they can get the good parking space. my problem is when teachers label kids at a young age like first grade and then he is marked as a bad kid the rest of the time they are in that school the teachers talk and they don't give them a chance for change.and then the kid gives up on even trying.

Answer 14

schools are into quiet and obedience.

they don't really want smart inquisitive children, and when they have them, most teachers don't want to deal with them.

i think if class size was 10 or less it would be different.