Why do single mom expect sympathy and help from the government.?

Question

they always want to leave work early because the kid is sick.

they can not come to work because it is snowing and the kid does not have school and i can not find a babysitter.

they expect the government to help with the bill and babysitter expense.

and complain they are tired and have no help

Answer 1

I was married and had two children, my ex husband beat the sh** out of me almost daily, I finally got strong ehough to leave his a** and let me tell you it is VERY hard to be a single mother woth two kids, and even harder hwen one or both of them is sick, with out the help of the goverment at that I time I don't know what I would have done.  I am now remarried and no longer recieve help.  But I have so much respect for single moms.  Be careful who you judge bc it might happen to you.

Answer 2

First of all that's not ALL single moms.  I know of a quite a few married moms who do this as well.  And as far as leaving work early because their child is sick, not being able to find a babysitter and other issues that can arise....IT HAPPENS.  It happens to everyone, but single parents have a much harder time without a spouse there to help.  Do agree with premarital s*x and having children without a spouse?  No.  But I do know that most of those single moms and dads may not have chosen to be single parents.  Perhaps they thought their significant other would stay around and they didn't.  Perhaps they are widowers or widows.  Perhaps they were victims of spousal abuse or their children were abused by their significant others.  Either way, each circumstance is different.  Are there single parents who abuse the system?  You bet.  But you can't blanket them all in one category and make the assumption you have here.

Anyone who uses government aide should use it for the time needed and then discontinue it when it's no longer needed.  I hate it when ANYONE abuses the system and thinks that American owes them something or that it's their right to live off the government.

Answer 3

Mrs. Wu.....you need to shu!

Answer 4

All of the things you listed for single mom's a married mom goes through too.. most men's jobs or thoughts is that it is mom's job to get the sick kid, snow days etc.... My job has more flexibility for time off so I get the sick calls, the snow day calls, the no baby sitter issues.. not everyone reaches out to the government for help but it is there for a reason and some people need it whether they are a single mom or a family going through tough times and these days is quite a few families.  

Answer 5

ummm maybe its because they have NO help. If your child is sick, obviously you have to take care of him. If your child doesn't have school without notice, its obviously going to be near impossible to find a sitter. MOST families cannot live on one income alone, and if the single parent isnt getting child support, it makes it that much harder. If you were taking care of a child ALL BY YOURSELF with no help ever, you'd be tired too.

Answer 6

Dont lump all single mothers together.  You wouldn't want it done to you.  How is this any different from discrimination?  We've made such great strides, dont set us back.  Sure, some boo-hoo about it.  Some don't.  Some married women do too.

Answer 7

What's with your personal crusade against single mothers?

Answer 8

LOL...You obviously DO NOT have children (or you are just foolish and PRONE to RASH Judgment,not sure which it is yet) BUT I am a single Parent who I would guess is doing Very Well...I own my own business,pay my own bills, don't have to answer to an Employer and ONLY complain to my kids about being tired and needing their help from time to time, no one else...SO what you need to do is CHECK yourself and STOP making such RIDICULOUS Assumptions...your Judgment of Single Parents is WITHOUT MERIT to say the least....Believe ME my Married Friends with kids complain more than I do..Usually about their  Marriages not their sick kids.

Answer 9

I guess you've never been a single parent, have you?  Watch out as your ignorance is showing.

Answer 10

Don't most people want sympathy and help wherever they can get it.  Maybe these single moms have nobody else to turn to, so they hope that at least government programs will help them out in some way.  What are they supposed to do when a child is sick?  He can't go to daycare if he's sick.  They can't leave him home alone for obvious reasons.  They are between a rock and a hard place.  And I'm not sure what you mean by saying they expect the government to help with the bill and babysitter expense, where have you heard that?  Of course they are tired and many of them have no help.  Show some empathy.

Answer 11

UHHH... because they ARE single moms! DUHHHH!



they deserve help from the government. and you republican supporters better understand that... after wanting to do away with abortion.

some people in this country are disappointing!!

Answer 12

Thanks for stereotyping.  I'm a single mom, and don't ask for any of those things.  I have a sitter who is able to watch my daughter whether there is school or not (she's not even school-age yet, but thanks again for assuming), I don't even remember the last time I took a day off, and I pay all my bills and childcare expenses all on my own, thank you very much.  There are people who try to talk me into going for different types of assistance, and I'd rather not.  I put myself in my situation, I'll find a way to work with it.  Not to mention that I get not one penny from my ex.  I'm proud of myself for all I do, but obviously I can't expect you to understand that.

Answer 13

Since when is just single moms who have to leave work early because their kids are sick or complain because they are tired? I'm married with a two year old and 19 weeks pregnant with #2 and I do that!

Answer 14

Guess what, I have a husband and complain of all that too.  So I can imagine it is even worse for a single mom.  As long as someone is not abusing the system, that is what it is there for.

Answer 15

Being a single mom is not an easy task. Some women master it while others don't know which end is up half the time. In all fairness to mothers period... You have to do what you have to do where the safety and welfare of your children are concerned. Short of breaking the law and some people break the law and have no problem with it. We all need help in some way or another for whatever reason. All in all we are responsible for taking proper care of our children and if it means leaving work or not being able to come to work that's what it is because, you can't always rely on a babysitter. It is what it is life.......

Answer 16

obviously you have no children, and if you do or plan to have children in the future, you probably think the man in your life is incapable of leaving you or worse, dying unexpectedly.  a lot of single moms did not choose to be single.  i understand that there are some people who take advantage, but dont assume that just because they are single that they do.  

you are a lucky person to NEVER get tired or need help with anything, EVER, because most people, need help sometimes.  

Answer 17

Seriously, you have frickin issues you need to deal with.

WHAT BUSINESS IS IT OF YOURS?

Furthermore, I'm a single mom, I do not rely on the government for anything - except my paycheck because I WORK for the government!

And I can tell ya this, since I work for the agency that does help people in need - they hand out help to not only single moms, but married couples, elderly, everyone who NEEDS help.

Stop generalizing.  It makes you look really stupid.