Why do single people go after married people?

Question

I know sometimes the other person does not know that the married one is married.

But for the ones who do why do they LOOK for them?

Answer 1

Think about it.. Some single man wants to just have a fling or s*x with no strings attached just for fun would want a married woman because she is taken and married.

Some screwed up women would do that.

Answer 2

Well for me its cause I'm not looking for a commitment just casual s*x.

I have been with many married guys and we would hook up a few times and then go our separate ways.

The married guys that i have been with always tell me that they never get any from their wives and their probably lying and if they are so what i dont care cause i get what i want and they get what they want.

Answer 3

it's not always the single person's fault. i've had a 55 year old married man come after me and i certainly did not go LOOKING for it.

when love is love it's love and if something in a marriage is not going right and someone else comes along.... temptation is there.

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Answer 4

I can't imagine a single person specifically looking to hook up with a married person, if they do that is just sad, but i would think the reason they would do it is because it would be just s*x with no possibility of attachment or a relationship. some people prefer that. Well i should say some people with no conscience prefer that.

Answer 5

Unconsciously *although not always* I think some women do it because they have a general distrust of men and want to see how low a man will go (like by cheating on his wife). And they're validated in their feelings and steer clear of pursuing actual relationships of their own.

But there are a host of general reasons why some women do it. As far as why men sleep with married women.. Sure some of it may be fantasy but I think its mostly because its someone to sleep with.. Men are a lot simpler when it comes to s*x.  

Answer 6

For the most part...they have no life and they have destroyed every relationship they have ever had...and now they want to destroy others..and with a little flattery and attention, they will attract a spouse who is complacent or not happy or in a rut in their relationship.  It's pathetic, but it is true

Answer 7

Because they are whores mostly

Answer 8

I would assume the thrill of the challenge? The hope that he might leave his wife (or she her husband)? I would never do it, and if I found out a guy was married I'd be out.

Answer 9

People always want what they can't have.  It's human nature.  But maybe it's because they themselves are afraid of real commitment and they know that they won't get that from someone who is already taken.

Answer 10

The reasons are numerous.  They like the idea of being with someone with no commitment.  They feel they have won a prize, as if  they were so special they could not be resisted and caused this married person to break vows and sneak around to be with them.  Some even relish the idea of causing a divorce.  Some like the whole sneaking around and clandestine redevouses.

Some really don't see anything wrong with it, and will say his wife is like this...her husband is like that.  Having never met these people they want to believe something is wrong the mate and that some how justifies the affair.  Too many reasons why they do it, but the good thing is they will have dues to pay.  You can't knowingly do that and not expect some payback down the line.

Answer 11

I know a married woman who l used to work with and she's seriously trying to hook up with me.  It's tempting because she says some crazy stuff.  I'm trying to be strong..cuz I'm in a relationship but sometimes my mind wanders.... luckily I've been a good boy!

Answer 12

they are safe, no strings, they may be missing out.

Answer 13

For a little nookie on the side without strings.

Answer 14

the challenge and nothing else

Answer 15

they have nothing better to do then to break up a marriage (family).  they are selfish people.  they don't care who they hurt.

Answer 16

Two reasons.. people want what they cant have.  The forbidden fruit so to speak.

Then there is ego. To an ego maniac, it's always rewarding to know that you have the power to rip someone from their spouse.  

Both reasons are kind of dumb.. but thats why.

Answer 17

They don't want to get too involved and have their cake and eat it too.

Answer 18

All I have to say is " Carma" it will come back to you.  

Answer 19

I am married now 24 yrs and been approached by more single & married women because of my Harley and that's a fact.

Answer 20

Sometimes they might think a married person is more responsible and more experienced and would take care of them. Single people get that impression. Either that or they're just home wreckers.  

Answer 21

Those who want married partners, I believe want a casual affair. Since the partner is married he/she will not be looking or demanding a long term relationship. The married partner has obligations from their family that limited the availability; making their relationship casual and clandestine. Also, neither can claim exclusivity in the relationship. so both are free to seek other partners.

Answer 22

Thats not the question.  The question is "Why do married people betray their spouse?"

Answer 23

I always appreciate it. If you know single women who do this, have them email me.  Thanks

Answer 24

Because they know that there can be no real relationship, most of the time it's for s*x and sometimes for a part time lover.  

Answer 25

They want to know that they were "chosen" over someone else.  It's an ego thing.  Also - the married person always treats the side action like he/she is everything to them.  They lavish them with attention and it can be quite addictive.

Answer 26

If they both know then they are losers.

If one is left in the dark then they are forgiven.

Answer 27

Because they are losers.

I hate to be harsh but my husband and I knew a guy like this. He only wanted married ladies and seemed to know who was vulnerable (and stupid) enough to approach...

Answer 28

the chase is often better than the catch  

Answer 29

Well for one they are scum... but the second reason is because there is no risk of "commitment" They do not want a committed relationship so they go after someone who is already committed to someone else

Answer 30

Because they don't kiss and tell.

Answer 31

NO values. Some single people get involved with married people because they know there will be no pressure in the affair.

I don't do this. I just know from experience that some people just DO NOT care that someone is married and will go for whatever they want. And sometimes that is married people cause they know that the relationship will go no where and they are "safe" from having to deal with the fact that no one wants them for anything more than a romp in the sack.