Why do so many people cheat?

Question

why do you think so many people cheat these days or do you think they are just more open about it than people use to be?

Answer 1

Humans are animals that belong to the mammal kingdom. Animals are NOT monogomous by nature. It is instinctive to want to mate as much as possible without discrimination with whom we do it with. Through evolution our brains grew and monogomy became a conscious decision that is made every minute of our life.  

Answer 2

That could be.

But I think that a lot of people cheat because they don't really know what they want yet or their partner isn't meeting their needs. In any case, you should just break up with the person.

Answer 3

as a person who has thought about it .I can tell you why. because the person we are with dose not give us  the attention we want or need. they are to wrap up in them sleves..for me it is my bf(yeah a bf who don't belive in marriage) and his drinking and video game.. and the drinking causing him ED..which when he is drinking he really could care less about..yes i think about it..yes i dream about it..but have i done it. no..but each day it gets harder and harder not to do it..esp..when we do something only once a month

Answer 4

I think that some people get a rush from it. The sneaking around, lying - it gives them a rush. What's fun about that, I don't know, but I'm sure it's one reason.

Another reason is that some people aren't getting everything that they want out of their current relationship, and instead of talking it out with their partner, they seek it elsewhere.

I also think that you are right, in that people are more open about it than they used to be. I don't want to say it's become more acceptable, but certainly people are less shocked to hear about it anymore. I think that in today's age, we've really lowered the standards. It's no longer an issue of integrity so much as it was before.

Answer 5

no respect for each other and really don't believe in their marriage vows.

Answer 6

look people cheating is not the answer ! if you have problems bout not getting enough attention, Love etc. then you need to talk bout it with your partner...cheating will only make it worse and wont do anything for you but give you nothing but guilt and lies !!! just talk bout it...cheating is not the answer !

Answer 7

It seems like the media claims various reasons for why people cheat, but I think it's way more simple than they say.

First, you're right--it's more out in the open. Before women's liberation, it was "okay" for men to cheat. The wife knew it was happening. The husband knew it was happening. But couples stayed together. As family standards changed, i.e. women started demanding more from relationships and more self-identity as opposed to just being a mother/wife, women started railing against cheating more and more women started cheating, as well. Now couples break up over it, so it has become a huge issue that is talked about more.

Why do so many people do it? At the very base, it's about communication. When couples have problems in relationships, they'll talk to everyone BUT their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. Eventually, they end up running their mouth to someone who is eyeing them sexually and that person ends up taking advantage by using that info to get what they want. Then when they get caught, it's all of a sudden, "I didn't feel loved," "She understands me," "You and I argue all the time" or "My needs weren't being fulfilled"--why the h**l didn't you say that BEFOREhand?!  

Answer 8

miscommunication...or lack of communication...or communication but someone just isn't listening...it's the same as it's always been, i think

Answer 9

I didn't mean to cheat and I got divorced because I was unhappily married. I really fell in love with someone else.  It's not so easy to get out of a marriage with kids etc..  

Answer 10

Because it seems so easy to do it.

Answer 11

something missing within their selves, its not the other person but themselves.also lack of belief in god, unable to problem solve, and the fact that there are so many people willing to step in to a relationship that really belongs to someone else.

Answer 12

Lack of love and respect for their spouse that's why.

Answer 13

Sadly marriage isn't taken seriously anymore.  People would rather just live together and that way they can cheat or leave their partner and in their eyes it is not wrong because there is no vow or commitment.  Most people don't want to work at anything anymore and just take the easy way out.

Answer 14

because in today's society its considered 'normal', as if it is expected.

whereas 100 years ago, your life would be ruined and the person cheating would be shunned as is you were scum on society.

or in ancient Rome, you would be killed in a cruel and unusual way.

but these days, people have much less of a moral compass.

Answer 15

people want thrill it makes life more interesting when things get boring!

keeping someone on the side makes life interesting

Answer 16

Many people cheat because the opportunity is offered. Both parties work, sometimes different schedules. We have become very immoral individuals and we justify it by saying "everybody is doing it". All sexual items are readily available, the underground market takes advantage of it and pushes it through magazines or in your PC. Since it is a highly emotional subject our sense reacts to it in a manner that quickly gives in. The main reason is the low degree of morality that is prevalent among this new generation. We call it advancement as we degrade ourselves.

Answer 17

What I don't get is why do people cheat, why can't they just break up and then go on with other people.

Answer 18

Boredom, not enough excitement, people not knowing how to stay attractive to their partners, then partners either get bored or lose attraction and cheat.

Answer 19

cause they are not mature enough and they don't realize when they are having problems with their partners! instead of facing it they prefer to avoid it doing stupid and childish **** like cheating! people like this should all be together to get hurt between themselves!

Answer 20

Because we are not confident enough in ourselves to be loved as we should be, or confident enough in the one we are with.  Insecurity.  Fear.  A lack of willingness to do what is needed to bulid a relationship.  They take lots of patience, understanding, and work.  Most people are not willing to do that.

Answer 21

Most people cheat as the "excitement" in their relationship isn't there anymore, or at least they don't think it is.  They want that new love feeling you have right at the beginning.  They also make all sorts of excuses instead of trying to work out problems with their significant other.  I do think it is more open nowadays then it used to be though.