Why do some guys I like not care and then the ones I DO NOT like not leave me alone?

Question

Is it because men want what they know they can't have? Should I make them think that they can have me just so that they wont want me anymore?

Answer 1

you can't control who you want, And eventually, you will find someone who can return your affections, So you shouldn't settle for anyone you don't sincerly like, someone will come around one day.

Answer 2

hahaha, its almost sounds like the nice guy syndrome. you go for the guys who don't care and arn't worth your time or day. I other guys you don't like are probably the nice guys trying in vain to get your attention, but do the exact opposite!!!.

It also sound like you want what you cant have to!!! ie the guy u like that don't care. And no, never lead guys on, just tell them no and ignore them. They'll get the hint in time and will leave you alone.

Answer 3

Yeah, it's a stupid game but men like to pursue.  That's why the relationships that work out are always the ones where the woman kind of just settled for the guy who loved her and not the guy she was really hot for.  It's called "the principal of least interest"...the woman needs to be the least interested for the relationship to hold.  It's screwed up.

Answer 4

Here's your problem. You attract the guys that are sooo annoying and won't leave you alone... that's because you DON'T like them, therefore you display a lot of confidence it's hard NOT to be nervous around them, so hence they are extremely attracted to you. Now the guys you DO like can't stop ignoring you probably because they are really intimidating and make you nervous, right?

Okay, now switch those mentalities you have of either boys. Be nice and reserve around those you don't like, and treat those that you do like, like any other dog that's chasing you, meaning don't pay attention to them and when they talk to you pay as little attention and be as nonchalant as you can (or possibly could chase you). It takes practice but you will find that you will get the result you want.

At least it works for me... and I never have any trouble getting the boy I want.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

umn  no?

just live. why are you complicating things with games?

let them think they can have so they wont want??? how the heck does that work?

just live.

Answer 6

I have that exact same issue and wonder the exact same thing  

Answer 7

Yes. Do be ridiculous and hurt people so that you can feel the same hurt later in life. Trust me this question will seem so ridiculous and embarrasing to you later in life

Answer 8

Because that is life! We can't have everything.

And no you should make them think that they can have you, just be nice. It is very mean the attaitude you have towards these people that do like you (that you dont like) they are in the exact same situation as you!

Answer 9

Wow that is a turn off if your really serious. Reason I say this is because obviously it is a problem to you. What that means is that you got to look into yourself and ask, "am I that vain?"

It appears that what you have really tried to say is that all the guys that you've dealt with are not good enough for you. Keep this up girl and you're in for a lonely life.  

I'm wondering what your honestly like and if you are attracting average guys because the fact that you are average as well. There's nothing wrong with being "average" tho I can't stand labeling people that way. Have you even tried one of these guys that you make sound that they are lesser of men?

Answer 10

Men don't want what they can't have. Men want who they want regardless of whether the woman wants them. But it goes both ways. Men are also frequently the target of women they don't want and the women they DO want are not interested.

It's the great social challenge: To find a person who wants you the same as you want them. If you find it, you are probably set for life in the happiness department.

Answer 11

it's called a path to lonliness.  it wouldn't take long before u come her with a topic "why can't i find a bf?"