Why do some idiots think they dont need to rsvp to our wedding? and that we'll just magically know.

Question

ok, seriously we put a response card with the stamp and address....

how hard is it to send back NAME 0

or NAME 2 or NAME 1 on the fu(king things!

our rsvp's were due by friday and half the idiots said "they lost them" or "we'll you'd know we'd come"

or dont take the rsvp's seriously, my to be's family hasnt sent them back, and they live in mexico so its kinda gonna take more time, and they are due friday because we need to give our head count.

why are people retarded???

honestly??

why is it hard to send the d**n thing back with 0 if your not coming??

why is it hard to send it back when YOU ARE COMING!?

Answer 1

Some people are rude. I asked this question the other day. Check the list of who hasn't rsvp'd and try to phone them. (i know, i know you shouldn't have to but it can't be helped) The ones that you can successfully contact you can get a definate rsvp. Any others who don't answer the phone, I would mark off as not coming (unless you really want them there) and if they show up at your wedding, they won't get in if their names not on the door. You won't have to speak to them in a situation like that because you will be busy! At least you can tell them later that you did attempt to contact them. Good luck. Yes some people are very rude and inconsiderate. I hope you have a lovely wedding and congrats

Answer 2

Some people will not respond,thats why I'm not sending RSVP cards out.I'm calling everyone instead.

Answer 3

It's a shame that many of our people have become so careless about others feelings. That is the basis of etiquette and good manners. Most just don't consider that you're dealing with many other guests, not just them.  If you've waited as long as you can and still have not heard from everyone you will have to call each guest and ask. It's unfortunate, but will be better than being surprised on the wedding day.  

Answer 4

The mannerly thing to do is to assume that your friends are all courteous and intelligent people and that darned postal service MUST have LOST the invitation or you'd have received a response card by now. You call them an apologize for not called having them sooner.

(Yes, yes, I know that YOU haven't done anything wrong and the THEY are the ones who should apologize, but that isn't how things work in the world of etiquette. The idea is to impress upon people how badly they have behaved by being perfectly (not overly, just perfectly) polite to them instead of by seizing upon their bad behavior as an excuse to behave badly oneself. That is you set them a good example instead of stooping to their level.

By the way, you don't need to call everyone yourself. You delegate that to friends and family members who aren't so emotionally involved in the planning.  

Answer 5

People are rude that way , Why I haven't a clue. It isn't their wedding and they don't seem to care. even when you put a d**n stamp on it for them. Well that happened to use, so I called them up and their excuse was I forgot , I lost it , or You knew we were coming. So when it was their turn I did the same thing and guess what they had a fit.. All I said to them was pay backs all h**l.

Answer 6

Some people are just rude, others don't care, and there are a few who genuinely misplaced/lost the RSVP card.

When I get an invite, I RSVP as soon as I can because I know just how frazzling it can be.

My Mom is hosting an engagement party and had a family of 5 tell us "you had to know we would come".  So I find myself having to call my fiance's family for my Mom and she's been in touch with our family to check on those people that we haven't heard from yet.

Answer 7

This just happened to me too!! my rsvps were due by wednesday we had about 20 people not respond. So on top of all of the other things I had to do my fiance and I had to call those people..It was very annoying.Some people thought that was the day they should mail it out and others said they forgot.while others said of course we are coming (well than why did you not send it out?).So you might have to start calling and be very forward that you need and answer NOW. good luck

Answer 8

I know what you mean.  I had to call half of the people we sent them to just to find out and that turned into a 15 minute to 2 hour phone conversation per person.  My husband's grandmother just told him they would not be able to attend and then said do i really have to send this back to you.  I was like wtf it was already addressed and stamped.  Other people who i called said that they just didn't want to tell me they would not be able to attend (we had an out of town wedding) so they just didn't send the card back.  So annoying.  Just hang in there it is almost here and then you will be able to relax.

Answer 9

I vouche that when we have children, we should teach them how important this is. I also had the same problem with my husbands family. I would recommend calling to see if they are coming, or call the head matriarchs of the family to find out if they know who's coming.

We could've safed soooo much money on rsvps, postage, and food!

Answer 10

It's not hard at all. People are just inconsiderate.