Why do some people have a hard time letting go of a tainted perception of the past?

Question

I have been friends with *Ava* since High School. Best girl friends.... Talk on the phone kids the same age blah blah blha...

I have recently made friends with a new family that has been attending the church I go to, kids the same age common interest with the Rea the mother yadda yadda yadaa.....

Recently found out that the sister of *Rea* is the EX WIFE of the man my friend has been married to for 15 years.... No big deal to me this kind of stuff never comes up in conversation *Ava's husband is gone a lot as an over the road trucker so I don't really know him that well......

This "Sister ex wife" person is now worried about the fact that her Sister **Rea** is friends with me because I represent the ENEMY by being friends with the NEW WIFE. I don't even know the EX WIFE.. I saw her once at a Theatre production in the lobby and ishe was pointed out to me. How can she hate me? She doesn't even know me. Now Ava is worried that I am in the middle of a bad situation.

Answer 1

Get out of this nonsense. Someone hating you for no reason is foolish. Seek out better friends and let these fight with each other.