Why do some people have all the bad luck?

Question

Why do bad things keep happening to me? Is it my destiny or do I keep making bad decisions? In the past 5 years I have suffered with mental illness, had 3 bereavements (one of which was my husband), and last week I was attacked in my own home. How do you cope when you keep getting knock back after knock back?

Answer 1

i have bad luck too its so weird

but i don't know why

i guess it happens sometimes

Answer 2

bad things happen to good people

Answer 3

it has nothing to do with luck, it's you hun.

Answer 4

believe me you are a strong person, getting knocked back only makes you stronger and you will benefit from it

Answer 5

its not luck its chance

Answer 6

there is a good saying.....it doesn't matter what is thrown at you, it's how you deal with it.

I lost my parents within 2 months of each other, life was just c**p! (with other things going on in my life too)   the above saying was said to me and I sat down and thought wow that's sooooo correct!  

don't ever think, why me?  think, ok let's sort this out.  when you accomplish something don't you feel so much better?

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Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear about the terrible things that have happened in your past. But now is the PRESENT, focus on positive things and what you can do to better your future.  I find that having faith in God and praying can help. I would talk to a psychologist to work through your problems so that you can learn to live in the now. I would take a self defense class,  exercise, eat right, concentrate on positive things and take care of you, list some positive goals you would like to accomplish and make the steps to do so.  I think that bad things happen to everyone. You just have gone through several bad things in a period of years. Everyone eventually loses people they love, whether it was the past, present or future, EVERYONE is going to pass away and lose loved ones, family, friends, wives and husbands. I would get a security system in your home ASAP to help you feel more secure. Do you have pets? Pets can bring you so much happiness.  

If it helps, I lost my brother 3 weeks before my wedding, my parents got divorced, and my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. See, things happen to everyone. I also deal with my ups and downs with depression. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  Please find some help with a professional, talk to someone and make life good. You are only here once and I hope you believe in some type of God so you have somewhere good to go when your work is done here. God bless you. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!

Answer 8

I hate to  say "get religion"

I'm agnostic and don't like to preach or be preached to BUT-

The God works in mysterious way's is our only out sometimes.

I look for good things I can do for others, Or my biggest weakness is turn the other cheek. I let god get em. I watch while people who do bad to me, have bad things happen to them. I look at my own ailment's and just figure everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we just aren't supposed to know the answers. We live our lives with as much compassion and dignity as we can. We must remember "blesside are the children" teach the children and gain points in life and death.

Take martial arts.....It's good for the body and will give you self confidence. You might want to think about moving. A whole new life in a different place.

Answer 9

Bad things happen to everyone.

Each bad event is just that.  One individual event.

Simply because a number of them have happened over a short period of time does not make it a universal conspiracy.

I can see how a series of such events might lead one into a condition of learned helplessness, but it is important to recognise good things that happen too.

Answer 10

Man looks like your a source of bad luck. I suggest you lock yourself in a closet and eat nothing but cheesy popcorn for a year. That worked for me<><.

Answer 11

I have some bad luck too.. I keep dropping glasses, friends turn against me for no reason, ive got anxiety/depression and im just so unhappy.. We dont deserve this :(

Answer 12

i feel your pain, my friend. i really do. keep truckin'...don't give up. remember to pray. things will get better, i promise. you just have to believe. keep your head up.  

Answer 13

Luck is just a state of the human mind.

We make our own luck.

Those lucky charms are just to put your mind into the spirit if they were token away and you wouldn't notice you'd still have the same luck as you had before.

Answer 14

luck is just something we create. you have to be determined that the world is out to do you good and not bad. there are some wonderful seminars by brian tracy to change your way of thinking.

Answer 15

Sorry to hear that.

I believed that at the end of the rainbow, there's always something good, luck and especial something for everyone.

You neeed time. Time will heal the wound. Time will change things for the better. Remember, life is ups and down.

Be strong, be wise and think well ..... think positive.

You will be alright.

Answer 16

I know how you feel

-- think the HEX thing is for real--

my sister must have screwed up my  MO-JO !

Answer 17

get a hex removal.

spellmaker.com

and better locks,and lock your windows too!

whats a bereavement,btw?

Answer 18

i don't know if you're religious..but God puts us through trials to see how strong we are and how well we can pull through.  

Answer 19

If it wasn't for bad luck I would have no luck at all  :((

Answer 20

concentrate and see the little bits of good luck that you perhaps didn't recognize.  there is always something.  build on the little bits of good luck, look for them, savor them, they will grow and your life turn around.  mental illness may be there for the duration.  we can fight that and carry on [most of the time].  death is always a downer but sometimes a death can be a blessing, stopping pain, crippling, age.

that's the other thing, if you keep saying why me, you invited it back.just make yourself find a good thing that happened and concentrate on it until you find, perhaps suddenly, that things have changed..............for the better.

Answer 21

I know what you mean. Last week some guy took my parking space right before I got to it, then Jack-in-the-Box got my order wrong, and, to top it all off, I didn't get one number right on my lotto ticket. It's like how am I supposed to move forward in my life with all this going on.

Answer 22

I think your dwelling on negativity, focusing your thought's and energy on "Why does this always happen to me" attitude. **** happens to everyone, how we go about it is up to us, to you, know one else. I am very sorry about these things that have happen to you. Please think positive and put the past behind you and today, now, is a new chapter in your life. Focus on all positive things in your life, changes your going to make ect... Stop all negative thoughts that enter your mind. Like seeds, thoughts come to fruition. Negative thoughts are weeds in the garden of the mind, you have to weed out your garden!

Answer 23

Life is a mix of good, bad and all grades inbetween.  Some people get a worse share, but it is random, not personal.  Some people are born into rich families and some are born blind and deaf. It's all the luck of the draw.

I cope by putting things into perspective.  I neither pretend they don't matter, nor do I exagerrate them.  Things are a pain, but not the end of the world.  Life maybe difficult at the moment, but that does not prove the future must be the same.

I'd recommend a book, 10 steps to positive living, by Windy Dryden as a starting point.

Answer 24

i know EXACTLY how you feel

Answer 25

Bad Karma- ask the higher powers for forgiveness and guidance