Why do some people literally have nothing better to do than to start drama,trouble,legal matters?

Question

Billy Idol once said, "the more you live, the faster you die." Unfortunately I'm starting to believe this. The more you go through life, the more you realize "why did I just not stay home?"

Some people literally out there have nothing better to do than to start drama, battles, try to press charges and sue on virtually anything, and just start bickering, complaining, and all sorts of drama.

Why are some people like this?

How do you avoid them, and this type of behavior?

Is this virtually everywhere, and can't be avoided?

I literally had to deal with so much. I had one guy, who's dead now because of natural causes, who somehow got my social security number and got my power and cable cut off to my house, literally, another one who tried suing me for "breaking in" his house when we were friends when I just opened the door to his house, came in and crashed for the night, and he knew I was coming, but he just wanted to be a jerk because he was mad at me, a woman instigated and beeped her horn at me, which pissed me off and I gave her the finger, and she took me in court for that, kids at school who "didn't like me" purposefully cut me out of their "group" so that they could make sure I got a lower grade, without telling me, people giving road rage, dirty looks,

following/stalking you even,gossip, etc,

I've had all of this in my life, and I then have to wonder,

why do these people do this? Have they ltierally got nothing better to do in their lives than to start drama?

Then I go to the hospital ER, and I get people who try to start drama, say things like "but i was here firrrrrrrrrrrst, im more importantttttttt," and just act like all around a))holes.

I'm asking you guys, the yahoo community to literally, help me on this.

I wrte ALOT of negative posts, which people think is absurd like I need help, when in all reality,

I just deal with alot of garbage! That's all it is.

I personalize it and it affects me because I just deal with alot of it.

you guys must be living on Mars then, either that or you just don't get it as much as I do or you have better ways to cope,....which if you do,

TELL ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you :-D

Answer 1

You are not alone. I think a lot of us have to deal with this. I think it may be from the kind of society and culture we exist in. I think it's gotten a lot worse but maybe it's relative to the population and the hard times. No matter how anyone tries to portray it things have gotten a lot more difficult as the population increases. Fedex and Burger King with the overnight and have it your way. Hollywood being so in everyone faces all of the time. We all want some excitementt and glamour in our lives. Life can be tedious and mundane sometimes. It can be difficult to be able to do the things you really want to because of insurmountable obstacles. There is a lot of pressure with our lifestyle and demands not to mention unreasonable expectations that we put on ourselves because of society and what we want out of life. Some people think they are the center of universe and when others conflict with them then it gets all blown out of proportion. I hate it when people exclude others just because they can. I don't like everyone but I'm not going to put them down or purposefully try to hurt them. I just avoid. It can be mutual. I'm an honest person. I'm not hard. But some people are liars and are stubborn. Not everyone is reasonable, rational, or sensible. The best we can do I think is to be true to ourselves and surround ourselves with good people like us. (wink wink)  I don't need drama in my life for it to be exciting or interesting. Some people are just boring people. Avoid them as much as you can. Think how important is this in the grand scheme of things. I'm learning to just not react to bad drivers. I get into my driving and my music. I live in MA where we have horrible drivers. Massholes is what they are often called. They drive like they own the road and have absolutely no regard for others. I've lived in other parts of the country and it's not this bad there. It's something to behold. I don't know where these people come from or how they got this idea that it's ok to drive like you are the biggest axx in the world. It's like they have severe tunnel vision and are disconnected from everyone else. I just separate and drive. It takes time and patience. I'm finally at the point where very little causes a reaction from me. Maybe it is because I've kind of surrendered. I'd rather just be content and do what I can to make my life a good one.  

Answer 2

My best guess is it's their way of getting attention because they feel insecure or otherwise are someone who feels they can't get attention any other way.  Hard to deal with them, but they probably deserve our pity more than our anger.

Answer 3

Many people can't see past their own needs or opinions - whatever the excuse (defense mechanism, selfishness, aggression).

  I live a reclusive existence, I spend most of my time at home and only really go out when I need something or when I'm out with my friends.

  If I'm being honest I've never been happier.  I don't worry about getting into trouble, arguments, annoying people, being annoyed, being killed by a drunk driver AND the amount of new stuff I've learned over the last couple of years has been immense.

  It's amazing what can you learn just staying at home reading, writing and listening to music.

Lovely

Ape.

Answer 4

Drama makers, trouble makers......they are usually miserable w/ their own lives and subconsciously are trying to make all others around them miserable too.

Misery likes company.

Answer 5

Oh dear....I think I know what you're going through! I've been in similar position, being surrounded be DRAMATIC PEOPLE. I have no idea why I hadn't done it sooner but I've finally CUT OFF those types of people out of my life, even though if some of them have been my friends (so-called).

But let me tell you something, trouble-makers WILL be around for-ever so you need to accept that first....remember being angry and frustrated all the time is also hurting YOU. What I do is 1. stay away as MUCH as possible from environments you think are prone to have trouble-makers. 2. If you have not much choice, try not to TAKE offense...because these people are more content seeing others become offended....the more you take offense, the more drama there will be.

Set an example. If someone starts complaining in the hospital at you about "being first", go ahead and openly allow her to take your spot and be first in line. This is more likely to embarrass her. Trust me, I was in a similar position when I was at a store counter, and this lady was like "look, I was here first lady!" to the salesperson, so I openly said "It's okay, you go ahead"...other people were there, and she was so obviously embarrassed she could not even look at me.