Why do some people "hate" kids? Weren't they a child once?

Question

I'm sorry this has been bugging me for the longest time.

Fellow classmates at school often say "I can't stand kids. I hate them!" and I always think "Why? Why do you hate kids?"

Answer 1

i totally agree with the 1st answer. But i myself dont hate them as such (only some of them that are totally unbehaved and rude), i have 4 kids myself and do from a certain point of view understand of where your coming from. But i am lucky to say that my kids are very well behaved. I am modest too lol.

Answer 2

Because they werent like that when they were kids

Answer 3

I dont understand that either. i'm gona have a kid in 7 months. If i find out some old dude doesnt like my son/daughter ima beat him straight the fuckup.

Answer 4

I hate children.  I always have.  I'm pregnant now, and I still hate children (mine is the exception, of course).  They are loud, germy, smelly, and obnoxious.  I just don't have any patience for them.  

It's a matter of personal preference, just like some people don't like animals, some people don't like crowds, etc.  

Why do you care if someone dislikes children?  People are entitled to their feelings.

*edit*  I am 30 years old; I doubt my feelings will change.

Answer 5

Well they could of had a bad experience as a child.

But most of the time as kids get older they become wilder and harder to control

Answer 6

Some people hated there childhood!

Answer 7

people change and act differently towards other's actions

Answer 8

Some people really struggle to handle impulsiveness, loudness, immaturity etc. in kids. But that's what kids are all about. I love how my child gets excited about something, but someone else could find her high-pitched excited voice really irritating. I would say that the people who don't enjoy children probably haven't been exposed to the joys that much, and don't know any kids personally.

Answer 9

everyone is different.

Answer 10

because it would make them responsible. to have kids means you would have to tend to someone else needs before your own. you are also accountable for the little persons action if they do not make the right choices.And as a parent there will be many times that you have to stand in the gap for actions children make and  you have NO CONTROL of. or they could simply be afraid of the challenge of being a good parent, and not making the grade. But for those that know they are not ready and don't have kids i thank them. because i would rather see them with no kids than to see them with kids they would abuse.

Answer 11

Sometimes how people react to children is just a reflection on how they see themselves... (if they hate them, most of the time they are miserables themselves.)  

It is different if you don't like kids coming into your dining room and destroying your stuff, vs you just hate children.  Notice that in the movies the grumpy people who hate children just have to work something out within themselves?  And once they are past it, then they can embrace any type of child?  

If you hear a person say 'I hate kids'... it is usually a sign that they are miserable about something major, a childhood experience, mother issues, they lost a good lover that would have been a good parent, etc.

Great question though.  I have thought about this myself.

Answer 12

it prolly had to do with how they was raised. and sometimes after a while they lose patients.

i dont know cause i love kids with a passion. :-)

Answer 13

i dont hate all kids, i just hate kids these days.  Most of them grow up with out any parenting at all and are spoiled.  most of them have no respect for anyone at all including themselves.  So when i say i hate kids, i just mean those types of kids.

Answer 14

I will tell you EXACTLY why people say this.

Because they are referring to those kids who HAVE ROTTEN PARENTS.  

Let me clue you in to something - children are NOT "adorable" just because they're children.

Snot-nosed rotten brats screaming and crying and running around like wild animals are NOT adorable. They are annoying.

I can think of nothing more unpleasant than being in a wonderful restaurant enjoying a delicious meal and being interrupted by LOUD boisterous, undisciplined children.

Or being in line at the post office or grocery store or wherever, and being subjected to yet another temper tantrum by Bobby Jo, who should be home TAKING A NAP instead of running errands with his clueless mother, who probably let him stay up till midnight watching movies on his DVD player in his own room.

SPOILED BRATS are not adorable, cute, or desirable.

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I'm sitting here laughing my butt off at the "thumbs down" since we all know the ones giving me those thumbs down and the rotten parents who allow their children to annoy all of the rest of us.

Make your d**n kids go to bed at a decent hour, why doncha.

Answer 15

i don't hate them but i can't connect with them bcos i didnt have mush of a childhood...don't even ask me too lol...some people are like that until they become parents themselves.

Answer 16

Kids require a lot of patience, which is something not many people have these days.

It's not often kids in general that people hate, it's badly-behaved kids and their parents. For some people, 'badly behaved' can mean the brat sitting in the plane behind you that won't stop kicking your chair and is throwing spit balls at you while mama panders to her little darling, for other people, it's any child that isn't 'seen but not heard'! It's so easy to judge the harrased mum at the supermarket whose toddler is throwing a tantrum, or the worn-out parents at McDs whose kids are letting off some steam after four hours in a car. Harder to be in their position though.

Answer 17

It is obvious that they forgot how they acted when they were children.

Answer 18

I don't hate kids, but I certainally don't have tolerance for children at all. Kids are just not for me and kinda make me nervous.

People always ask me that. I may not stand kids, but I don't hate them.

Answer 19

some people hate kids because first,they (those people who hate,not the children) may still be in their teenage years,therefore not mature yet.older people don't really necessarily hate kids,but just can't tolerate them.other people say they hate kids because they don't have one of their own,so they don't know the feeling of being a parent.and yes,others also think that they were not like that when they were kids,so they tend to get annoyed to some children who are not like them when they were young.

Answer 20

My father taught me early in life to hate kids.

He often expressed how much better life would be if we hadn't come along.

He couldn't understand what he ever did to deserve us.

My mother said I was the best mistake she ever made, which helped.

To me they are a constant reminder of the lack of control humans seem to have

over their own actions.

I chose to not have any and stand by my decision.

Babies are much too annoying and smelly.

Answer 21

I don't think it's hatred so much as they just don't understand kids.  Kids are learning how to be good, moral, ethical adults by testing boundaries and "being naughty."

Answer 22

They're scared of little people. Since they think that children should be controlled since they are small, and find out the hard way you can't control this person who is small but thinks he/she is huge! I think it's funny. Don't worry too much about it though especially if you have a child, they'll come around or leave.

Answer 23

i lv kids.

Answer 24

Sounds like they may have hated their childhood. You think?

Answer 25

I can't stand kids.

I find them extremely annoying and irritating. Now, I love BABIES and toddlers, but from kindergaten on to about....7th or 8th grade I can't stand them.

Sorry.

I know I was a child once, but...I didn't have to deal with me. lol

Answer 26

Hmm...It seems like it could be because they forgot what it's like and maybe they aren't able to empathize with those that are different from themselves.

It's hard being around kids. You have to watch what you say and how you say it. You have to put up with some undesirable behavior. It can be a challenge. Some adults don't want to be bothered. It's not convenient. It limits their freedom.

Some people are just too selfish.

edit: I like kids. I had a happy childhood. It's not always being around my stepkids but I think that is an entirely different matter. I have no say in how they are raised but I have to deal with the effects. That is a challenge and good thing that I like a challenge. If I didn't then I would have been long gone. TG for forums like this where I can ask questions. It does help.

Answer 27

Usually, people mean that they hate obnoxious, ill-behaved children who make a lot of noise, damage property, say rude things, etc., not that they hate all kids. Children, like adults, come in all personality types, and some are harder to deal with than others. Add to that the fact that some people are much more sensitive than others, especially when it comes to things like noise. As people get older, things like that tend to bother them more.