Why do some women ask why their child is a hooligan and then get offended?

Question

Why do some women ask questions and vent about how their young child is so "bad" and screams at them (back) and hits etc. and then get mad when people tell them it's their fault for parenting poorly and allowing them to do this stuff?

Answer 1

I do not know. But sometimes maybe the parent has tried everything for their child and really needs the help. On answers, I assume that is is the latter and they have tried everything and need help. But with people in real life asking the question, that you have seen how they parent and know that their parenting is the cause, it is hard to bit your tongue and say nothing. I just try to be nicer about it if they complain, like maybe you shouldn't let her get what she wants or maybe you should let her cry that tantrum out.

Answer 2

A good way is to respond to these questions in a friendly way. I.E. "Oh, he's not such a hooligan. All kids go through a stage like that. When my little Georgey does that i just put him in time out for a few minutes."

You don't have to come out and say "because you're pretty much a crappy parent"

Have a little tact, ppl!

Answer 3

Well preciscely  Hooligen is an asian name for suck my anal. Would you like to be called that? NO! So you just have to realise what your going through is completely normal. But never I mean never call a child a hooligan you sick sick b*****d!

Answer 4

Cause maybe it's not their fault?

No parent is perfect, sometimes you just don't find a way to comunicate with a child in a way that he would listen and trust you. Teenagers especially are very difficult to comunicate with, they tend to care less about the family and more about their friends - wich is normal, it is a part of their age. Even the "perfect" education can fail with a teenager because it's hard to know what they are thinking, what they need

Answer 5

I ask myself the same thing.  It's amazing how so many parents want to point the finger at anyone or anywhere but themselves.

Answer 6

I know people just like this!  I don't know why they do this.  But I also don't understand why people tell someone that their kid is bad.  There are other words that can be used.