Why do some women become bridezillas?

Question

I mean, why do they have to feel the need to spend 100 thousand + on a wedding? What do they want more, to be married or a fancy party?

Because if it's a fancy party they want, they can have one anytime. A wedding should be special of course, but does it have to cost as much as a college degree or a house?

Answer 1

I agree, it's stupid!!!

Answer 2

Because they are stupid spoiled brats.

They have waited their entire life to be "princess Di" and expect everyone in their family, their friends and preferably the entire world to stop, drop and pay them homage.

They don't care about the money it is all about their day and their gigantic egos

Answer 3

Honestly I think its just an excuse to spend a lot, I personily wouldnt spend that much a wedding when you could buy a house with that money and have a small wedding with your family and friends and a party after but it is a huge day alot of cultures take it really seriously and if you have the money why not right?

The wedding industry is really expensive too though, everything has its cost so alot of the time they are spending more then they even wanted to spend

(the average cost of a wedding right now is  $30,000), most times they go into planing the wedding with really big ideas and how they want the wedding but they never really knew what the costs where before...So they have this image in their heads that they have to have and before they know it they are over budget all because their wedding cant be a small affair it has to be memorable to everyone that attended and it has to be different.

Lol Im going to be a wedding planner so I had to look at costs of everything and it all adds up quick, but honestly its all worth it because at the end of the day its not going to matter you'l be happy and everything will all work out.

Answer 4

are allllll your questions on here complaints?

no one wants to hear you complain..stop the bitchin

Answer 5

Its not just rich brides who become bridezillas. My wedding is only abut $7,000 and I've come close to losing my mind.

I mean, I went in to pick up my wedding dress from alterations today to find out that the assistant had disregarded the alteration specialist's pin markings and had taken my dress in about 3 inches TOO much, so we couldn't get it zipped up...and my wedding is in 3 weeks.

So I probably would have turned into a bridezilla had the alterations lady not immediatly offered to put a rush on it and let us pick it up from her own home on wednesday.

People turn into bridezillas because they want things to be pretty and to work out, and I don't blame them too much. Apparently you haven't planned a wedding because you have no idea how much guesswork is involved (will the flowers REALLY be great? Is the cake going to have something wrong with it? etc). Brideziallas just want things to go their way and they want to be able to control the uncontrollable elements of their wedding.

A wedding doesn't need to cost THAT much, but for some people thats what they want. I personally wouldn't mind being a guest to one of those weddings.

Answer 6

I SWORE that I wouldn't become one, but here are a FEW of the reasons that I AM in fact becoming Bridezilla!!!!

   My Bridesmaids called me right after we announced the engagement and offered ed to pay for the DJ.  I never expected anyone to pay for anything for me so I was thrilled that they offered.  Then they told us two months before the wedding that they can't afford it.  NOW I have to rework a budget.

   My fiance' made a list of 9 guests.  Then kept akin me why so-and-so didn't get an invitation.  

   I have lists and lists of things that I need to get done (in the next 20 days) and while every one of the 3 bridesmaids keeps telling me that they will do anything to help, they are always busy when I need something.

   My  MOH  (who is only 17 and not able to plan or participate) purchased all kinds of goodies for a "Girl's Night" party, yet the other "Girls" didn't plan one.  (I'm NOT upset that I'm NOT getting one, I'm upset because one of them DID think of it, and for some reason the others decided NOT to do it.)

  I put a list of local hotels in all of the out of town invites, along with phone numbers and addresses, yet people keep calling and emailing asking me to recommend a hotel.

  80 invites (so 80 RSVP cards) and 30 of them came back.  I meet the caterer in a few days and I'm calling everyone asking if they are coming or not.  (I've gotten, "Oh, I didn't send it back, you knew I'd be there"....."Oh I figured you'd know we couldn't make it"

   A very close freind who'd agreed to sing for us, has decided she can't afford to come.  (only had a year notice!)

  And it's something new every day.  I'm trying very very hard NOT to start screaming!

  Have a Happy Day!!!

    

Answer 7

I agree - I think it's ridiculous.

I think they turn into "Bridezillas" because they put too much emphasis on living their "dream wedding" which has been instilled in them since childhood by reading fairy tales etc., etc.,  I believe that most of these women are spoiled to begin with (financially and emotionally) and the nerves and pressure attached to a wedding just bring out the worst in them.

Personally, my husband and I were quite happy to be married with only 3 guests in attendance - we're not out to prove ourselves to everyone - just to each other!!!

I feel bad for their hubbies!!!

Answer 8

If they have the available funds to spend 100 grand plus then that's their good fortune. Most people actuallly don't spend this much.

Average is somewhere in the 20 grand mark. And at 20 grand it can still be fancy, well even below 20 grand it could be fancy. It's just how you execute your details.

I would never personally spend that much on a wedding. I already have a house though so if I wanted to spend that much it really shouldn't bother anyone else.

To each their own.

Mine is costing roughly around $20,000  and is by far fancy fancy. It is formal but not over the top fancy. All the little things add up too.

Also geography plays a huge part in the cost of a wedding.

Having a fancy wedding or how much one spends does not make them bridezilla though.

Bridezilla is being disrespectful to people because one thinks "I'm the bride, it's my day" and pouts about anything that may not be exactly as she wants.

Answer 9

Women who become materialistic Bridezillas are normally very excessive and over the top to being with.  So, they might be spending 100K on a wedding, but that's not abnormal behavior for them.  They also have to have the best clothes, the best cars, the best house, the best everything.  The wedding is just an extension of their everyday standards and way of life.

As for attitude, I believe the same goes for bridezillas.  All women get stressed planning a wedding they may have a moment or two, that's normal and fine.   But, the true definition of a Bridezilla is someone that stomps all over everyone's opinions and feelings. It's a women who thinks she's the center of the universe.   That type of a women shows those behaviors and those characteristics outside of wedding plan.  It's really who they are.   A stressful event like a wedding just magnifies these traits.

I say, if you can afford it, do it.  It's your money,  not mine.  But, just be nice to everyone around you.  Nothing wrong with spending your own money, just don't be a spiteful little B while doing it.

Answer 10

it's funny cause i just watched a show about that.

sabrina from sabrina the teenage witch turned into a dragon

because she was being ugly to the others around her because

she wanted her wedding to be perfect.

It's because they want the fairytale wedding, like cinderella

and they want everything to be perfect. And nothing is perfect

so as always they get upset and stomp around. but that's

not the case for everyone.

Answer 11

a bridezilla usually describes a bride as being very touchy about the details, expects the MOST out of her bridesmaids, esp. MOH and the rest of the women in her family.

I would guess the reason a bride would become a bridezilla is because she is used to being controlling, and feels like there is so much to do with a wedding, she can't always control it, so she lashes out at who she thinks was at fault for the given circumstance.

She expects to have the utmost loyalty from her party, whether that be making them buy an overly expensive dress that everyone but the bride thinks is hideous, or throwing an elaborate shower when she expects to rreceiveONLY gifts from the registry.

as for the cost issue, almost ALL women (not just bridezillas) dream about their wedding from the first time she sees Cinderella. we have this picture in our mind of how we want our wedding to be beautiful and elegant, and sometimes that will cost more than $10K. it's just the fantasy of our prince charming sweeping us off our designer-clad feet in a gown fit for a princess that has been engraved in our minds since we were children.

btw, i'm not justifying anything, just explaining.

Answer 12

Being a bridezilla doesn't mean there is going to be an expensive wedding. A bridezilla is a bride who has to have everything her way, is mean to people who are helping and are taking abnormal control of everything. Some women just want expensive weddings because of a fantasy they have had. Some other girls also have a jealousy thing and need to be doing better than anyone else, they want to do better and be better. It's their ONE day, so I guess they want to go full out. To each his own, right?

Answer 13

Because, if they're lucky, this will only happen once in their lives.  They will only wear that dress once, be that weight once and look that beautiful.  Also it will the only time that all of their friends and family, both sides, will be in the same room  at the same time and honestly, they just want everything to be perfect, like they always imagined it to be.  However, a lot of brides end up concentrating too much on the materialistic aspects of the wedding and forget what is truly important--the marriage.  That's why they become bridezillas.  I'm not condoning their behavior just ackowledging it.