Why do some women change their attitude from good to bad if they get married?

Question

i mean when you are boyfriend and girlfriend , the women is so nice and caring and nice to your kids but once you get married, their attitude change.. just why?

what makes them change is it the ring on the finger or wat.....

not every women is like that but most of them.

Answer 1

Any woman or MAN that changes after marriage, were married either too fast or for all the wrong reasons.

Too fast is when they marry someone that they don't even know!  After marriage is when they begin to know each other and then realize that they don't love each other.

The wrong reasons.  Reasons like because she got pregnant, or because she would love to have a wedding, or because they could make more money together, etc.  If it's not because they love each other, the way they treat each other will change and they will wind up filing for divorce.

Answer 2

She is nice and caring because she wants to become your wife, once she is, she sees no point.  I base it on improper training.  Little girls should be taught how to be a good wife, just like little boys should be taught how to be a good husband.  I hate when people change after marriage, i think it is unfair and selfish as h**l.  Then you wonder why your spouse eyes get to wondering, cause you stopped being the person they fell in love with.  they change cause they say "oh i got them", what a crock.

Answer 3

It's the ring, once placed on the finger, it blocks the nice nerve impulses to the brain and all heck breaks loose.   God Bless.

Answer 4

their feeling the stress comeing down onto them maby the tought of being replaced or cheated on or love is not what they thought it would be or or shes regreting getting married  

Answer 5

i think it's because women have such high expectations for what they think marriage should be, and when they get married, they find out it's not all it's cracked up to be, so they become bitter.

Answer 6

This is so sad, I have heard many times that a couple have lived together very happily for years then get married & everything changes!

It is really strange & I have vowed it will not happen to me! My attitude is, I never want to be a boring wife but want to keep that s**y element in my marriage, like when an affair is new.

I know many women do 'let themselves go' once they have hooked their man & suddenly become less interested in s*x etc.  Being tired from looking after children can be a problem, it is always a difficult time especially when there are step children, just give it time.

Answer 7

Mate i don't know why we change.

my husband said he feels for you and he know what you mean!!!

i do feel we change and my husband and i were just talking about this.

i have changed and i don't know why.Is it because we feel comfortable or is it we feel more stress with life.

With me i feel that if one thing is not right no matter how small it is,everything suffers until that one thing is fixed and sometimes this can go on for weeks.

I guess my husband has just become accepting of the way i am.

i hope this helps a Little  

  

Answer 8

Well, they are more secure and feel more comfortable to be themselves.

Answer 9

Because by time they get you to marry them, they feel like they've attained you permanently and no longer have to impress you so you get to see the truth nature of women.

Answer 10

Everybody puts on their best face when they are dating.  Women say the same thing about men, so it is not a gender thing.  Maybe if you tried to be more considerate and kind to your wife she would do the same for you.  If that does not work, then you probably have married a person who is not suited for a relationship.

Answer 11

its all part of the evil plan to take the world from men.

Answer 12

Sometimes just the fact that with marriage comes commitment can cause men and women to react differently. It is more so that there is no longer an easy out if things go wrong. Its the final step in making the relationship a lifelong bond, like buyers remorse, you start to think about it more after it is final, and there is no turning back.

Time will usually fix the problems, and attitudes will subside... Understanding, caring and compassion will go a long way to smoothing out the waters... If its really love, time will mend all!!  

Answer 13

well to me i think that when you are dating you don't wanna show your real self to a person. you want to be the best that can be. but when you know that you are going to be with this person forever your true self comes out.

Answer 14

For some , it's the time when half their assets go to them then their secure if the male half divorces, in other words, their very secure. FOR SOME. Only.

Answer 15

generally its because the husband begins to order her around... men change attitude too

Answer 16

The ring gives them teh false security that they have arrived and nothing will touch them anymore.  It also comes down to the fact that the woman was pretending to be somebody else and now she can no longer keep up with that person and is starting to come out as herself.

Answer 17

This is why people need to live together before getting married.  You find out what they are REALLY like when they have a bad day, upon rising, when ill, when bored... You are correct about some women...they do change after marriage...some think they no longer need to work at the relationship because that's already in the bag, but some men are the same..both are guilty of letting themselves go, basically being lazy. I guess people need to find mates they want to be lazy with. Boy that sounds sad. I'm glad I am single. Marriage should be about wanting your partner to feel loved at all times, going above and beyond the ordinary, trying your a** off..everything good takes work.

Answer 18

it's genetic

men hunt

women are prey but realistically women hunt and make men think they are hunters.

women do whatever possible to catch their man - oral, swallow, being nice... weds the man and everything stops because she got what she wanted... now she has to stick it out until she is married long enough to divorce and take half of the mans worth and pension.

then she moves on to the next victim

Answer 19

.,maybe it's because they are getting sick of what she sees in every single day of his life..

.,maybe.. those women that you were talking to are

not that happy with their husband..

.,maybe, they think that their life seems so miserable,

because of those problems that they are going through-

with her husband or with her children..

.,or..

.,maybe, they are fallen out of love with her husband..

so she's acting like that..