Why do some women hide or are ashamed... ?

Question

of their sexuality??

I am a 25 year old woman in a 6+ year relationsihip, very comfortable in my skin. So many of my friends come to me to ask simple questions regarding intimate life... I am always surprised by the questions, wondering why their mother or partner did not go over this with them or help them exp. certain things in a positive light.

This is a serious question... Please be mature about it thanks..

Answer 1

B/c a lot of us want to wait until we are married to have s*x!

A 6 year relationship and he hasn't propose, sweety that is not going anywhere!  No wonder you say you are comfortable!

Answer 2

Martina's answer was rude and pathetic. Im sorry but I dont believe in waiting for marriage, thats fine if you want to do that Martina, but dont put your bible thumping lifestyle on others. Women shouldnt be ashames to be sexual. So many men, get married to women that never have had s*x and then they find out how frigid the woman is and it ultimately ends the marriage. s*x isnt bad, its a necessity of life. I totally agree with you, that people should talk about it more with their family, but I think also we need to stop glorifying it on television and sticking it in people's faces.

Answer 3

Don't mean to bring religion into it, but it's impossible to have an objective view of this issue without considering that that is exactly what taught us to deny our natural characteristics and sexual needs by claiming those are sin. Parents therefore feel uncomfortable talking to their children about anything related to the subject. It also breads lack of will to seek knowledge... I was 9 when my menses 1st came and since all other girls have not had them yet and my Christian mother have never told me anything about my lower part of the body but to keep my hands away from it I thought I was very sick. Not until it has stopped and came back few time again did I realize that it must be something that is happening in nature. ...Slowly my peers started approaching the age of puberty and we began talking. To this day I have never spoken to my mother or she to me about anything related to physiology.

Answer 4

Excellent question.

I think that a huge part of the problem is the idea that a sexually confident woman is the same as a promiscuous woman. Sadly there are double standards - men with a fruity sexual past are considered 'stallions' and a woman of the same experience is often thought of as some kind of soulless man eater. I personally feel it's in part to do with the media's depiction of a 'good woman' still being a motherly figure. God forbid we females wish to have fulfilling s*x WITHOUT the inconvenience of childbirth and eighteen years of slavery.

Another point is that men have held s*x over women since the dawn of time. Rape and pornography etc. Unfortunately the truth is that men are all to often useless in bed (not that they'd ever know, with us females being expert at the fake o****m) but a man will probably never experience trouble climaxing, where as women often find the opposite to be true.

The key is to do like you and I, communicate to your partner the best way to make a female o****m. Sadly, most men of our generation have learnt all they know from pornography, which of course is absolutely not how to make a woman o****m.

Answer 5

We, as women, are trained to hide our sexuality, as odd as that might sound in today's s*x-driven media.

We are taught to look upon the women in the media as a bad thing to aspire to: All of their dirty laundry is out in public, and people mock them for it all the time.

We're taught that the worst thing is a bad reputation. s*x is a dirty nasty thing, and people are embarrassed to talk about it with any but their closest friends. I can understand their mother not explaining things, but when they can't even do research on their own (via internet, pornography, books, and their mate) that's the real problem.

Answer 6

I don't know, because I feel the same way! I am 25 also and my closest friends and I are very open about that kind of stuff. But, every now and then we'll get that random friend that asks a question that they should have known like 10 years ago!