Why do some women not care about protecting their children from drama?

Question

Chidren in the middle of divorce, or visitation is what i'm talking about. I don't let my kids see me sweat over an old ex, but so many women around me do & say such bad stuff right in front of their kids?

Answer 1

Same reason why some men will abuse and kill mothers right in front of their children. Thinking of no one but themselves.

EDIT

I always thought it was in poor taste for divorcing people to bad mouth the ex-spouse in front of kids. In fact, there's even a name for that: parental alienation syndrome.  One of the more famous cases:  Kim Basinger and Alec Baldwin.

Answer 2

because they do not care about anything other than themselves in the first place, and we all know how kids are, monkey see monkey do and the beat goes on!

Answer 3

Nice move Musica!  Taking the opportunity to point out that men are violent thugs.  What a cheap shot!  It's true that many women do things like that!  Using the children to punish the ex is morally criminal!  My wife's mother alienated her from her father at the age of four, and it was thirty years later that she finally "tried" to develop a relationship with him again.  All for no other reason than because the mother was crazy and rotten!  Let's address the issue without the men vs. women c**p!  I'm taking the side against the person who's wrong on any given issue, male or female!  Whatever your problem with men is Musica, blame the culprit, not the rest of us!

Answer 4

Because the children are mere weapons.  The most effective way to punish men in some individuals opinion is to turn his children against him.

Answer 5

Parental Alienation Syndrome - it is REAL.

Answer 6

Same reason SOME men do

Answer 7

Obviously most women DO care.  But especially in the middle of an incredibly stressful situation like divorce, most people aren't thinking clearly and tend to react emotionally, rather than intellectually.

Perhaps, when you next encounter this situation, it might be helpful if you pulled the individual aside and asked if they wanted to talk- offering an acceptable outlet while refraining from being judgmental.

Answer 8

What kind of drama are you referring to here? In the cases of mothers who won't protect their children from abusers, pedophiles, and addicts, yeah, that's messed up. But if you're talking about backstabbing, jealousy, and general b__chiness, you have to be more lax; you can't cushion a child against absolutely every blow.

Answer 9

Both parents are guilty of bad-mouthing the other parent, and it is very abusive to the children.  It would be bad enough is someone outside of your family said something bad about one of your parents, but you could walk away, or say something back at them.  Also, you don't really care about other people's opinions.  When it is your own parent, the hurt is deeper, and the children can't walk away or talk back, if they are little.

Answer 10

Because they don't want anything bad to happen to their child or family. Mothers are, let's face it, usually the ones who take care of the kids and keep the family together. They don't need any more drama than they already have.

Answer 11

In what context? This is quite vague.

Oooh - ok. Well, you gotta think that not everyone handles stress or events such as divorce very well, and you never know what goes on behind closed doors.

My mother bad-mouthed my dad, and tried to make to where we (my brother and me) wouldn't want to see him. So depending on the circumstances would depend on how well it's handled. Of course my mother was so abusive to me I wound up living with my dad anyway.

Divorce is tough (I'm divorced with no children), and having to keep it together for work, friends, family and children is hard. I would hope for the most part that it's not intentional, but Momma letting off some steam.

However - she shouldn't make it to where the kids have to choose between the two. That hurts kids more than parents realize. Custody should be chosen for what's best for the children and NOT what is best or more lucrative (child support) to either party.