Why do stalkers become more violent as time pass ?

Question

What does it means when the stalker becomes more and more violent?

and then they lose completly the strenght ? what could have happened ?

passing all the borders and with no limit to attack , losing control ? insulting without control.... that s passing in an internet anonymous forum...trying to use more hurtiful words and including facts from the stalked family , using that too... thanks nice day

Answer 1

h**l we don't become more violent we're already psycho as it is.

Answer 2

Print her posts off the minute you see them so that even if she deletes them you will have evidence.  Build up a file of times dates etc and  and save the posts on disk or flash by cutting and pasting them onto a Word document.  If this is an Internet site then contact them and see if they will do some thing and threaten them with legal action if they don't protect you from her as cyber bullying is, I believe, illegal.  Other than that the only way is to avoid the site she goes on but why should you?  Sorry I have no other ideas of how to help.

Edit

Be careful of how you answer her from now on if you want the police involved as they will not have seen your previous posts to her so they could claim you are antagonising her. If she's that clever and manipulative she will know how to turn the tables to make herself the victim.

2nd Edit

I found this about cyber stalking.  I have not read it all see if it has any helpful points in it to help you stop her, as from the brief flick over it I did it looks like in Britain it is a criminal offence

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyberstalki...

Answer 3

I think the obsession is like an addiction.  Eventually, they get used to their fix on their obsession and they need more.  As time goes on, they need more and more and this need frustrates them to the point of acting out violently.  It's like what happens to someone if you starve them to death.  Never stand between a starving dog and a piece of meat.

Answer 4

It's obsession , the self control goes and violence escalates possibly to fatal results in reality , borders are lost because there is a sense of victory achievement in the humiliation that would eventually bring about subjugation , some sexual drive or a link with sexual drive is apparent with jealousy or similar emotion at play and rage being a result . To discover the emotive underlying  issue is time consuming but the insults would be interesting to read and would give a clue to the aims or drive of a stalker , lot of it about , interesting subject , plus a lot of  phobia about , some people shouting stalker stalker is becoming common . EDIT - sensible suggestion above as if the energy can be diverted into productive means eh! world class flower arranger or potter .

Answer 5

Have you thought about taking up a sport? Maybe pottery class or flower arranging?

Answer 6

Plain stalking just gets too boring after a bit.  

Answer 7

I was gonna say frustration.. but I like what "nsaneth.." said better.. nail on the head...  

Answer 8

If that girl is still stalking you suggest that a restraining order may be needed or let other people in that forum know what she is doing and that she is bullying you.  That way there will be many eyes watching out for it.

Answer 9

Hi,

I have been the victim of two stalkers in my life.  The first was my husband.  It began as a Domestic Violence issueand then when, after ten years, I put him in jail and left him, he then became a stalker.  I got an Order Of Protection again him and he moved out of the house and got a motel rooms just out of the jurisdiction for a year.  This way he could drive by anytime to see if there was any other cars in my driveway or any other men at my home.  Which never happened in my case because I turned my focus completely on my children and working to keep my home.

If I had following the typical 'battered wife pattern' I would have been someone who immediately sought out another man, but I am sure this person would have either disappeared or ended up with broken legs anyway.

The true definition of Domestic Violence includes the most important phrase 'Power & Control'.  This peson want to feel as if they control your ever move and have complete power over your life, and by being a victim it is usually fear that gives them exactly what they want.  When they feel they are losing any of that power or control their anger and violence escalates.  

I have figured out over the years that my husband was never abused physically, but had a mother who was (she passed not long ago) a complete Power & Control freak.  Physical violence is just one aspect... their are the other options these people have.  Psycholigical & verbal abuse.  If you are in a relationship there is the deletion of all your support systems: friends, family, etc.  They manage to completely get them out of your life so you have nobody to call or cry to for help.  And then, the is also monetarial coercion.  If you are dependant on them for your and possibly your children's existence finanacially in every way, they make sure you never have the money to get out or to run.

The most important thing to know is that 'a stalker' is someone you don't have to ever talk to again.  Once they begin stalking you... you must do everything you can to get them out of your life, most importantly KEEP CALLING THE POLICE.  Also keep a logbook of every incident, whether it be things shoved under your door, left on your door.  Let me explain my current problem and it will give you an idea.

There is a, I can't say man because he's an idiot, but a 43 year old male in my apartment building that is completely obsessed with me.  He has shoved pornographic c**p under my door, left a fallic symbol key chain hanging on my door, uses binoculars from his apartment building (I have seen him) to watch me in my apartment, walks around at all hours of the night to look up at my windows (which at one point in time I had staple gunned black sheets to cover the windows) and does everything he can to intimidate me.  I at first made the mistake of falling back into the victim mode.  Thus, the sheets, the fear of leaving my apartment, etc.  It was the p.t.s.d. from my former marriage that kicking in.  I woke up in my closet a few times and then finally I got pissed off.  I spent a few hours with the domestic violence counselor at the police department giving he details of everything, I went to the management office of the apartments I live in, I also had about 14 nasty, filthy, angry voice-mails I saved to play for these people.

He lives with his mother and father so basically they were all under the threat of being removed from the building.  

Guess what, he has a power & control freak for a mother... whodof thunkit?

Anyway, I have made friends with about 10 people in the building, who now are always watching to see if I am okay.  My very best friends live right below me, which helps.

Here has been the problem:  in Illinois, where I live, there are different types of laws against domestic violence and stalking.  Since I am not related to this guy and have never had a sexual relationship with him; I don't qualify for an Order of Protection.  They laws against stalking, which he has broken all of them, don't apply because he lives in the same building.  Ain't life grand?  Some of the police I have dealt with feel sorry for him and his parents, so they make a report and that's it.  I have explained to them that he is not on the lease here and I got, "he can visit his mother any time he wants to".  

This kind of gives you the idea of why a victim can turn into a corpse.

Instead of remaining scared, I continue to be ready at all times for anything.  I have quite a few self-defense classes under my belt and I use everthing I learn at all times when I am out of my apartment.  

I don't acknowledge him in any way and I journal every thing he does.  If and when the time comes I am fully prepared to support and defend myself.  I also have a good criminal defense attorney.

That is basically all I can say on the subject in that matter.

The only other information I can give is that there, at least here in the states, are a lot of resources available to victims in order to get counseling,