Why do the bad boys get rewarded and the nice guys shafted this isnt only true on a micro level?

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but also on a macro level. Just looks at how nice british and american society is to women and yet men get nothing back, quite the opposite after they are done paying for the house AND cleaning it, they get their money taken in divorce.

Now look at say dubai and afghanistan, if the portrayal of the media is correct everytime the men there think a woman steps out of line, they get a d**k up their butt (or worse). Shouldnt it be American and british men be the ones who get rewarded by their women instead of burdened and Afghan men (always assuming the media portrayal is accurate) the ones to loose their house money and children instead of having their every whim fulfilled by their wifes ?

Answer 1

YOU believe this in the say way you believe that marriage is terrible and every woman gets divroced and are goldiggers. It's not normal life.

Answer 2

have you ever been to Dubai or Afghanistan? Why don't you do us all a favor and move there?

Just because your ex-wife burned you, took the house, the kids and all the money you have, doesn't mean you need to place us all in the same category. We (as American women) have nothing to do with what she did to you.

Answer 3

Because the bad guys stick a gun to the women's head and the "good guys" (probably not all that great if they are getting divorced) don't.

EDIT- Remember the woman is getting divorce too.  You can be so gender-centric sometimes Cass.

Obviously there is more to it than the micro level (as you stated).  An abusive relationship is far worse than a divorce.

Answer 4

This is an old question

Bad boys are a challenge. Nice guys are not.

People appreciate things they have to WORK for. Nice guys work for girls. Bad boys make girls work for THEM.

Answer 5

Ok, I read your full question and it gets a bit convoluted and strange. So I'm not sure if my answer fits your long question too well, but I think it fits your shorter question about Bad Boys getting rewarded and Nice Guys getting shafted.

To me it sounds like you just got your butt handed to you by a woman and are really pissed. But I wrote this before I read everything so here it is.

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This is a question deserving of a book nearly but here is the slimmed down answer:

The difference between Bad Boys and everyone else which means so much to women is CONFIDENCE!!!!

Women's minds are programmed to seek out a man with Confidence the same way men's minds are programmed to seek out a woman who's young and attractive.

Ugly men can score big with women if they are able to project that magical element. Good looking men will be overlooked if they are without it. Basically, a woman is looking for a guy who's got his stuff together. We generally know if we do or if we're a mess. This comes from the subconscious (so it's hard to convincingly fake confidence (don't try it, they can smell a fake and you'll come off as a BS'er or even as creepy).

You subconscious is putting out signals about how you feel about yourself all the time and without your knowledge or control. Women are picking up on that and are likely to (for the most part) believe what you're putting off. So if you're shy, diffident, and seem to lack confidence, this is a sign that deep inside, you don't believe you have much value or power. Women will receive that signal and pretty much take your word for it. On the other hand, if you're able to put out signals that you're whole, that you're self-empowered, that you believe in your own worth without being egotistical, women will also largely take your word for it and find you more attractive - no matter how you look. Basically, don't get mad at the bad boys or at girls for liking them. It's waisted and misdirected energy. Because, just like most things, it's an Inside Job.

Answer 6

If you treat them too nice, they'll misbehave.

Answer 7

You're obsessed with the idea that women will take half of your stuff.

The bad boy thing doesn't work if the girl isn't willing to sleep with him but that's besides the point.

You're making it seem like women in these countries enjoy what you call giving to men that obviously treat them bad. In any marriage it's probably true that the wife would be willing to fulfill every whim of a husband if only she herself was satisfied.

Answer 8

It's very difficult to answer a question as incoherent as this but I'll do my best.

US and UK society is fairly progressive in it's treatment of women and overall, they enjoy some of the world's highest standards of living.

I'm not aware of any man who both fully finances his home and takes care of all the housework. If this man existed no woman would ever divorce him.

Comparing Afghanistan and Dubai is like oranges and apples. Dubai is a relatively stable city (or Emirate) with economic and political stability. The other is a country marred by years of violence and turmoil.

Life in Afghanistan is not a good one. The men who are most violent towards woman are the Taliban. They have been unseated and now live mostly in caves in the mountains with very little comforts and are quite frequently killed by foreign troops.

I don't think it is hard to see which is a better country for a man to live in and who gets more "rewards" in life.

Answer 9

How old are you? Twelve? If you're older then twelve, get to an institution of higher learning, FAST.

Last thing we need is more redneck, uneducated, mysoginist trailer trash.