Why do the courts make you pay more if you choose to leave your wife if she gets sick?

Question

i had a uncle his wife came down with a cancer and she was dealing with it for like 3 years and he just had enough of it and so he filed for divorced and they made him paid alimony for 5 years!

look i hope she makes it, but it was not his fault she got sick! so he should not have to pay to take care of her after he left

Answer 1

Because your uncle is a pompous a**. And you...

Answer 2

OMG!!  So much for "In sickness and in health" huh?  And that would be why he had to pay alimony.  What a crappy thing for him to do to her.  

But, for legalize sake, most likely if she has been sick for the last 3 years than most likely he has been the bread winner and possible the sole supporter.  Considering that she is still sick would make it seem likely that she can't run right out, get a job and support herself.  Because he has provided her with a certain standard of living he is legally obligated to continue to provide until such a time that she could do so herself.

For the record, your uncle sounds like a real jerk.  I wish that the judge had made him pay for longer.  

Answer 3

my husband did the same to me and i may have lung cancer,no its no reason to leave your husband or wife for their sickness maybe your uncle might get sick one day who gonna take care of him.yes the courts should make your uncle pay untill she dies sorry thats the way i feel

Answer 4

Wow, that was true love when you said your uncle got sick of his wife having cancer! Well, he sounds like about the most horrible man on earth. And you don't sound much better. I hope neither of you get sick. Do you think a better idea would be to have us taxpayers pay alimony instead?

Answer 5

good for her!! i hope you think about this when you are too sick to look after yourself let alone work to pay for your medical expenses...perhaps then you will understand.

Answer 6

Man that's COLD! Why shouldn't he have to pay? How's she going to look after herself? Your uncle is a complete a**h***. Ever heard of karma - look it up.

Answer 7

How is she support herself?  beg on the street?  for money?   What if  that happened to you?   How would you feel?  What would you really do?

Answer 8

Your uncle sounds like a jerk.  And you sound like you take after him.  Your uncle needs to check his marriage vows.  When he got married.  And you need to read them also.

Answer 9

Ok Aren't you and your uncle kind , loving , considerate, and not to mention compassionate? She is lucky to be rid of the b*****d. You don't divorce someone because you had enough of their cancer! When your aunt needed him the most he let her down, but most of all he should his family want an inconsiderate a$$ he really is. Just who is suppose to take care of her? if not him? For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. I guess he forgot his vows. She is so much better off with out him and you. I'm sure you haven't given her a second thought since the divorce.

Answer 10

In SICKNESS and in health.. DUDE! IT'S THE 1ST ONE!!

Answer 11

it depends on how long they were married and whether or not she was able to work while she is fighting her illness.

so yeah, since he decided to abandon her for a reason that wasn't her fault (it's not her fault she got sick either and the vows do say "in sickness and in health") then yeah he should have to help her out since leaving her would create an unnecessary hardship on her.  

this is one reason why when someone is deciding to divorce and one of them gets sick that they will postpone the divorce until after the crisis is over because they would have to help anyway.  

Answer 12

Scott fact of life is that your uncle choice to leave his wife.  He would have to pay her alimony whether she was ill or not.  Somehow I doubt that he had to pay her anything extra because she was battling this awful disease.  He knew his responsibilities when he wed this lady and obviously didn't take his vows too seriously.

Answer 13

What part of "In sickness and in health" are you confused about.........

Answer 14

wow yall are both douchebags.

poor woman! its not her fault she got cancer! what heartless pricks!!

Answer 15

They pay more because, frankly, it's heinous to do that to someone they are supposed to love and cherish...in sickness AND in health.  

Answer 16

How old are you 10 if you don't understand why he had to pay then your dad should have told you how much of a coward his brother was for leaving his wife. What if your mother got really sick and your dad left her. I bet you wouldn't think much of your dad after that.  

Answer 17

I agree... still sad that she is sick and alone, but so much for sickness or health... I think maybe the courts always s***w the man over and its hard to believe men want to get married...