Why do the people we love hurt us the most?

Question

Why do the people we love hurt us the most?

Answer 1

Familiarity breeds contempt.

Answer 2

Because you love them, so you wouldn't expect them to hurt you. You have trust in them!

Answer 3

In psychology, it has been shown that familiarity breeds liking.

But we all know familiarity breeds contempt.

It has also been shown in psych that love often attracts its opposite. Love is construed as a strong foundation from which it is safe to vent, and even project.  

Answer 4

Not everyone will be like that, and it gives the other person more control and power to that relashionship - witch is unhealthy.

Answer 5

Because we see them the most, so we are more exposed to them emotionally. Also, we don't really get too emotionally attached to those we rarely see or care about.

Answer 6

because you love them the most that's why the more love you get the more you hurt.

Answer 7

They don´t.

We FEEL HURT by them. That´s the difference.

Answer 8

The people we love the most, hurt us because they think they can get away with it with no repercussions. Or a forgiving loved one will always be there regardless of what we do to them. Most loved ones never think they are hurting the ones they love because, they only think they are hurting themselves. And when they only think they are hurting themselves, they tend to think that it will not any one else in the long run.

Answer 9

I know right?..It's so ironic. The people who you love, hurt you most.

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Answer 10

If you love someone, you value them and thier opinions more than you do a casual aquaintance. That makes you much more vulnerable to being hurt by them.

Answer 11

don't love first if you dont' really know the person, it's your problem if you fall in love and you didn't have the chance to understand the person deep inside. it's better to look inside the person first.

Answer 12

BECAUSE, IT IS WHAT IT IS............. SUCKS THO.

Answer 13

because... owahhhhh... i don't believe in "the more you hate the more you love" love, care, long sufferng is the best...

Answer 14

well when u love someone u usually hold everything they say and do personaly and when they hurt you, you take it 1000times harder than someone who u dont like.

people who u love posses a stronge influencce on u

xoxo

hope it helped

Answer 15

becoz they dont realize how much they luv us until we leave and until it would be too late  

Answer 16

They don't.

It's because we love them so much we get more and more sensitive to their actions towards us. That's why even if they don't mean to hurt us, we get hurt.

Answer 17

Easy, we love them. We give em our trust, let them into our lives, and then they crush us like bugs on a windshield. Normally you learn that the hard way, but the plus side is that you learn not to trust anyone again :D

Answer 18

Because we are emotionally attached to the people we love. They hurt us the most because we love them so much the little things they do affect us more.

Answer 19

Maybe they haven't learn to love themselves before loving other people, or they have gotten hurt in the past.

Answer 20

Because you dont care what someone you dont know is doing.  

Answer 21

We need to evaluate how can we love someone who hurts us and think maybe we should love ourselves moer and that this isnt love unless we have ZERO self worth.

Answer 22

Well, either they don't acknowledge the fact that you love them ("love" is a strong word, btw) or they're evil-minded subversive clowns who'll do ANYTHING for a laugh.