Why do unmarried women choose to have s*x and become mom?

Question

and cry: " my life is hard now since i am a single mom"

Answer 1

First of all I am a single mother and it is not always a choice that we make...sometimes that is where we are just left. Life is very hard for a single mother...and you have no right to judge us just because YOU are married and we never made it to that point or things didn't go as we planned...it is not a choice we made. You really should think about questions before you ask them...because that is not a question to be asked....

Answer 2

my mum has been with her partener for 15 years and has 2 children to him, she refuses to get married or engeged but she loves him dearly, it is totally irrelevent these days weva married or not!!! you dont need to be married to be a good mum, every one finds it hard sometimes weva your single or not!!!

Answer 3

Why do unmarried men choose to have s*x and become dads?

As Johnny's Mommy said, it's none of your business.  If you have nothing better to do with your time than judge others, you must really have a pathetic life.  

Also, please learn to form a sentence before criticizing others.

Answer 4

Life is hard being a mom no matter if you are single or married.

I'm a single mom.  I do think it is VERY hard.  But I honestly believe that if I was married, I would think the very same thing.

Why does it matter to you anyways?

Answer 5

because its fun!!!!!

Answer 6

Not all of them intended to become pregnant, although some did.

But parenting, whether you are single are married, is much easier from the outside looking in.  It's not until you actually become a parent that you realize that it can be a lot of hard work and very demanding.  I think younger girls in particular tend to have a romanticized notion about what it will be like to be a mother, and they have no idea what it's really like beforehand.

Answer 7

I know what you are saying...   an unmarried woman makes the choice to have s*x and sometimes ends up pregnant and then complains about the consequences.  

You are correct, everyone should understand the consequences of their actions and take accountability.  Many women (and men too) do not realize the full implication of the pregnancy risk and get caught up in the heat of the moment and have s*x.  Obviously, the choice should be to abstain if they are not absolutely sure they can accept the consequences.   This is the message that should be getting through to teenagers.  You can protect yourself and it can still fail and result in pregnancy.

However, everyone makes their own choices, that is the nature of our society and it is not for anyone else to judge.  

Answer 8

because it IS hard to be a single mom, and if they want to cry then let them do it...its none of your business anyway

Answer 9

There are so many ways to become a single mother. You should stop judging others, being a single mother IS hard, however you became one.

Answer 10

I never realized how mean a question I asked a few days ago was until I read this one.

To all I offended.......I am sorry.

Being a parent (period) is the hardest job in the entire world! Being a single parent (which 50% of all formerly married people end up being) is harder than anyone can possibly imagine!

There is not a parent in this world, single or not, who has never complained about how hard it is........because, without question, it is!

Answer 11

Marriage is a religious thing, and or based on convenience, some people don't believe in it.

And yes being a mother is hard either way. What is it to you? Hard feelings? Instead of asking a question that is offensive to quite a lot of people on here as they are single mothers, probably more than half of what makes up yahoo answers, tell them your story and why you are upset. Letting it out makes it feel better.

Answer 12

I chose to do that because I don't believe in marriage.  Unfortunately I split up with my child's dad after 12 years, but I never moan about life being so hard.  

And, there's loads of unarried women who have children but aren't single parents.  Not all of us feel the need to get married, some of us don't see the need for it and are quite happy not to, some of these women will end up being single parents, but a lot of them will stay with their partner for life.  

Other single parents have been married but their spouse has died, or they had to go through a divorce.  Is is ok for them because they've been married, or are you against all single mothers?

Answer 13

Anyone can become a single mom.  Your husband could come home from work today and tell you that he's met someone new and is leaving.  Karma is a *****.

And did you really wait until you were married to have s*x or did you just get lucky?  Kudos to you if you did but we aren't all perfect.