Why do we hurt the ones, we loved, rather then mean people out there ?

Question

I just do not get it at all and what our your thoughts.

Answer 1

Years ago I heard a story about "Cracked pots". I forgot how the story went, but I still remember what the essence was. When you look at a pair of lets say, clay pots, from a long distance. They look smooth and unblemished. The closer you come, the more cracks you"ll see. Standing in front of them, you'll notice they are full of cracks and the surface is uneven.

It is the same with people. The further they are removed from you (not by distance, but by relationship) the nicer they look. The lady at the supermarket or the man who works at the bank are very nice people, you think. And that is probably true. And you are nice back. But do you give the same courtesy to your family? Okay, of course you love them. But are you giving the same politeness to them as you would to the man at the bank? No, because you know your family well, you know all the "unevens" in their personalities. Suppose the lady at the supermarket says something unkind to you. Would you flare up and tell her so and so? Of course not. The less we know someone, the less we care! You would shrug your shoulders and think she was having a bad hair-day.

Teenagers are full of "unevens" as we all know. Most of it will be ironed out as they mature (well, let's hope for the best) but they really know how to hurt their parents at times. These "pots" are way too close to you, the other "pot". All the cracks are visible, because you know them well and they know you well. Suppose somebody else's teenager was shouting at you, would you still be that hurt? No, of course not. You would shrug your shoulders. But that other, far removed teenager wouldn't shout at you. He/she would not be able to notice your "unevens" and neither can you see theirs.And so they are polite to you.

Answer 2

I think it's easier to hurt the ones we love because we know that in the end,no matter what, they will still be there for you!!

Answer 3

when we are hurting we want to make a great impact mean people wouldn't give us this they would either hurt us more by beating us or just walk away unaffected.People we love will be hurt easily if we are mean to them because they question why and think you're supposed to love us yet you do this.The hurt and angry us needs that big impact so we turn to those we love who will also forgive us a lot quicker than a random person would.

Answer 4

cuz we dont know the mean ones, we hurt the ones we love cuz we know them more.  

Answer 5

As we grow up from the day we are born we trust and believe in our parents love. It is a given love that we are loved no matter what we do. We may get in trouble and make mistakes, big and small, but our parents still love us. As we move on and enter our adult years we have grown believing that love ,real true, love is something that will always be there and we will be forgiven for our mistakes. It turns out that we always hurt the ones we love because we trust them to forgive us and keep loving us through our mistakes.

Answer 6

Is that so, it all comes down to personality and

environment.  Some people are cruel even family members

, the true facts.

Answer 7

Love's very pain is sweet.

Answer 8

Coz ppl r puss*es. Won't fight against mean people.  

Answer 9

We find it easy to get mad at the one's we are close to because we know that they will always love us no matter what :)

Answer 10

because the people we love are the ones around us and the ones that care about us. Mean people don't care about you so they can't really be hurt by our/your actions.

Plus we don't hang around people that we don't like so how can we really hurt them.

Answer 11

because as humans we are afraid of getting hurt and to avoid it we push the ones we love the most away because we wouldnt really care if a mean person says something