Why do we interact with other people? What function does this behavior serve?

Question

And also, what does interacting with other people do for you and what problems and challenges in your environment does this interactive behavior solve?

Answer 1

Our interactions with people appear to go through cycles. One day people seem to be extra pleasant and the next they are walking all over us, making us feel rejected and not appreciated. Sometimes we feel so annoyed with people in general that we distance ourselves completely.

We live in a world filled with people, many who can do nothing else but fight with each other. Learning how to get along with each other makes life much more pleasant.

Have you ever noticed how two people can see the same event and come away with opposing conclusions? That is because we each wear a set of perceptual glasses, with which to view the world.

Our beliefs create perceptions, which then dictate how we perceive, judge, accept and act towards ourselves, and all those we come into contact with.

Each person really does see a different world relative to their beliefs. One person sees a half full glass while another sees a half empty one. One hears a beautiful bird song while another hears an annoying screech. One sees people being kind and helpful while another only sees those who are out to get for themselves.

Our perceptions can either make life pleasant or difficult, but we can modify them to create a more balanced view of the world. It is a very interesting subject covered in the outside world section in  Heal Your Self. Below are some excerpts to show the range of annoyances that can be removed from your life.

Many of us go through life believing people do things ‘to’ us, everyone is out to get us. We often gauge our self worth and emotions on how we perceive others reacting to us. Everything is from outside, continually aimed at and controlling our lives. Is that really so?

When we hold certain beliefs in and of ourselves, all our behaviors are affected. So the undeserving person acts unworthy, the unloved person acts unlovable etc. We radiate to the world what we think of ourselves and act as if they will treat us this way. Of course they oblige.

People often think their beliefs or path is better than another’s, or they know what’s best for you, and can appear to belittle your not holding the same beliefs. Who is to say what is correct, who is to know ones path is better than another’s? We each are on magical journeys, we each are equal. A leaf or bee is just as important as you and me; we are not better or worse than anything or anyone. We are a collection of humans and animals and earth, all undertaking a living experience.

What of our responsibility in how we treat other people. Are we kind and considerate, or are our behaviors based on our personal issues? Just because I am feeling unsure of myself, does that give me the right to treat another rudely or negatively? No. What of how we treat our loved ones, allowing all our fears and moods to hang out, regardless of the impact on them. What of our children? We are impatient and angry at something so yell at them. Is it in anyway related to their action, or our mood? The child has done nothing wrong, but will believe we act that way because we blame them for something. Children will take all actions we display towards them personally, just as we have been doing. We can cause severe harm to their self beliefs of being lovable, of value and worthy, simply because we forgot to keep our reactions to our emotions to ourselves.

You will begin to notice how whenever you are annoyed, impatient or critical of others, it is yourself you are really angry with. How you perceive and treat the outside is how you perceive and treat yourself. The mirrors work both ways.

Have you ever sat down and really noticed how hard you are on yourself? Have you ever listened to all the nasty things you say to and about yourself all day long? We would be horrified if another spoke to us like this and surely would not to someone else.

Some people’s lives are very difficult. They find themselves plagued by drama after drama, whether it is financial, physical, or those very odd situations that seem to happen just to them. The people who in one week loose their job, suffer the flu, have leaking pipes, a car breakdown, countless one in a million situations. Or those who no matter how hard they try, cannot secure employment, become healthy, make ends meet, or have any flow or peace in their lives. Some refer to themselves as being jinxed.

When people have lives like this, they naturally become pessimistic, always expecting and waiting for the worst to come, ‘the other penny to drop’. It can become a life of playing catch up from one drama to the next. It is very easy to give up hope and expectation of improvement, and feel like they are being dragged through life by their hair, fighting and screaming all the way. Such a sense of lack of power in ones own destiny can be demoralizing. It doesn’t have to be this way!

Answer 2

It's all a part of the total "Learning Experience" because it would not benefit anyone to be set off from the rest of the world.. even some of the morons here on Answers come up with the occasional good question or ideas.

Answer 3

Communication is the goal.

It's like asking, why 2 magnets are attracting, or why 2 opposing charges attract eachother.

Or it's like asking, why neurons connect with eachother and transmit electrical charges.

Or it's like asking, why do all things fall on earth and not go out in space...

Everywhere is communication. Communication is movement. Changing. transforming.

Ask god why did he do such a thing:P

Meanwhile enjoy the feeling of communication. If you don't feel like communicating with someone, then that's ok. U don't have to. U still are communicating because you are breathing, thinking, seeing, hearing, doing, moving, acting, smelling, tasting, dreaming, etc:P:P:P

And I don't say u have to forget this question..

It's good, actually is very good to ask these questions about life...

Only watching life as it is, life will show its meaning to you.

Enjoy ur position, because u are in a better position than many other people. They already "know" how life works:D, but somehow they are unhappier everyday.....

Hope this helps..