Why do we keep on fighting all the time?

Question

Me and my brother are at it all the time and its a pain in the ***. Am i the jerk here or is he? He recently got a ps3 and of course he wont let me play it. i ask him all the time and everytime he says no. when i talk to him he ignores me which makes me mad as h**l. so i start yeling at him for ignoring me. then he will come back with calling me a w***e or fat(even tho im not) or stupid. he knows it hurts my feelings. im tired of coming home from school to more bullshit. i cant take it anymore. i just feel like disappearing. what should i do? i dont want to ignore him i want to be a good sister and to have the relationship my mom has with her brother. i dont want to not talk to him ever wen i move out. What should i do, how can i stop all this fighting? plz help me.

Answer 1

If it's his ps3 he doesn't HAVE to let you play, right?  And I'm assuming it's still a little new?

Sisters have been manipulating brothers since time began.  What's his weakeness?  Cookies?  Bake some.  Can you do a chore he hates for him?  Negotiate, and smile sweetly.

Answer 2

Tell your parents.

Answer 3

Try to talk to him and tell him what you feel.  That is the best thing you could do.  Be honest and tell him you love him and you don't want fights.

Answer 4

All brothers and sisters fight. My brother took my things to use simply because they were my things.

Your mother and her brother were probably no different, but after both of you move out of your parents' house and make your own way in the world, a shift happens and you become true adults.

This past 2 years after our dad died, and our mother was hospitalized and we all had to pitch in and pack up and maintain the ranch for sale, my 2 sisters and brother and I became a lot closer... and somehow my brother wasn't the selfish jerk he was growing up.

Just keep your stuff to yourself and leave his stuff to himself. Get your own games. Treat him to the cranky hormonal stranger he is.

Get a keyed locking doorknob on your bedroom door if you have to in order to maintain this separation.

I hope he isn't addicted to that friggin' game... he might never date or get a life for himself.

Answer 5

Well to tell you the truth i dot think theres anyting you can do brothers will be brothers unless you sit down with him and your mom and say you need to have a serious talk about it

Answer 6

Have you told your parents about this? Asked for help from your mom? Ask her how she managed to have a good relationship with her brother. I have a feeling it will just take time. Let him be. Just because you're having problems now doesn't mean it's gonna continue.

Answer 7

Is he your younger brother??? If he is then talking probably will not help. Try to act a little like a "kool" sister. I mean take him somewhere with his friends. About ps3...i dont know honestly...find some games online =]  Try talking to your brother about things you have in common. There HAS to be some..you are related right..??! lol I hope I helped <33

Answer 8

Time can help a relationship. It may help also when you are not seeing each other all the time.

Answer 9

Talk to your mom and ask her to be an unbiased mediator. Especially if she (or your parents) paid for it, ask her to give you some days or times that you can play it.

Answer 10

Pretend you dont care about his ps3. Also just be nice. Dont argue. When the situation turns to an argument. just change the subject. Dont feed into the argument or you will just end up in the same boat all over again.