Why do wives get mad at the other women instead of their husbands?

Question

Wives know they husband cheat and decide to stay with them, to me your no better than the other woman. Half the times the husband don't tell these woman their married and their feelings get all caught up. Thats why its so many men who cheat because wives don't divorce them when they cheat. Then the wife mad at the world if you decide to stay with a cheater then you have to accept what comes with it. I wish the wives will stop being so stupid and stop blaming other women, their not the homewrecker, your husband is!

Answer 1

Good question!  I wonder that exact question myself.

I suppose it could be the emotional investment that some women feel they have in a man and the relationship with him -- or it could be everything materialistic the wife is afraid of losing -- or it could be that good old co-dependency reaction that helps them blame everyone else except themselves, and thus their husbands.

Answer 2

I think a lot of women feel their so less attractive and feel their worthless.  

I agree with you.  It's the husbands fault!!  Women  and men both ( I've seen men take it out on the other man).  have to place all blame on their spouses!   They made the vows and broke them.............the hoes, or neighbors or mr. stud   didn't.

Answer 3

if she dont no then cool if she does she needs her *** beat, hit him and then leave him

Answer 4

I think initially a woman will lash out at the other woman but this by no means lets the man off the hook. If not right away then it will be later. There may be a cooling off time where they try to repair the marriage, but sometimes it breaks down when the woman realizes it was all him to begin with and thathe can't be trusted again. There's no rulebook for this of course, but in my view a woman wants to get that B!73# away from her husband before dealing with his MF-ing @$$.

Answer 5

Well my man would definately get the fat stick of it. I mean he's the one who vowed to stay commited not her! I would definately whip her butt if she had a smart mouth about though. You can't always blame the girl because they may not have even known about you. I was going out with this guy and he told me that his FIANCE was his "stalker" that was his excuse for her popping up, calling his phone all day, trying to fight me, trying to run me over in her car etc... Anyways I found out that he was a dirty *** liar! So I know how it feels to be the other woman. You only know what he tells you.

Answer 6

Wait a minute.  It is normal for the wife to be angry at the other woman.  The other woman knew he was married and should have enough respect for his marriage to have the "hands off" approach and not cross that line.  Men don't cheat with non willing women.  It is those who don't care that cheat with married men.  They need to have an adjustment too.  If another woman went after my husband, I would claw out her eyes and then some, but let's not get into the other.  What I would do with my husband will be discussed with him in private, but I would make sure that other woman will be taking her life in her own hands if she contacts him again.

Answer 7

They like to believe that their husband was just seduced and had no control, and that he still only loves her. It's easy to blame "some little s**t" who is a master of homewercking rather than admit that he may just not be satisfied with his wife.  

Answer 8

It is he husbands fault. But women cheat too now a days. When you marry, you have to take the good with the bad. Sometimes people forgive their cheating spouses. Forgiving is a part of marriage. But for some people, cheating is the ultimate betrayal. To each their own. Point is you have to just trust in e/o because you can't control a person only deal with the situation.  

Answer 9

The wives who've been cheated on want someone to be angry at and the other woman seems to be just the person they're looking for.  Husbands who cheat seem to enjoy making lies up as if they were almost forced into that kind of relationship, and the wife will believe it sometimes.  

I agree the husband is the one who is at fault almost 100% as they are the one who said they would be committed and until death do you part, and all that.  The other woman never promised anything to the wife, and your right there are many who don't even know until it's too late.  In court a judge will tell you the same thing, especially if you did something nasty to the other woman.      

Answer 10

it's easier to get mad at a stranger than it is to get mad at someone you love.  Getting mad at her husband means the wife has to accept that he broke their wedding vows and that he deliberately hurt her--and that can be hard for someone to face.

it's just another example of misplaced anger.

like children hating a step-parent for no reason other than she/he represents that their parents will not get back together.   Instead of being angry at the parents for splitting up, it's easier to be angry at the "outsider" than it is to be angry at someone you are dependent on.

Answer 11

In situations like that it is probably the wive's fault he's cheating in the first place.  And she knows it, so she can't get mad at her husband.  Stop denying s*x, bitching, nagging, telling him what to do and spending his money and he won't cheat on you.

And women cheat, too.  Stop being sexist.

Answer 12

I am mad at the husband and the other woman.  I am mad at the husband because he broke the vow and wasn't man enough to communicate his feeling before he strayed.  I am mad at the other woman because she is a wife and a mother herself, how can she do it to another woman (wife and mother).

Answer 13

Women have no reason to get mad at their husbands for cheating cause if they wouldn't deny him s*x he wouldn't had to look elsewhere.