Why do wives want foot, back, neck, and leg massages every night but act like it's so much work to give a bj?

Question

Val - you're right, that is definitely her.

Answer 1

I would love to get massages I wasn't even aware that you could exchange them for bj's.  Feet too?  I think I need to have a talk with my husband!

Answer 2

LOL!  That's funny!  I don't because thank God my husband doesn't care for them.  I know he's not a normal man because this is all men want but it sure does save me the sore jaw in the morning.

Answer 3

Not all women are like that, but the ones that are like that are just selfish.

Answer 4

Wow Mammal... You still can't get any? That sucks... No pun intended ;)

Answer 5

Maybe because when you are massaging  her neck it won't shoot come all over your face?  LOL!  Seriously though, I'm in the same boat with you bro...my wife wants all kinds of special attention and I haven't had a BJ in 5 freakin' years!

Hope one of us gets one soon.

Answer 6

Because I'm asking you to rub me after a long day, not l**k my private part. Both are 2 very different things.

Answer 7

No.

Thats just YOUR wife.

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel.  What's funny is when she does agree to return the favor she makes sure I go first and give her massages, then when it's her turn she's now to relaxed...funny how that works.

Answer 9

Ha ha ha...lol..funny..I think that she just needs to unleash her wild side..you have the key for that door..so use it.

Answer 10

Ummm....in my house it is the other way around...

Why does my hubby act like it is so much work to give me a shoulder massage..even when I will give him BJs or ANYTHING he wants!!??????

Answer 11

They only care about themselves.  You are just a meal ticket to them...they were done with that stuff the day you were dumb enough to say I DO.  

Answer 12

If my husband gave me a massage daily, I would gladly give a bj...totally fair.

Answer 13

because back rubs don't make you gag, puke, or leave a horrible after taste.  

Answer 14

Dang...I'd do it...sounds like a good trade off to me.  

Answer 15

Its just as much work to get things out of men that don't want to do it... as it is women....

I personally feel like its pulling teeth to get a back rub or a foot massage... so I now see a massage therapist once a month as a treat for working hard and doing all that I do. I offer a bj any time my husband wants one, but sometimes he doesn't even want that... I also rub his feet or his neck or his shoulders when hes had a stressful day... which lately has been about every day. He enjoys it, and I no longer have to beg. I just go get one done and feel great!  

Answer 16

I wasn't aware women (wives or not) wanted massages of any kind every night...but really that is irrelevant.

A lot of women don't care for bIowjobs because they find the idea of putting the organ you urinate from, into their mouth, to be repulsive. They may also fear you will climax in their mouth and let's face it...s***n isn't really tasty (although some is worse than others).

You are comparing apples and oranges when you compare a body massage to oral s*x. However, the best way to get beyond that with your partner is to talk about it. Maybe start by wearing a condom and have her do it over that (better than nothing). Perhaps some flavored body oil/lube so it won't taste bad to her. Make sure you keep yourself clean down there and neatly trimmed or shaved. Help make it as appealing as possible if she doesn't want to visit there, so she won't find it such a turnoff.

Plenty of women don't mind or actually enjoy giving oral to their partner...but it's not a requirement. Intimacy and s*x should be pleasurable for all involved. No one should feel coerced or forced into an act or position they don't like, just because it's what their partner wants. Some amount of compromise is fine, but it shouldn't come to the point of being actually unenjoyable or gross for anyone.

Answer 17

Well, in my house 'if you give then you receive'. If he were to massage me then of course I'd pleasure him in return- it's only fair!

Answer 18

Not all woman are like that. But some woman do not favour bjs, maybe she is that type.

Answer 19

I do all that plus give a bj to my fiance sometimes two times a day. It is my duty to always make sure he has pleasure!

Answer 20

i would do it but i would want a jaw massage after lol

Answer 21

Not every woman is like that.