Why do women complain all the time about their men?

Question

Ok having played a little game for around 3 months with 6 men and their girlfriends we set about tidying up our little acts with regards to the things that our partners have been complaining about, monitoring our progress over beer as we go. What we all come to agree on is that all of our women must have grown up on some kind of Jane austen fantasy land where any mail just never is going to fit into the boots of Mr Darcy.

Having taken each of their complaints one by one and noting them down we set about resolving them for great periods of time but found a pattern that one complaint would be switched for another alternate, for example:

Complaint about never loading the dishwasher would be switched for not loading the dishwasher right and then further switched for not unloading it, again repeated further on down the line about not running the self cleaning program after periods.

This pattern emerged in all 7 of us, finding that the level of "nagging" as we call it generally lowered but the amount of subject nagged about remained at a constant. All of us generally admit it would be impossible to keep this up over a period of let's say our whole life but we still don't have the answers of why other than the comical answer that Jane Austen style picture of the perfect man leads them to dissapointment, expressed only by their complaining ;-p

Your answers to pass to our international convention are warmly accepted (international convention = pub friday nights in Berlin if you interested hehe)

Answer 1

I don't suppose it's possible that while you see the issues "switching" it couldn't be that if you had taken interest the first time you saw her do it, that she wouldn't have to keep "nagging" you about every single  individual aspect of running the machine?

I can see why you'd think it would be nagging, but I also know how irritating it is, when someone does something in the house (or yard) that YOU usually have to do, b/c THEY won't get off their a*se to do it, and Every. Single. Aspect. of the job needs DIRECTING. You know how it is!! You get to the point where you think "stuff it, I'll do it MYSELF!!"

Somehow, I suspect there's a bit of THAT going on too. I reckon she's probably told you dozens of times what the ENTIRE job of using the machine actually entails, and you're so BORED listening to it, that you switch off. She in turn, gets pi**ed off, b/c you "never listen", and so the story goes on and on and on! She "nags" you; you"never listen" and meanwhile a plague of rats have rented out the cutlery rack in the dishwasher.

Answer 2

It seems to me like the complaints you list are too specific to be resolved. The bigger picture is surely that the women want their men to do more housework without being asked...

Answer 3

because they have not boned up on their maths and science!

Answer 4

Why do men complain all the time about their women?

Answer 5

It's the mothering instincts.

These women need a bunch of kids to direct.

Answer 6

Women's faults are many

Men have only two

Everything they say

And everything they do

Answer 7

Stereotypical question:

-you can't know all women-

-women can't complain all the time: we have to sleep hon

-you're complaining right now, about women

-some of us actually like our guys and don't complain about them-maybe the rest of you being complained about could get a clue?

Answer 8

Rant.

You are complaining about complaining, fool.

Answer 9

Very interesting. I like your experiment.

You will realize however, like I did a while back, that there is no solution. It sucks, yet it's the truth. Men will always complain about their women, and women will always complain about their men. Why? because humans naturally tend to complain. That's just the way life is.

Let's not worry about *why* this is. What's more interesting, is how to cope with it.

That question, also does not have a definitive answer, though you could tailor a custom answer that suits your personal needs. Whatever the solution is, it must be something that acknowledges that your woman will nag you, and that from her perspective, you are also "nagging" her and annoying her with all the "little" things you do or don't do.

This is natural human behavior. Think about it. Humans have troubles getting along with themselves for christ's sake ... how are they fully going to get along with yet another person?? Simple answer: they will never do that 100%.

So, find ways to make that not matter to you. Pick up hobbies, learn new things, learn psychology and NLP and self-mind control so that you can develop the will-power of not caring about your womans' nagging. I would be telling her the same thing as well.

It sucks, I know ... you want to find that golden answer that will make your relationship the *perfect* one. That's just not going to happen, and that's OK.

Remember, the best study of life is how it is, not how we want it to be.

Answer 10

One of the biggest reasons girls nights out aren't always fun, I don't like sitting around a table drinking beer listening to my female friends complain about the men in their lives.  They need to make more money but then their not home enough, they don't do enough housework but when they do they do it wrong, they don't talk but when they say something it's insensitive.....the list goes on and on.  And of course if I were to say "If your so unhappy leave" then I turn into someone who doesn't know what it is to fight for a relationship. or I'm a pessisimist etc. etc. etc.

Answer 11

My woman doesn't complain about me.

I would condemn you, but i see you mean well, and corrected yourself in an edit.

If my woman complained about me all the time i'd be a little offended, since i do not speak ill of her to anyone, she has flaws, i just dont broadcast them to my friends.

Answer 12

I don't know the answer to your question, but it sounds like you hit on a good excuse to get together with your drinking buddy's to discuss your wives complaining problem.  :)