Why do women consider virginity to be a special thing?

Question

Why do women consider virginity to be a special thing? Men view the LOSS of their virginity as a special thing because it means that they’ve done/experienced/accomplished something new, something that they’ve been wanting to do. Most things that people feel proud of or good about are things that they have done, not things that they HAVEN’T done. (For example, people feel proud that they DID run a marathon, or they DID perform in a play or they DID travel Europe.) People usually feel good about having NOT done something if the thing in question is bad (for example, people might be proud that they’ve never smoked crack). So do women view s*x as a bad thing? If so, why? And if s*x is only bad when it’s for the first and they lose their virginity, then what is so special about being a virgin?

Answer 1

R E L I G I O N

Answer 2

Well, there's something enchanting for men to take the virginity of a young woman that's unparalleled.  Also, the virginal woman will often have a tighter vaginal vault, thus offering the male greater pleasure.  This is consistent with evolutionary theory.

Answer 3

Because you're a 'better' person if you haven't had s*x - esp if you're religious. You've resisted temptation, just like resisting the temptation to steal or eat too much cake :P

Answer 4

Because of societal traditions, I am a 20-yr old virgin & plan to stay that way until my wedding night. It is a personal choice that I made & I have succeeded so far, I realise that it's not for everyone though & that it is indeed difficult, but anything is possible if you put your mind to it.

Answer 5

Women sell s*x and men buy it. So s*x essentially is a commodity goverened by demand and supply rules.

Women think they will have more power with them if they withhold s*x and hence are able to sell it at higher price.

Men on other hand want abundance of s*x so that net price of s*x comes down.

s*x is thus traded like any other commodity in market.

Answer 6

I didn't lose my virginity till I was 35, quite frankly I wish I got it back, as I didn't find s*x all that enjoyable. Yes, I was proud of my virginity, it was something I cherished.  

Answer 7

I suspect because it shows fortitude in having resisted temptation and peer pressure and, for young people, there is a lot of temptation and peer pressure in the world. It's a bit like having the discipline to quit smoking or lose weight and actually go and do those things. It takes some strength of character.

And...let's face it...it's a lot easier for young women to have s*x if and when they choose than young men.

Answer 8

It depends on the women. Not trying to be stereotypical but most guys think having s*x is like the top priority  in a man's life. Some women think doing it,  just because their sexually attracted to someone is wrong. Some don't care. Virginity is important to some women because they don't just wanna give it out to some sleazy guy who they had a one night stand with.

Answer 9

A virgin man is a special thing because he doens't believe that he has to prove manhood ... but rather he is a man by respecting himself, and the women he dates.

Answer 10

Cause it hurts(physically) so you might as well do it with someone you like, or someone who's good at it.

Answer 11

It shows that you are willing to wait for someone special. I'm still a virgin and I think it is special. Why shouldn't someone be proud to still be a virgin? I don't agree with what you have said here.

Answer 12

It's probably because society tells them they need to be virgin.

I don't know, I never put much thought into it.. It's never really concerned me..

I had only slept with one person before my fiance, and I sometimes wish it was something I had only done with him... but, it's not a huge deal to me either way.

Answer 13

This is a generalization...I felt the same way as you described men as feeling about it.  I wanted the pressure off my chest, wanted to know what it was like, wanted to feel like an adult.  I didn't do it for love or acceptance...I just wanted the experience.  I didn't feel guilty like I'd committed the ultimate sin either, it just felt like I reached a cornerstone in my maturity.

Answer 14

I suspect it's because it's usually easier for women to go get laid if they really wanted to. Guys are typically seen to have "accomplished" something by getting into a girl's pants. He's broken a barrier and he takes pride in that.

They say the only reason guys get s*x is because women give it to them.  Make sense?

Answer 15

Historically in some cultures it has been an essential, to the point of a bride having to provide proof after her marriage night.  Men must still think its important since its a pornography subject quite often.

For myself...I really don't remember.

Answer 16

It's all about effort.

It's much more difficult for a man to lose his virginity with a willing partner. He has to work hard at convincing a woman to become said willing partner, thereby doing so is viewed as an accomplishment.

Whereas a woman can find a willing partner any time she wants, so it's easy for her. Keeping her virginity by fending off all said willing partners is viewed as an accomplishment.

Answer 17

Because men pace such value on "their " women being virgins. In some cultures a woman can be killed for losing her virginity outside of marriage, even if they were raped.

Answer 18

Because virginity should be special and held until marriage that goes for both men and women.

The promisuous culture we have has provided nothing sexually healthy. Things that are perverted and wrong are not just openly discussed but I hear you can join groups that cater to such vile behavior.

Bieng sexually active is not something to brag about. There are too many diseases and fatherless children out there.

Answer 19

Well i would have to say it is a special thing to me

because out of all the wrong things i've done, i can still

say that i have a bit of innocence left within me. And that one bit of innocence is all i have. Some people are religious and are raised to believe that it is only right to have s*x when you are married to the one you love. While others look at it the whole oppisite way. Honestly i dont think women think that being a virgin is the best thing in the world, but it makes them feel good about themselves in the end to know that they lost it with a person in which they cared about. When you lose your virginity to some one you do not love, you are bound to regret it and it will stay with you throughout the rest of your life. And you wish that it would've never happened that way. So don't take it as women are virgins because its special, no it is because we do not want to feel the shame and regret at the end. And besides, it can probably make a woman feel dirty and shameful at the end.

Answer 20

Men value it in women more than women do.  

Answer 21

i am englisha nd this is definitely an american thing. where i am if you are a virgin over 16 everyone would think there is something up with you.

Answer 22

It shows that she's strong and able to resist temptation. Plus, it shows maturity since many women lose their virginity to a guy they think is "The One." A virgin's heart would only be given to the one guy. Also, no STDs.

Answer 23

I didn't know they did, anymore.  

Answer 24

I't snot the NOT doing something, it's the waiting. You will never know how unbelievably special and amazingly spiritual it is to know that you and that other person have ONLY been with eachother it's a magickal thing.