Why do women hate pre-nuptual agreements?

Question

seriously?

Answer 1

i have no idea.

but you know if a woman asked me a prenuptial agreement, i guess it would be kinda weird. does that happen. can women ask that.

but i guess it because some think you're gonna leave them and all men are snabs or something.

i guess it just has to do with trust.

but i aint got no clue

Answer 2

Because you are ruining their plan.

Answer 3

Because it means that they can't get half of everything the man owns even if they didn't have anything to do with him getting the stuff. You know the reason why women initiate around 3/4 of all divorces.

Answer 4

*prenuptial*

I cannot speak for all women, but I would not enter into a prenuptial agreement becasue I see it as preparation in the event that the marriage ends in divorce. I would not choose to marry someone who is already preparing for divorce before we are even married!. I would want somebody who is going into marriage with the preconceived notion that it will be for life, not the preconceived notion that well, just maybe, we might get divorced.

I know it seems silly to some people, but your mind is a very powerful thing, and if you mentally convince yourself that marriage is for life and constantly remind yourself of that, the odds are much better that you will stick with it even in the face of hardship. Whereas, if you prepare for divorce ahead of time...well, the term "self-fulfilling prophecy" was coined for a reason.

Answer 5

Because they think it means the man doesn't trust them.

Answer 6

Because they want it to be 50/50 incase they have children and wont have a place to go most of the time.To me,the woman needs to be as independent as the man in the house,that way if this c**p happens they both go their seperate ways.Whoever got the house and what ever else they paid for,that belongs to them.I know I will get some thumbs down on this,but I dont care.

Answer 7

because we get a shisty settlement unless its our money.

Answer 8

If you're a gold digger, it sucks because it closes the coffin on a big return, should something happen.

If you're an honest woman who is truly in love, you feel betrayed and insulted that your fiance thinks you're capable of sucking them dry.

Answer 9

because its greed and they want to show off to their friends...if i have money and my husband doesb't..you better believe that he would be signing the pre-nup..no questions ask..same as vice versa

Answer 10

They hate because they won't be able to get what they're "entitled" to. Or in other words, they're greedy, materialistic, and gold diggers

Answer 11

because it sounds very materilalistic !i sounds like its not a marriage that will last !i

Answer 12

Never quite understood pre nups, surely they can be appealled at court. Marriage is meant to be for life, surely when that contract brakes down everything else is irrelavant and what ever was agreed in love no longer counts.

Answer 13

I don't think it's just women that hate pre-nuptial agreements; men don't care for them either.  

Either way, I think it's ignorance.  Meaning, people that aren't in favor of them aren't fully aware of what they're actually about so they react unfavorably instead of stepping back and understanding them.  Instead, they "assume" they are simply implying an insult to their character (about money or distrust).  Which is often NOT the case.

Most people do pre-nups for "business reasons" and rarely personal.  Think about it....if it was personal and someone felt this way, why would they marry them anyway?  In some cases, a pre-nup can be looked at as unconditional love and respect for someone by wanting to protect them as well early on.  (They work for both parties; not just the one suggesting it.)  Let me clarify....

Pre-nups are typically done by people that are "older" (not right out of college), business minded, and understand it's merely a tool of self-protecting themselves from life's unexpected events....especially if they have things of "value" that they want ensured to remain in their assets or their families.  Things of value is subjective to everyone - it can be anything from family businesses, money, jewelry, furniture, frequent flyer miles, etc.  

Just stop to consider this:

I asked my ex-fiance to sign a pre-nup when we were engaged for these exact reasons.  He was very confused and upset until I explained it to him...

It had nothing to do with trust or his character; it had everything to do with protecting my family's businesses and properties we've had for generations that are very important to us.  (They didn't mean as much to him considering.)  My reason for doing so was because I am a realist....life throws unexpected things at us everyday.

In our case, had we ever divorced or I died unexpectedly, HE would be the executor of my will and assets legally.....NOT my family.  That said, he could have easily inherited parts of these things (depending if /when this ever happened in our lives).  And HAD he remarried, his new wife (and possible family) could have also ultimately "benefitted" from items my great-grandparents worked their lives for.  Fair or not...it's life and happens everyday to many people.  It was never about money; it was the principle of protecting the rest of my family (parents, siblings, etc.) from any such thing happening.

In that case, he had no problem because he understood and didn't feel he should benefit from that in anyway from my family...nor should his future...whatever it may hold.  Also because life is so unpredictable we have no way of knowing.

Furthermore, pre-nups can be written anyway and cover many items.  However, most of them are more "business contracts" relating to assets of the person and their family's lineage and assets moving forward with a marriage...i.e. they rarely just effect the 2 people's things at that time only.  

All said, it's lack of understanding why women (and men) hate them.  In addition, pre-nups can go both ways.  If either party has something they want to protect should an unforseen or planned event occur in life (as it often can), I would highly recommend having one.  There are also cases where the other half can benefit from having one...they forget these things.  

Lastly, you have to also understand what the laws of the state you're married in are and speak to a lawyer if you have any hestitations or questions.  They're actually wonderful to have the opposing party explain them to as well.  They are enforceable as long as the items spelled out w/in them are legal.

Answer 14

Because they're gold diggers. If you're really in love with someone, you'd have no problem agreeing to the pre-nup. I mean if i was a woman that i loved very dearly and she happened to be very rich, and wanted me to sign a prenup, I'd have no problem.

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Thumbs down? Don't be mad at the truth, you gold diggers and gold diggers in training.

Answer 15

i was with a guy for 10 years and i fed him, drove him to and from school, and while he was making $10 an hour at home depot, i drove him to and from work. i had his back. and in the end, he left me for some skeezer and he had the NERVE to act like i didn't to a lot for him. its funny how now that he's making nearly $50k a year, he acts like i didn't help him get to that point. if we had been married and had a prenup before all of that, when we divorced i wouldn't have been entitled to SQUAT. i will never sign a prenup. if i help a guy get to a position of power and money, i want what i am owed for having his back.