Why do women in relationship with family do housework tasks and moan about it each day, but keep doing them?

Question

If as woman we do the work and moan, but do it tomorrow and moan should it be one or the other?

I’ve seen women in my family circle who keep this up for more than15 years as their men and children ignore them....

That’s thousands of days of the same moaning and nagging, is it worth the energy?

Why do we do this?

Answer 1

Because it's our job to take care of our family and it important enough to us that we don't let our feelings get in the way of our personal responsibility.

Answer 2

I don't moan and nag about it, however I do laugh about the inordinate amount of laundry I must do each day. ( I have 6 children and I am still baffled by the amount of clothes they go through. lol)  It's just a part of daily life.

Why do I keep doing these tasks?  Because I have children who rely on me.

I can not let my children live in filth just because I find certain tasks to be unpleasant.  It's called being selfless and it's a good quality to have.

Edit: I'm sorry that misunderstood your question.

Aside from the usual bad day moaning, a person who is constantly complaining about tasks they must perform is obviously very discontent and I think they would be discontent no matter what job title they held or duties they were required to fulfill.

I agree, it is not only a waste of energy but a waste of ones life to live in a constant state of discontent.  

People often have such grandiose ideas of what life should be that they forget what life is.    Life is made up of grand adventures, quiet moments of pleasure, hysterical fits of laughter....cleaning up after these moments is an unavoidable  a part of life....it is life.  lol

Answer 3

yes it is wasted energy.  I not only clean my home cuz i have to but because it is a reflection upon me.  When a home is nasty and dirty it isn't the man who has to come up with reasons of why it is the woman so i don't moan and groan about it anymore because it is a reflection on who i am and what i am about. my home is clean and yes it really sucks to have to clean each and everyday but it is worth it when someone says wow your home is nice.  so yep it is alot of wasted energy if you look at it as a job instead of it as a compliment.

Answer 4

I dont know....im my house...if my mum stopped...no one would do it....the washing would pile up, the food would go mouldy, the bathroom would practically collapse under the weight of the old towels....basically she is forced to, cause my dad wont lift a finger..shes tried stopping before and thats what happened....thats probably why I like feminine guys now, they seem like they would be less controlling....and any guy expecting me to do anything more than 50% more of the housework would make me feel seriously threatened and undermined.....so I would hopefully never do more than 50%...but until guys agree to change....what can we do? if they wont do it, someone has to....thats why I would be soo choosy if I was to marry someone, I couldnt bear to be treated like my mum.

Answer 5

Because if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done. It's not worth living in filth to try to prove a point that hubby will never get anyway.

Answer 6

I do it hoping to get help from my husband or children maybe trying to get them to realize how much i do.  I keep doing it cause no one else does it.  My kids would actually break the vacuum cleaner so they would not  have to do anything.  Sleep on top of their covers so they wouldn't have to make the bed the next day, throw clean clothes on the floor so they wouldn't have to hang them up.  I did try to go "on strike"  but no one gave a sh** so about after a week i couldn't stand it any more,  I will continue to complain about it until the miracle happens.  Oh here is another one, tell them to take out the trash, ok, they don't so i sit the trash out in front of the door, they step over it and go on their merry way.  My husband has his own "room"  i don't touch it, it is so disgusting I keep waiting for a gremlin to run out & attack me i could have sworn i heard noises under the desk & couch.  My question is why are males  such lazy slobs?  If they do something it is half-***.  A vicious cycle.  

Answer 7

I don't do it looool

Answer 8

Because if the women didn't do the work,they and their children would be living in absolute tips and that's both disgusting and very unhygenic.

The men do not know whats good for them.And before I get complaints,I also know there are men who take on a womans role in the house while the woman works,or even men who have to work AND take care of the house and kids.

Answer 9

Women do this because many (not all) are bad at convincing people to help out. Nagging never really works. What's the old saying, "You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar"?  Treat this like the ultimate managerial job.  The best managers are able to keep their cool, relate the the ones being managed, and project a positive attitude even when frazzled. People tend to fall into line when you act this way, and housework is no exception. Also, I think that many women aren't really comfortable with other people doing the housework because they want it done exactly the way they would have done it. Such women need to take a step back, and realize that it's not the end of the world if the towels aren't folded as neatly, etc. Life's too short to be angry about dirty dishes and such.  

Answer 10

Are they SAHM's? - If so, then it is their "job" to do all the housework (which makes them equitable in the relationship [according to feminists]).  You know, that "job" where (according to feminists) you generate $140,000 dollar salary?

Answer 11

Because we don't want our families to live in a pig sty I guess. I try not to moan and complain but when you watch you kid toss his raper on your freshly vacuumed carpet, that is cause for war. Or when you husband cant put his dirty clothes in the laundry room right around the corner and just leaves them on your bedroom floor, its defiantly cause for a B**** session. I am sure we all go through the same things but all in all we enjoy taking care of our family and wouldnt trade it for anything.  

Answer 12

Because we need to get laid. Plain and simple.

Answer 13

If she is going to do the work then she should make it fun and easy on herself.

Cook what she likes, Get rid of any toys she doesn't like picking up (yes the kids will survive without so many toys) cut the laundry in half by not having so many clothes to wash. (7 days in a week means 7 outfits only for each person).  and so on.  :)

Answer 14

weird concept to me in our house if you say 'would you please do....?' then my husband will do anything. he irons, cooks, cleans, does night feeds for baby, looks after our baby so i can go out for a bit or go to sleep, cleans up etc.

my dad is the same just ask them once nicely and they will do whatever. the man obviously doesnt realy love his wife if he doesnt help i think he is just using her. how can anyone love you if you ask them to help you out and they say no? i cant really see it and i dont know why anyone stands for it. we do things for each other marriage and family life is a team effort.

Answer 15

if i didn't do it he wouldn't.(my husband) i'd rather be doing something else-we moan and groan to punish the ones who aren't helping us out!! I mean I don't want my house to look like c**p.

Answer 16

This I have observed in my own family circle as well as with friends, where women are constantly moaning about the housework that they do. lol

It makes no sense after five or more years if you are still going on and on about the thing, is it not best to save your energy

I recently broke up with a women who was like this, she moved in and almost immediately started this rubbish behaviour, would ever be in the kitchen and such even though I constantly ask her to come and sit and let us enjoy ourselves and each others company, she I believe had a compulsion

I just laugh when she went on and on about how much she had done, its infantile. lol

If you wanna do housework do it, I don’t need to hear

If you don’t wanna do it then don’t, I’m not bothered

Answer 17

If you have kids you can't exactly ditch them. Well I suppose you could but that would be awful.