Why do women not see or acknowledge what you do?

Question

Today, i've been told i don't do anything to help out around the house. And, in my mind, i'm wondering if she's thinking of the same husband? cause, i do laundry more than anyone in the house. I pickup the living room as i see it needs done, i straighten up the bathroom, clean OUR room the best i can, but she has so much clothes laying all over, it never looks clean. I clean our daughters room, maybe not as often as it needs it, but i'm the only one in 2 years that has ever cleaned that room. I do dishes, sweep kitchen floor, mop it when i'm really feeling ambitious, mow the lawn. But, she says i don't do ****, but maybe once a week. What do i say to that? i've made my arguements, but she'll point the one time i didnt do something and justify her arguement by that. it pisses me off, but what can i do. i hate to always let her be the one who's right. i'm not letting this go her way, cause i know i do stuff to help out, more than any other husband probably does. help me out people

Answer 1

That does sound like way more than most husbands do around the house!

Why don't you do an experiment? You drop all the jobs you normally do for a week and she will find out how much you actually do. Then the next week she drops all the jobs she does and you will find out how much she does. Then you can come to a fair decision about who should do what around the house.

That's the only way i can think of you both appreciating how much the other does around the house and realising that you have to work together.