Why do women say "nothing" when you ask them what's wrong?

Question

When there's obviously something wrong?

Answer 1

Because woman need for you to dig deeper to find out what is really wrong.  They need for you to keep asking until they feel they can open up to you.

Answer 2

That means we don't wanna tell U!!!

Answer 3

Because they're not ready to give you the answer you least expect.

Answer 4

either we think you already know, because its your fault, or, we dont wanna talk about it YET!

never to worry, it always comes out...

Answer 5

Because you wouldn't understand.

Answer 6

It's in their DNA. Instead of being up front with you, they would rather you be worried about what she's upset about. Just part of the game of life.

Answer 7

That's the reason, because it's hard for us to get the words out, usually we worry about your reaction, or don't want to get anything started. Sometimes we think you should know, or just want to avoid the problem all together. Sometimes it's easier for us to pretend like nothing is wrong then to face what really is wrong, so we say "nothing" to convince ourselves as well.

Answer 8

Because the woman thinks you should already know.  Stop and think for a minute.  It probably won't take you too long to figure it out.  If you can't, ask her again later when she's not as upset.

Answer 9

Because you should already know. And they'd like you to think about it.

Answer 10

because men don't want to take the time to turn off the tv and actually listen to what is really bothering them..

women like to just go on and on about something, and men like to discuss something once and thats it, water under the bridge.

Answer 11

some of us expect you guys to be mind readers and figure it out yourself.  i mean, sometimes it is quite obvious what is wrong,  something YOU did. lol  

but, seriously, sometimes women say nothing because they haven't yet words to describe how they are feeling.  most of the time we need to process the situation, most times with another female and talk it thru til we can understand our own feelings on an issue.  we don't want to be ugly with you.  we want to be clear and concise with you.  or, we want you to know we are insulted or hurt or pissed off but we want you to say, look, i know something is going on, it is just that i am clueless at the moment and i need you to explain to me how things got to where they are ...

Answer 12

because we kinda want you to know whats wrong with us, and instead of pinching it out of us, comfort us

it sounds daft because no1 can mind read, but everyone needs time to sulk! womens sulking time is when they annoy the h**l out of men for not knowing whats wrong

in the end... it doesnt matter to us whats wrong, as long as its not too serious, all we want is comfort, to be told its alright and believe it or not... an apology! (if the huff is your doing)

Answer 13

Men are the same way, but instead they just walk away. When you are upset the first reaction is to sit for awhile and cool down. Just take this as her saying I don't want to talk about it right now. Instead what you should do is tell her if you want to talk just tell me so. Then let her be. No one likes to have information pried out of them.

Answer 14

because if its obvious you should already know why should we tell you if you can see it for yourself!!!!!!!

Answer 15

Harve....who cares?

If you're keen enough to detect a problem and when you ask you get 'nothing' then let it go.

If she won't communicate that problem to you it's not up to you to pull teeth for an answer. You asked so the ball is in her court. I hate playing games like that and have refused to do so in my marriage. And know what? To this day I never, ever get a 'nothing'. If there's a problem the wife speaks right out and vice-versa.

Answer 16

Beat them to their own game. Next time she asks the question say "nothing".

Next time when she says "nothing" tell her, "ok" i will trust you on this since trust is the basis of a good relationship and never ask her again "whats wrong". She will see the light if she has any brains.

Answer 17

When I say nothing this is what I am meaning.....

1. Why bother telling you because you don't give a **** anyways.

2. It won't change things , no sense in going there

3. just get the **** back right now

4. your a guy and you don't understand

Answer 18

Sometimes there is really nothing wrong and other times we don't feel that you will be able to commit to the time it would take to explain it and talk about it so it is just easier to say nothing.

If a man genuinely asks "what's the matter baby?" then I would feel inclined to discuss but if he's just asking to ask and doesn't put out the vibe that he really wants to know, then forget it.

EDIT:

I have never told a man that there was nothing wrong. Clearly he may see  that there may be something upsetting me. I have always said either," I don't wat to talk about right now" or "Ineed to gather some thoughts" or "It was a bad day at work and I need some to to unwind and let go of the day".

I have always provided some type of answer other than "nothing" even though I might not be ready to talk.

Answer 19

We just don't want to tell you cause you'll explode.

Answer 20

Because most of the time you aren't really going to listen to them anyway. So instead of saying what is wrong we say nothing.

Answer 21

no, it isn't easier to tell you, cuz really, we know it won't change, we know you probably don't want to hear it, or won't admit it's a problem or will minimize it, or we don't want to hurt your feelings by saying anything, so we're just better at dealing with the things that hurt, or bother us, as they will pass.  

Answer 22

We're planning our next move!!!

Answer 23

For me... it's usually because 1) I'm upset about something stupid, not worth really being upset about, or 2) I'm upset about something that would upset you if I told you about it. So... I respond "nothing" when you ask me what's wrong. If I really want to tell you, I'll stomp around upset until I work up the courage to bare my soul. If it's really something stupid, or if it will just upset you, I'm going to keep my mouth shut. Just give me a few minutes, a few hours, or maybe a day - I'll work through it and get over it.

Answer 24

Harve some women need some time to get their thoughts to match with the emotions and at times it is very hard for them to say what is wrong.  Give them time to get their thoughts together and eventually she will tell ya.

Answer 25

I have to give kudo's to michael T and Quasimoto. You two are right on in your observations and comments..

Women sometimes just say never mind because it is something said or done thoughtlessly by their men. A lot of times we know you guys don't really want to know, other times we tend to believe you do know because it is such a big deal to us.

Sometimes the sulk is to lessen the blow on a make it break it issue because if we said right at that moment what was wrong, the way we said it could be way too destructive.

When anyone is really angry or hurt and they haven't been able to collect thier thoughts or take a breath and calm down a bit.. you don't want the uncensored version..thats when we s***w up and say things we can't take back.

Just getting froggy and leaping is often what gets you guys the silent treatment, you get annoyed and say/do something, thoughtless or worse, just ignore us.., whatever your personal reaction to tension or discord is....

Then we get quiet and get that..Look...and say "nothing".

There are so many reasons.. sometimes just to make you sweat.. and you guys do the same only it is the cold shoulder or the yes dear condesension....

When I do it, it is usually because I have to choose my words, otherwise I make an *** out of myself and say some really harsh things that are intentionally hurtful because I am still raw from whatever the problem is.

Sulking in silence makes me feel like an idiot so I try to avoid  it as much as possible. I ask for time to mull it over.. I don't say nothing....

my own standard line is, I am not fit for this conversation right now and nothing good can come of it....so can we just wait a bit until I am or we are calmer and make time to talk it out.

I don't mean weeks or days.. I mean time to collect myself.. the sulking/pouting for days thing is repulsive and unhealthy in either s*x.. and yeah both sexes do it, we just have diffferent styles.

Answer 26

when I say that to my husband..it is because I am so angry with him I have temporarily lost respect for him enough to share my feelings. If he does something really boneheaded for the second time and tramples my feelings...it seems to me it should be obvious what is wrong..so that when he asks what is wrong I think he is just trying to get me to speak to him again....in my case its better if he leaves me alone until I am calm enough to speak to him again....couple hours.