Why do women say that good guys just need to be patient and that women will eventually appreciate them?

Question

Maybe the good guy doesn't want those women and all of the baggage they've accumulated from their "bad boy" adventures. Maybe he doesn't want a psychotic ex-boyfriend/ex-husband skulking around.

Why not just skip the drama and date/marry the good guy the first time around?

Answer 1

Good guy is often a euphemism for a low-self esteem pushover.  On one hand it is probably desirable to have some "good" qualities.  On the other hand, you make yourself an easy target for being manipulated, cheated, etc if you are too "good", and women do not want someone that is easily pushed around, unless they are after something else like money or status.

Answer 2

You're absolutely correct.

I've never really had a girlfriend before, but once I had a chance to date a girl. However, that chance was lost when she suspected me of having evil and sinister motives:

All I did was ask some questions on the subject of her sexual history (it's important to know due to the fact that I want a virgin). Then she accused me of having an agenda, meaning that I wanted to use her just for s*x then leave, which is absolutely not the case.

Frankly, I'm glad that I've made the choice to never date non-virgins and to remain a virgin myself until I meet my special girl (which I believe will happen someday in the future). That way, I won't have to deal with being accused of evil or sinister motives, nor will I have to deal with an inferiority complex invoked by being the girl's last choice after she dated other guys that were more "dangerous" but had aloof and arrogant personalities, nor will I have to deal with anger and resentment for the same reason.

Answer 3

because like men we have to mature and learn our lessons the hard way - thats why :)

Answer 4

Appreciation is a tricky thing.  What you think is appreciation I might think of as something different.  Therefore, if I tell a man that being patient will pay off in the appreciation department, then that might be so in my mind, but it might never be so in his.

Relationships are tricky.  When a girl has a nice guy, now and again we want the bad boy.  When we have the bad boy, we want a nicer guy.  It's all very confusing, but somehow we get through it.  Don't ask me how--it's a constant battle, I think! :-)