Why do women say they want girls but wind up treating their sons better?

Question

and why do men say they want boys then wind up treating their daughters better? My ex-wife and I have a son and a daughter together. When she first got pregnant she begged God for a girl but she spoils our son rotten and she's a lot stricter with our daughter. Why is that?

Answer 1

Thats b/c your wife doesn't know what boys like or need to be raised well so they just givve him whatever he wants. and every mother wants a girl so they can dress her up really cute and just have girly fun but she knows what a girl needs b/c she is one

Answer 2

women expect girls to act a certain way and don't think its cute when they are naughty.But they don't hold boys to the same standards.And as a result are more balanced in raising boys.And all that making a girl a lady and telling her things like men won't like you if you do this or that is the worst thing for a girl.A girl should know she only needs herself and can be independent w/o need for a man.That is the proper form of rearing a girl child.Also teach her dignity and self respect and restraint yes but don't apply it to her catching a man cause she will grow up thinking she is worthless w/o a man and will let men run over her and use her before she sees the light.Anyhow I think many women are also jealous of little girls.Its the worst thing for a girl when her mother is mean to her.It really lowers the girls self esteem.It is not good.And I wish that mothers would look at their kids with selfless love and devotion.

Answer 3

It all depends on the mother . I treat my kids equally they both have equal chores and responsibilities as well as privileges. I also buy them both  something . I cant just go to the store and buy one something and the other nothing  .  I  want both of my kids to  grow up and be good adults as well as independent . I want my daugther to know that she can depend on herself as a women that she should always have respect and dignity for herself . I want my son as a man to know that a real man not only provides for his family but  protects, respect his household to succeed.

Answer 4

We have not got a clue as to what your wife think' in her own mind. Have you considered asking her this question?

Answer 5

4 the fun of it ask a psycology major this ? just to hear all the complexes and theorys to explain this. As a woman with a son i think woman want girls to dress up, shop with, teach all the girly stuff too, kinda a companionship thing. same 4 men. they want to play bal talk about girls kinda make there son the perfect version of himself. To explain momas boys and daddys girls I thik it is a set the tone jealousy thing. We r subcontously teaching our opposite s*x child that we love them way more than any oher lady or man (when they become dating age) will. Its kinda like getting a head start on the competition. It might have a little to do with our natural male female love and attraction. If u think about it the relationship between daddy and little girl is the same as a relationship without the s*x.

Answer 6

Because it'll always be daddy's little girl and mummy's boy. Girls get more independent earlier on and boys still want mummy to look after them when they're 30 so mum feels needed and dad gets frustrated cos she should be looking after him. Your wife is probably stricter on your daughter cos girls stand to lose a lot more from going off the rails (pregnancy for example) and she's trying to protect her, old cliche I know but boys will always be seen as able to do what they want whereas girls must be raised to be ladies. As for wanting girls, we say that cos baby girls are cute and can wear frilly dresses, all good till they grow up and get bitchy.