Why do women so often date jerks?

Question

Why do women seem to go for the exact opposite man then what they claim they are looking for? a man with no respect for women? I'm not saying all women do this.

Answer 1

Sometimes the guys who think they are not jerks are actually really creepy.  They're the ones who say they want to treat a woman right, get to know her, etc.  Then, you find out they really want to be with effing miss perfection the beautiful, flawless virgin princess.  I prefer a jerky guy who doesn't care about my sometimes crazy personality, excessive drinking, and past sluttiness.

Answer 2

I don't.

I think some women have low self esteem and don't think they deserve any better.  Some are shallow and are just looking for someone "hot". Some think they can "change" him.  And Some think, "he has a good heart, I'm just the only person he ever shows.. aw aren't I special"

I think they all eventually realize they were wrong.

Answer 3

The good guys are unexciting even though they will be the faithful ones throughout the marriage.Even women need the smell of sulphur occasionally.

Answer 4

I don't know how often this is, because to be fair, people are more like to talk about things that are going wrong than about things that are going right. I've probably had about as many women friends in good relationships as in bad, but have heard way more about the bad ones because when my friends are happy with their partners they rarely call me up to confide.

Having said this, I've often wondered myself, when I am in unhealthy relationships with "jerks", why I was in them. It mostly has to do with self-worth. These jerks usually begin as nice people and as the relationship deteriorates so does your self-worth. You begin to believe the person who treats you like you're not worth much and you feel that this is the best you can do.

Since no one is a jerk 100% of the time, you cling to the good moments to redeem the relationship, and because it's hard to accept that you would willingly allow yourself to be treated this way, you rationalize and excuse the behaviour.

Once you are in the cycle, you also develop a certain amount of attachment, which makes it quite difficult to end it.

Answer 5

iv not been out with a guy with on respect for women but i have been out with guys whom i have NOTHING in common with and im like:

"how the FUKKK did i get with u???

Then i realised they seemd like nice people when i was drunk

and when ur in a dark nightclub they look better too!

Its only in the light of day that all is revealed !!

thats my reasons anyway

Ill never make those mistakes again

(i hope)

Answer 6

they have little self steem and feel cant do any better

Answer 7

There are two reasons why a woman would date a jerk:

1. He is nice to look at

2. He is well-endowed

That's all I can think of really...

Answer 8

"Jerks" usually have an exciting attitude, they take risks, generally have less fear, and often like to have fun. The ones with no respect for women get attention because many females want to understand *why* or think they can change him...  

Answer 9

Thats a question that could take hours to explain.I personally have clashed horns with my share of jerks.I grew up,got smart and got tuff.I don't put up with them anymore.(lol)Course I've been called a few choice names in my time but ok.Some one didn't get their way.lol.Some of them fake loyalty till they get what they want then run.When I see a jerk get attached to a 'jerk'ette I gotta laugh.Got what they deserve.

Answer 10

Here we go again- stereotype busters.

Every woman on here will say " I don't". " I DON'T!" " I don't know about the women you're talking about but all I kow is I DON'T!!"  .. However on the next question we'll see them give their insights on 'how men are such jerks in relationships'. 'Why men are such a*holes in marriages'.  'Why men cheat, and lie in relationships'.

Answer 11

"Bird of a feather flock together."  They obviously have some things in common.  Are you saying women can't be jerks too?