Why do women think first date at starbucks or is cheap ?

Question

I mean it's a first date, yall don't even know each other, why do MOST women expect bigger than stuff like Starbucks or put-put golf. Nobody should be going to restaurants or theme parks or any that involve good money on a first date. Yes guys pay for first date, just don't go overboard. Impress with ya personality not ya wallet guys. What do ya think ?

Answer 1

i prefer going on dates to mcdonalds. i did when i was dating

Answer 2

Because first impressions speak volumes.

If youre going out for a casual meeting, starbucks is fine.  For a date, its not a good environment.  Its the equivalent of a daytime bar-- it's expedient and substance induced (in this case caffeine).  On a date, you want to get to know the person, and a settled atmosphere (ie. restaurant) is more inviting.  Starbucks or Put Put Golf entails clamoring for seats or waiting in lines.  While I don't mind those annoyances when I'm with friends or comfort people, on a first date its distracting.

Answer 3

Well i've never taken any of them to starbucks...then again i'm not cheap either..

Answer 4

starbucks and put put sounds great to me...dont have to dish out money to have a good time

Answer 5

I don't think there's anything wrong with going to Starbuck's on a first date.  If some gold-digger doesn't like that, then you don't need her.

Answer 6

I actually went on a date at Starbucks last week, the guy even bought me dessert, we're going out for Cuban food next week so....We're just getting to know each other, no not cheap at all.

Answer 7

I don't casually date and I don't think I'd want one in a coffee shop. He could at least take me to McDonalds.

Answer 8

Anything beyond that is too much for a first date.

Answer 9

I'm kind of confused.  I think Starbucks or a game of mini golf are great places for a first date.  They may not be EXPENSIVE but it is a good chance to get to know someone.  If the coffee or game of golf goes well, you can always invite someone out for dinner.  It's a great way to get to know someone without spending a ton of money or making a large time commitment.  After all, a first date is just a first date.  Who knows?  If a larger commitment of time is made, you may be spending four hours with someone who COMPLETELY annoys you.

Answer 10

That's cool with me, especially since I'm not a drinker of booze anymore.

I don't think it's cheap. h**l, $4 a coffee?

I think it's a cool, neutral spot to see if there is a spark. You can always go someplace else after the coffee. Or just hang out and talk.

Answer 11

First dates are really about getting a feel for the other person, and like you suggest, should be casual and friendly, not serious and formal. I think most women would agree with you. Any girl that might expect something more extravagant on a first date doesn't sound like your type anyway.

Answer 12

If I hardly know the person, I don't think there is anything wrong with going for a cup of coffe, but if you have known the person a while then you should already know if you can get along then something a little nicer would be fine.  I would never expect much on a first date, except if he asked me, I would expect him to pay - whether a cup of coffe or a nice dinner.  On the same token, if I asked him, I would not expect him to pay for me.

Answer 13

Dude, I don't like going on dinner dates with a woman on the first date because to me it is too intimate of a thing to do with a stranger. However, you don't want to look cheap or broke so take them somewhere else where you can show that you have resources you just don't want to eat with a stranger.  

Answer 14

I wouldn't think it was cheap... I've never been to Starbucks though. Maybe something like Common Grounds or Taylor Books or something, eh? If it's cozy and you have the option to buy a scone with your white chocolate frappuccino I'm sure it would be fine.

I personally loathe putt-putt golf so that'd probably be our last date. (Am I the only one? I think I am.)

Why not Applebees? Dinner there rarely costs more than 15 bucks. It's nice. Why not.

Answer 15

I wouldn't object to a first date that involves put-put golf and Starbucks.

I would just be happy to have a first date. lol

Answer 16

Starbucks is too commercial, take her to an arcade. You can both just use all your small change; it’s heaps of fun. That was the best date I’ve ever been on, or even just a picnic at a park. Both can bring their own food.

I’ve never been on a ‘date’ per se. My current boyfriend and I would just go out to a local pub and have a few beers, take turns in shouting each other. But by far the arcade was the most fun I have ever had, on a ‘date.’ I don't understand why you can't go halves in your date though? Most people I know just split the cheque.

Answer 17

Well starbucks and putt putt don't really seem ideal because of the fact starbucks doesn't really serve food and putt putt is full of screaming kids. I agree you shouldn't really go all out on a date that you hardly even know especially when it's possible it could bomb and you will never see them again and then you'll be out quite a bit of money but if you want to stay within a budget at least take her to a fast food place and a movie.

Answer 18

You didn't buy her a muffin to go with the latte, did you? :)

Answer 19

Actually going for a drink is a better first date, you can take turns paying and relax a bit, lose some shyness.

Answer 20

Starbucks make cr@p coffee, but if you like that sort of thing there's nothing wrong with going there on a first date, or any other date.

Going for a coffee is way better than getting hammered in some bar and waking up the next day knowing you made an idiot of yourself in front of someone who you could have liked.

Cheers :-)

Answer 21

honestly I think Starbucks is a perfect place. It shows you want to personally get to know her. It also shows a little bit about yourself. Also when you take a girl to a nice restaurant she also seems obligated to give something back sort of...(hard to explain) but she feels because you paid for a lot that she needs to go farther with you than she wants to. if you can understand that. (sorry about trying to explain it with out trying to be a complete freak) That is my opinion.