Why do women think that their appearance does not matter after marriage?

Question

I am not talking about 15 lbs here... try 40+ lbs...

Normal aging and weight gain is not what I am talking about... you know the people I refer too.. the ones you see after a few years absence and you are shocked at how bad and unhealthy they look...

Answer 1

I would like to know the same answer only referring to men. I notice that quite a few men get married then gain a bunch of weight and it's supposed to be alright. If their wife puts on some it's doomsday, but its ok for the man.  

Answer 2

Women gain a hundred pounds a year after marriage.....

Answer 3

The same reason men stop buying flowers, taking wife out on dates, and giving her all the attention he did before they were married.

Then have to make excuses when the wife discovers FTD and Guidio's Restaurant on the credit card bill.

Very same reason.

Answer 4

I have found in my research that 99% of married women are fat hogs. Yet, they fail to see their "hogitry". I think men should start putting their wives on food restrictions and I feel the Gov should support this. It would save the tax payers alot of money in health care issues.

Answer 5

I met my husband when I was 22 and a size 16.  I'm now 41 and 40 lbs lighter wearing a size 2-4.  I've become more muscular than I've ever been, and weigh what I did when I was 12.  I walk, I run, lift weights, and have even climbed a 65 foot wall.  Not all women gain weight.  But then, I did it for me... my husband followed my lead and lost as well.  Sadly, too many women do let themselves go but alot of it is because women are nurturers and put themselves last when in a relationship.  Now that she's newly divorced, she has time to put herself first.  I think women need to learn to find time to take care of themselves and discover that being healthy is a good first step to internal happiness.  Hopefully, she doesn't fall back into the same pattern with this new guy.

Answer 6

I want to be specific. Men run after women who caught up with the men. The chase being over, they (women) win, the trophy is in their fingers, they think that polishing the trophy as new contenders are veiled on stage is unnecessary and this is one of the pitfall.    

Answer 7

That's a pretty general statement that you made based on one conversation you overheard! I think most women (at least the one's I know) are very concerned about how they look after they get married. We want our husbands to think we are attractive, and feel good about ourselves too. I guess some people think the way the woman you know does, but I think probably more men than women do. You know, women care about what our husbands look like too. We all would hope that if something happened that we didn't have a lot of control over (like natural aging, some weight gain, an accident, etc.) that our spouses wouldn't split! After all they ARE supposed to be in it for better or for worse.

Answer 8

The question is not, "Why do women think that their appearance does not matter?", but "Why do guys get married knowing fully well that woman will grow older and they will no longer be satisfied?"

It is so narcissistic of you to think men are the center of the universe, as though the reason she put on weight was just to annoy her boyfriend. Women are better off without guys like you.

No, 99% of men do not dump their wives after they have gotten older. But following your reasoning, a woman could just as easily say she should be able to dump her husband if he has put on weight - as 99% of guys who are upset about their own wives' weigh have.

Medical science has no answer for why some people put on weight, which is hardly evidence that it is a moral failing of theirs.

When it comes down to it, this is just a matter of passing moral judgment on people you barely know, women in particular, because it boosts your own ego. You want to consider fat to be a moral issue, a sign of inferiority. It only reflects on you that you feel this way.

You can probably find a woman who agrees with you, too. But oops, what will you do if she gets fat?

Answer 9

I tryed to explain myself this.. I am a woman too, but I couldn't help noticing this "habbit" of married women. The explanation is..A woman's goal in life is getting married. In order to achieve that, she's sweet,acts nice, dresses nice, stays fit. Until she gets married. And after that.. they don't care of any of that .. you got married with them, you suffer the consequences. You just have to accept that, or else you don't love her anymore, you're a scumbag. If they get divorced.. they start again to hunt for marriage,, so they are more determined to do anything for that "goal", again. And then the story repeats itself  :). My goal is to be with my guy for another 50 happy years. So help me god :).  

Answer 10

Personally I always stayed in better shape when I was with someone, that's when I cared the most.

Answer 11

American women.  What do you expect, they have been liberated, they can do what they want and you just have to put up with it because they have choices and you have responsibilities.  It is BS!  

Thank goodness I married a Ukrainian woman.  Hasn't gained a kilo since we were married, (except when pregnant) 42 years old, 2 sons and looks better than American women half her age and wouldn't think of going outside the bedroom or bathroom without looking good.  She gets jaw dropping stares from men AND women of all ages wherever we go, never says "no" to s*x and is dressed attractively and has dinner ready when I get home from work.  She watches her weight, excerises, eats healthy and keeps herself looking super great...for ME and her.

Answer 12

cause it matters it matters to women tooif the men let themselves go cause it does you idiot!!!

Answer 13

What you're not understanding is that it's not just MEN who need to be attracted to their partner.  Some women get sick of their spouse, their marriage is going downhill, they couldn't really give 2 s**+ts anymore what the dude thinks . . . so they aren't going to be all "OOH I need to impress this man".  She probably freakin hated her husband.  That's why they're divorced.  Now she's interested in someone else & she's motivated to look better with the potential of a better life now.

Answer 14

More often it's the husband in the relationship who allows his physical appearance to diminish over time, most women are very vain and would never allow this to happen, with or without a man.