Why do women use their childre as pawns agains the father?

Question

i am not meaning that all women do. but why do thos who do? why do they do it?

Answer 1

I think it is sad any parent do this.  I've been divorced 12 years now, and me and my ex do not do this. Our children have full access to both of us and we chose to get along for the children's sake.  The only reason I can think of anyone using their children as pawns would be immaturity.

Answer 2

I am a woman who never chose that way of negotiation because I seen it as more of a punishment on the children and the only thing I come up with on the woman who do,is that's all they have to use against the man.I personally see it as a sign of weakness and bad mothering!!!

Answer 3

For exactly the same reasons as men use their children as pawns against the mother!!

Answer 4

not every woman, or man for that matter does that. some do and yes it's disgraceful but don't generalize everyone.

Answer 5

let me tell you this. my girl is 9 weeks pregnant and she is already using this child against me. she has broken up with me about three times and she knows i cant do anything about it because she has my child. if you are going through this i know how you feel. its the sense of them knowing they have something over you. just know that your not the only one going threw this.

Answer 6

like no fathers do that?

hey...i own property in malibu and am willing to sell it dirt cheap...interested?

Answer 7

People who do this hate their ex more than they love their children.  It's so sad.

Answer 8

This can be done by either the man or the woman. Most use the kids as leverage for money and such.

I think parents use their children during divorces to test their loyalty, which is really sad. My mother did it to my father too, saying that he thought we were crazy and that's why we went to a court-appointed shrink.

People are hurt, divorce sucks, and kids get stuck in the middle. It's sad, and hopefully the reason why anyone does this is because they are hurt. I wish they wouldn't do it at all, though.

Answer 9

coz theyre so desperate in their lives

Answer 10

The women that use this practice do it because the man left them either because he cheated or for some other reason.  The women is angry and she wants him to feel the same so she uses the kids to do this.  Its not the best choice but we have all heard about a women scorned right?

Answer 11

Because since you are the father you can not walk away from them so they use the children. You shouldn't walk away from your stupid actions anyways. I don't do that.

Answer 12

Good question.

I am talking to this guy at work he is a truck driver very nice guy happy all the time, great to talk to sweet as pie. his wife and him are getting a divorce they have 2 kids both daughters. the daughters LOVE and respect BOTH parents. now that they are getting divorced they split the kids up. he took one daughter the wife the other daughter. this was a month ago.

Now he has turned his daughter against her mom and she has turned her daughter against her dad. and both daughters now hate the other parent and they hate each other. so you see BOTH parents do it. it's a HUMAN problem NOT a gender one.

Why do they do it? different reasons. they just are so bitter towards the other one that you hurt me I will take away the only thing you care about YOUR KID. to me that is child abuse plain and simple how can we stop it? wish I knew. but it is done way too often and it makes me sick that they do this to an innocent child like that. God Bless

Answer 13

Women who do that can not see past their own bitter resentments. They are selfish and probably were not good Mothers from the beginning.

Answer 14

because they can, men have a different set of rules to play by, turn the other cheek and your long term game will beat hers.

Answer 15

Not all of us single parents do.  Please stop generalizing.

Answer 16

I don't know but women who do this should have their children taken away from them.

Answer 17

because children are like pawns, small in stature and you can move them easily if you push.

Answer 18

This is not limited to women. Immature people of both genders do this.