Why do women want men to be vunerable.....?

Question

So they can go for his jugular? Ladies how exactly is vulnerability and victimhood a good character trait? I understand kindness and sensitivity, so maybe it's just a semantic misunderstanding.

It's like asking an elite S.W.A.T. sniper to take off his Kevlar armour mid conflict so he can breathe a little bit better…. That's putting his life and his sternum at risk in a risk, in a world where unpredictability is predictable.

Can you explain?

Answer 1

Where the h**l do you guys get this stuff?

Answer 2

Wow. Never heard of that..

Answer 3

You sound a little paranoid.

Is there something you would like to share?

Answer 4

p***s Envy.

Answer 5

We don't.

"It's like asking an elite S.W.A.T. sniper to take off his Kevlar armour mid conflict so he can breathe a little bit better…. That's putting his life and his sternum at risk in a risk, in a world where unpredictability is predictable."

I really have to wonder what kind of relationships you have.

Answer 6

I thought it was men who wanted women to be vulnerable.

Answer 7

Um, I have no reason to want men to be vulnerable, I don't think. Unless they want to be.

Answer 8

No, we want them to be EMPATHETIC, and see women as HUMAN aka EQUALS...

Answer 9

I don’t think women are asking men to become “vulnerable”. I think women are asking men (such as yourself) to understand that there is nothing wrong with showing emotion and compassion towards the woman you care about. There’s nothing wrong with spending time with a woman of interest and doing some of the things she likes to do, or simply going to see a movie. It doesn’t make you weak or “whipped” when doing these things with someone that you hope to spend the rest of your life with.

Most men have a problem with showing compassion because it’s considered to be “unmanly” or in some cases “gay” for a man to do something that his peers would consider to be out of the norm. From what I’ve seen, it’s mostly men who have the problem with letting their guard down and letting someone in. They demonstrate a deep-rooted fear of being hurt by a woman if they let her see that he cares for her.

We don’t have to put up a false pretense for anyone. If we like you we like you. And most of us won’t be judge by someone (or judge ourselves) for admitting it. Men on the other hand (and don’t say this doesn’t happen) feel that in showing a woman he cares he’s making himself to “available” too her, and setting himself up for failure. As one of the users in here put it “I have to protect my assets”.

The only thing that most of us ask is that you be honest, don’t play games with our hearts, tell me how you feel (and show me you love me), trust me as I trust you, and render the same respect to me that you expect me to give to you (don’t do anything to me that you wouldn’t want me to do to you in return.) Honestly Walter, It’s really not that hard! I don’t see the problem with these simple things that most of us ask of you men. But then again, I am speaking form a woman’s perspective. So we’re not going to see eye to eye on issues of love, life, and relationships/commitment.