Why do women with babies think they have a special talent?

Question

I mean - reproduction is nature - not an acheivement.

Answer 1

HAHAHA.

I love you for this.

I hate obnoxious parents.

Grr...

Answer 2

Part of the problem is that the hormones produced during pregnancy , child birth and motherhood help a woman survive by creating a state of denial and oblivion.

Though these hormones are intended to allow her to survive the misery of child bearing , they can't help but spill over and effect other aspects of her mental function.

Though problematic in the side effects these hormones are essential.

Adrea Yates and Susan Smith are examples of what happens with out the "oblivion hormone."

Answer 3

omg amen to that well done you did a living poo do you want a medal, im on your team girl :P xx

Answer 4

:)  Yes, as a mother of 2, even I am annoyed by this.  Usually this is women who don't work and call themselves "full-time moms" and act like they are better than me, mother who is also an attorney and actually contributed to the family, both financially and emotionally.  Hmph.

Answer 5

Reproduction itself may not be an acheivement- raising them to be well-adjusted adults certainly is!  I can't see anything else in the world more important than that.

Having a child isn't the only great thing I have done in my life- There have been other things and there shall be more, But as she is the centre of my little world, who could blame me for being proud of her?  I don't think I have a special talent (well, not in regards to motherhood, anyway) but all parents do have something that people without children don't.  That doesn't make us better people, it just means that we have children.  To us, it is an acheivement- and to me it is, too-

There is something that changes within you when you become a parent- and if that comes across as being proud of yourself and of your child, everyone else just has to deal with it.

You obviously don't have children.

Edit: although I do agree that some are really obnoxious with it.

Answer 6

There's no special talent involved in having a baby. The real talent lies in caring for that baby in a responsible manner and not being so quick to push it off onto others because you want to hang out with your friends.

Answer 7

Everyone who has a baby thinks that theirs is special, as indeed it is.  But I'm not aware of anyone thinking that having babies is a talent, where did you get that impression?

Answer 8

Most women can have a baby, but it takes a REAL women to be a mother.  And it's not a talent it's a blessing.

Answer 9

Reproduction is not an achievement but raising your children to better themselves in a world like this is! So when a women raises a child(ren) and they show you respect and don't end up on the streets or doing drugs or other things that the children are doing today, yes that shows they are talented!

Answer 10

I don't think I have a special talent. Just a special experience!

Answer 11

I didn't know they did.

Answer 12

I don't know, but you're right, some do.  I had a very close friend who had a baby, and suddenly she seemed to feel that she was ever so much wiser than I was and could tell me how I ought to be living my life.  h**l, I'm not the one who got drunk, had a one-night-stand, and ended up knocked up and on welfare.

Answer 13

No idea what you are talking about. Anyone can have a baby. But there are very few of us that are actually good mothers. Talent has nothing to do with it. And I do not know anyone that thinks they are talented because they have children. It is obvious that you do not have children, and you sound a little bitter about that.

Answer 14

hmm....you can call it reproduction by nature or achievement....but we are all here by the grace of our mothers.....so I say....let's smile and thank them ....:)

Answer 15

You are right, I totally agree with you. They do misunderstand about their babies. Most of these mothers think that they have not achieved anything in their lives, but "my child could have something special".... Finally they will give their children lots of pressure. Something wrong in this society...

Answer 16

Having babies is nature, raising them is a skill. There's nothing wrong with showing that you love and are proud of your children. :)

Answer 17

I do not think that they think they do.  But I appreciate life and babies and sympathies with these women's sleepless nights.  Frankly I am calling the envy card on you.

Answer 18

Maybe they don't have a special talent, but they sure do work hard and sacrifice alot.

They are special as far as I'm concerned :)

Answer 19

I think it's more about that they feel proud to be a mother.  Fine, it is the hardest job in the world, more power to them.

Answer 20

While I do think we are overpopulated and that women focus far too much and too often on motherhood as their biggest contribution to the world, I have nothing against motherhood, per se. It is really beautiful and deserves honor and respect. I just think that, at this point in history,  women could be doing a lot more to help with the pressing challenges of the day than having babies. It's a sad fact that we are at this point.

To address the achievement point you made, I disagree. Thinking and inventing is also within our nature. Discovery, invention and childbearing/rearing all come from the combination of natural ability and hard work. I say this as a woman who has chosen childlessness so that I can contribute in a different, more currently needed, way. To say that a woman birthing and raising a child is not an accomplishment because the ability is natural denies the real work and sacrifice that goes into it. Under the same premise you could just as easily say that my Ph.D. or the books I've published and business I run aren't achievements because my brain gives me the natural ability to do these things.

I hope that makes it clear. Women shouldn't see childrearing as the pinnacle of their achievement in life, but the achievment that it is should not be denied either.

Answer 21

It's not a special talent to get pregnant or give birth, but it IS a special talent to raise a happy, well-adjusted child.

Answer 22

Women with babies can act that way due to the fact that they are mothers. Not everyone can be a mom, and I doubt your one of them.

Answer 23

For some women pregnancy and childbirth can be extremely debilitating. To go through all that willingly is definitely an achievement and I admire those women.

Chiquita you are talking out of your ****. Childbirth can be very painful, as can the recovery from childbirth or C-sections. Some women are left with permanent health problems. Half a million women die from childbirth annually.

Oh, and it hasn’t necessarily been men inventing anaesthetic drugs. The patent for using levobupivacaine for example, a safer anaesthetic to that used previously, was filed by a man and woman team.

http://www.freepatentsonline.com/EP08215...

Answer 24

Yeah, it's like they think they deserve to have their name burned into the moon or something.

Answer 25

yeah, but raising a child takes a lot of work and not everyone can do it. with an attitude like yours, i doubt you would be very good at selflessly dedicating your life to someone else.

Answer 26

They are only real women if they can be a proper and fit mother just as the only a real man when you can be a proper and fit father (given the opportunity).

Answer 27

Raising children is a very tough job and any benefit that a woman who takes her time to do it well should be allowed.  The workday is about 20 hours long, there are no weekends or holidays.  Every day is nearly the same and there is never a chance of a promotion and retirement.  Additionally there are no financial benefits only ever increasing costs. And if the job is done in its best form and function, there will be no comments.  However if raising the child into an adult is not successful, the parent in charge will be forever blamed.